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Friend annoyed with me because of Covid result

250 replies

FuckingFabulous · 01/08/2021 18:47

On Friday, my friend's DC and mine got together and spent a few hours hanging out playing a sport . We had a chat together when we collected our kids, then went our separate ways. On Saturday morning, my DH woke up dizzy, thought it was vestibular neuritis again, looked online for an OTC remedy and read a Harvard article about dizziness being a Covid symptom, so took a PCR. This morning, me and the DC did lat flows and mine had a very faint line. Texted the people we had been in contact with to give a cursory heads up. Took myself and DC for a test; while getting it, DH got his back positive. Immediately texted all people we were in contact with to let them know there was a positive in our household. This particular friend read the message and didn't respond, but immediately put up a Facebook post saying she was furious that someone she had been in contact with had Covid and put her CV self and her child at risk for a game of football rather than staying home and being safe and considerate, and if she dies she hopes they feel guilty for being such a selfish fucker.

Uh.

How do I respond to that?

OP posts:
TheGirlWhoWantedToBeGod · 02/08/2021 17:49

Jesus… the amount of blame, anger and emotions caused by potential or hypothetical exposure to covid.

Basically, unless someone’s had symptoms and/or received a positive covid test they are free to live as they please, go where they want, and see who they want. Anything beyond this has to be a risk we simply accept as part of living in society.

All this policing of potential contacts, blaming of individuals for transmission of a virus they don’t know they’re carrying is very Orwellian.

LauraPearl · 02/08/2021 17:53

FFS, surely she knows by now that one is infectious a few days BEFIRE the symptoms come out?? She expects YOU to be psychic and know before your symptoms come out, but SHE isn't able to predict that you had it either. She sounds like the kind of "friend" I'd be happy to delete & block!

Zotter · 02/08/2021 17:55

ShowMeTheSugar response is v good.

Pastrydame · 02/08/2021 18:12

She wouldn't have to isolate though would she? She was in contact with the OP, not the OP's dh; and I don't think OP has her PCR results back yet.

Overtired201984 · 02/08/2021 18:13

She’s a pathetic passive aggressive twat . I’d say seeeee ya !

PeachyPeachTrees · 02/08/2021 18:13

So worried that she went to the pub with a load of mates. Wow!

FunMcCool · 02/08/2021 18:23

Covid has turned people nuts on both sides of it.

PerciphonePuma · 02/08/2021 18:28

@FuckingFabulous Did you post that comment OP? I certainly hope so! How dare she imply that you were breaking the law and knowingly socialising with symptoms ie: spreading the virus! Unbelievable

Katiemole · 02/08/2021 18:34

I’d put all her families names forward to test and trace as close contacts 🙃

girlmom21 · 02/08/2021 18:37

@Katiemole

I’d put all her families names forward to test and trace as close contacts 🙃
That's a malicious report and they can fine up to £1000 per false report I believe
girlmom21 · 02/08/2021 18:38

@Debs0908

My DD age 12 tested positive and one of her friends fell out with her 🤦‍♀️ I was fuming and messaged the mum to say that her DD was being horrible to my DD and she said oh its just because she's worried she gets it and gives it to her Gran. I replied with keep her in then if it's such a worry .

Is your friend 12 too 😂 on a serious note I hope you are all OK. My DD is absolutely fine thank god

It's not unreasonable for a child to be scared of passing it on to a grandparent. You were a bit mean here.
Barmychick · 02/08/2021 18:54

please don't let this feral woman upset you too much and I hope you all feel better soon. As for this creature I totally blank people who think it's ok to behave like this. Treat her as pitiful .

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FuckingFabulous · 02/08/2021 19:05

I just said "oh dear, it is a worry! I hope your night out cheered you up a bit!"

Three people I don't even know angry reacted it after about twenty minutes so I assume she was talking shit about me to anyone who would listen.

She commented saying "yeah, thanks?!????"

I just said "I know what it's like to be surprised by Covid, given that my husband tested positive yesterday after feeling off colour on Saturday! We wouldn't have known a thing all week, even when you and I met up with the boys on Friday, we were saying then how many people are testing positive with no symptoms now! Wish I had a crystal ball! Hope you stay negative."

She deleted the post and sent me a message saying "I hope you don't think I was getting at you?"

Yes, I do very much, but I will leave that on read like you did when I messaged you letting you know

OP posts:
Ireolu · 02/08/2021 19:12

You have done nothing wrong. You had no symptoms. Covid is successful because so many people are asymptomatic before they start to show symptoms to transmit. She also came out and spent time with people outside her household. No one forced her. Ignore and I hope you and your family are ok.

Clutterbugsmum · 02/08/2021 19:22

She deleted the post and sent me a message saying "I hope you don't think I was getting at you?"

You should reply I don't think I know full well you are talking about me as do you.

Then give this 'friendship a break full while'

PerciphonePuma · 02/08/2021 19:28

@Clutterbugsmum

She deleted the post and sent me a message saying "I hope you don't think I was getting at you?"

You should reply I don't think I know full well you are talking about me as do you.

Then give this 'friendship a break full while'

For a while?! That friendship would be OVER for me
LoisLane66 · 02/08/2021 19:29

I'd not contact her again and if she contacted me at any time I would say 'Who is this?'
and if she says It's X you fool' or 'It's me', I would say 'Sorry, I don't know anyone of that name' Goodbye'.

DarlingFell · 02/08/2021 19:40

I would delete her from FB and never see her again. I don’t have time for wankers

isthisouting · 02/08/2021 20:01

What a tw%^! You absolutely did the right thing by letting her know as soon as you had symptoms. Ignore.

TalkingOutYerArse · 02/08/2021 20:13

Well done OP

Mooloolabababy · 02/08/2021 20:21

She's a prick op.

MrsEko · 02/08/2021 20:31

I don’t have time for wankers
I might embroider this on some napkins.

singleagain22 · 02/08/2021 20:47

She's absolutely batshit.

The decision to meet was 50/50 and you had no knowledge of covid lurking.

Don't dignify this with a response. Cut her off immediately and stonewall her from now on.

What an idiot.

Hope you all recover fine.

FrozenWillow · 02/08/2021 20:51

I would not dignify that with a response. Bees do not waste time telling flies that honey is better than shit.

Some friend! Cut contact.

Brindisi32 · 02/08/2021 21:02

You did nothing wrong, OP. Nicely handled too. Your 'friend' was trying to play to the gallery about her CV status, throwing you under the bus and then posting pub meet photos 🙄 What a snake! I'd be amazed if some of her audience haven't cottoned on to her inconsistencies. I hope your family fully recovers and you don't have to put up with friends like that again.