Page 7 | Friend annoyed with me because of Covid result

BiBabbles · 01/08/2021 23:44

It's understandable she's upset/worried, but she's handled that in a nasty way. Is that in character for her? Not sure I could handle that long term.

Like others, how I would respond would depend on my mood at the time. When my DD tested positive, she felt so guilty and needed a lot of assurances and I would not have taken kindly to anyone calling her a 'selfish fucker' for not being psychic, especially with doing the testing as you did!

I hope it passes as well as it can for you all.

ohfourfoxache · 01/08/2021 23:44

So she’s a nasty bitch and pig-ignorant to boot

She’s done you a favour by showing her true colours

SecretKeeper1 · 01/08/2021 23:49

“Hi friend, I assume this is about me. To be clear:
I saw you on Friday.
My husband felt ill on Saturday morning.
He went for a PCR which came back positive on Sunday.
Hope this clarifies things.
He is doing ok, thanks for asking”

Justilou1 · 01/08/2021 23:51

I would be inclined to share that load of hypocrisy with screenshots and photos. What a virtue-signaling matyr.

Wheresmybiscuit3 · 01/08/2021 23:52

She’s being massively unreasonable. I’d have my say and then block

printmeanicephoto · 01/08/2021 23:59

I would post directly on her FB post as suggested above. I would also write on the post that you are disappointed that she felt she couldn't approach you directly about the issue in an adult fashion. Then terminate friendship unless she directly apologies to you.

I don't care how fearful she was about catching Covid, it was a low thing to do.

Dina0 · 02/08/2021 00:03

@FuckingFabulous

On Friday, my friend's DC and mine got together and spent a few hours hanging out playing a sport . We had a chat together when we collected our kids, then went our separate ways. On Saturday morning, my DH woke up dizzy, thought it was vestibular neuritis again, looked online for an OTC remedy and read a Harvard article about dizziness being a Covid symptom, so took a PCR. This morning, me and the DC did lat flows and mine had a very faint line. Texted the people we had been in contact with to give a cursory heads up. Took myself and DC for a test; while getting it, DH got his back positive. Immediately texted all people we were in contact with to let them know there was a positive in our household. This particular friend read the message and didn't respond, but immediately put up a Facebook post saying she was furious that someone she had been in contact with had Covid and put her CV self and her child at risk for a game of football rather than staying home and being safe and considerate, and if she dies she hopes they feel guilty for being such a selfish fucker.

Uh.

How do I respond to that?

I wouldn't even dignify it with a response. You wouldn't knowingly go out and infect people with covid. You did the responsible thing by texting everyone you were in contact with to let them know what they do with that information then is up to them.

BoredtoTiers · 02/08/2021 00:06

This is something I actually worry about with some friends who are more paranoid about COVID. I mean, it's ridiculous obviously - you had no way of knowing. I'm CEV and unfortunately have strained a couple of friendships because I wasn't willing to meet up indoors with friends who were hosting kids sleepovers, meeting up with loads of people indoors etc. when we were in lockdown & unvaccinated. Had I chosen to do so and subsequently gotten COVID it would not have been the other party's fault even so, unless they rocked up to meet me knowing they had symptoms.

printmeanicephoto · 02/08/2021 00:12

... On a slightly different but related note, the fearfulness and anxiousness of some people about Covid is really sad to see. Obviously I get it if you're elderly, vulnerable for any reason or generally suffer from anxiety, but otherwise people need to be a bit more rational surely!

Mockolate · 02/08/2021 01:23

She's an utter dick.
You can't help catching it FFS! It's not like you didn't let anyone know as soon as you found out.
No friend of yours

LionSGuard · 02/08/2021 01:40

Did you consider who you've been in contact with before spending time with her? If not, why not?

She should also consider this herself if she's so concerned about it. She can't police other people but she also doesn't have to meet up with them. It was the risk she took.

Justilou1 · 02/08/2021 01:51

Surely the crowded pub is MUCH riskier! Meanwhile, she’s basking in the pleasure of victimizing someone rather like a biblical stoning of a leper. This is not a nice person.

Tiana4 · 02/08/2021 02:48

I think you should reply with TheCob's suggested post on her fb post

She's not very nice is she? COVID is everywhere, she invited herself along to football and didn't wear a mask and insisted on stopping for coffee- her idea. She hardly sounds "extra cautious". DCs have been at school for months, so she's been at risk all along

I disagree with the PP who banged on about it being OP's responsibility re her CV friend, who "might die". OP already has a CV DH & is careful! I'm CEV . It's my responsibility to take extra care, if I'm worried. I've been stuck in most of 18 months and been in and out of A&E for my CEV illness. Some of us are fed up of being isolated and glad to see friends at a social distance. Friend had choice of doing that rather than sitting inside for a coffee. OP is not to blame, no one had symptoms when they went out to play football.

Tiana4 · 02/08/2021 02:53

@Justilou1

Surely the crowded pub is MUCH riskier! Meanwhile, she’s basking in the pleasure of victimizing someone rather like a biblical stoning of a leper. This is not a nice person.

This too ^^

Also what friend complains on fb about her risk and cv instead of worrying about the friend and friends family including CV DH that actually has covid !? It's all me me me!
She's not even responded to find out if OPs DH and family are okay and they actually have COVID and DH is CV!

Ps OP, hope your DH is ok & that you all get through this ok

HelloDaisy · 02/08/2021 03:02

Sounds as though she is panicking about it and unfortunately is one of those people who live their life through Facebook.

As others have said I would post on her Facebook post saying that you hope she is not talking about you and then point out that none of your family had any symptoms when you met up with her the day before so you cannot be held accountable for something you didn’t know was going to happen. Explain that dh was fine on the Friday but woke up Saturday feeling ill. Then stop contact with her until she apologises for over reacting.

I can understand her being worried as my dh is CEV and we’ve been in a similar situation recently but I didn’t blame my friend for it as they were all fine when we met up but ill the next day. That’s how it spreads as it would be easily controlled if we all had symptoms before we were contagious!

a8mint · 02/08/2021 03:58

The more i think about it, themore i think shes been pinged in relation to someone else. The 10day countdown from the 'encounter date' puts it before the football. and that's made her think you've broken isolation.
You need to talk to her

CircleofWillis · 02/08/2021 07:17

Have you tested positive OP? If so she should be isolating as a close contact rather than visiting a pub with a big group. How hypocritical, unlike you she knows she might be putting people at risk.

Mrsfrumble · 02/08/2021 07:48

Also what friend complains on fb about her risk and cv instead of worrying about the friend and friends family including CV DH that actually has covid !? It's all me me me!
She's not even responded to find out if OPs DH and family are okay and they actually have COVID and DH is CV!

^^This! DS is on his last day of a 10 day isolation, after his teacher tested positive on the first day of the school holiday. It’s been a pain in the arse; DS has autism and ADHD and doesn’t cope well with being cooped up in a 2 bedroom flat with a minuscule garden. We’ve had to cancel plans for days out and long-awaited meet ups, and of course have had the worry of DS becoming ill himself and passing it round the family. Despite this my (and DS’s) immediate response to the news was concern for his lovely teacher’s health, and to feel sorry that someone who has worked so hard this year is having the start of their well-earned break spoiled by illness.

Has Covid really made us so paranoid and misanthropic that on hearing about a friend’s illness, jumping to the conclusion that they’re out to deliberately infect us and ranting about it on social media is normal behaviour, rather than asking how they are or expressing sympathy? How bloody depressing.

Hopeisnotastrategy · 02/08/2021 07:56

@Doodlebug71

So many people here insisting the other person is paranoid. No they're not. For CV/CEV people, this is life. One person can put everyone at risk.

CV/CEV people have been shielding and being careful about who one is even in contact with who for 18 months.

"You're being ridiculous" is at the very least incredibly unkind. It's actually in real terms absolutely spiteful, selfish and nasty. It's not ridiculous to avoid contact with a virus that can kill a CV/CEV person when one is a CV/CEV person. Shame on anyone here who thinks otherwise.

Shame on nobody. I'm CEV, please don't presume to speak for me.

The issue isn't that the "friend" is CV, it's the incredibly juvenile way she's dealing with the situation on social media.

therocinante · 02/08/2021 08:13

[quote Cattailkitty]@Fucking Fabulous - wow that's impressive! Must be a north-side divide then[/quote]
I'm in Manchester and mine have almost always been less than 24 hours too! I think it really varies - the only one I had that was longer was very early on so I kind of assumed they'd improved the process/logistics now as last time I had one (2 weeks ago) I had the test at 4.30pm and had the results at 3am by text, was v impressed.

alanabsdnsja · 02/08/2021 09:19

[quote Cattailkitty]@Fucking Fabulous - wow that's impressive! Must be a north-side divide then[/quote]
We're in the North and have had our PCR results back in less than a day for at least the past 6 months.

Lavender24 · 02/08/2021 09:22

What an attention seeking bitch. Set the record straight with her then block her.

Abraxan · 02/08/2021 09:29

Doodlebug

The issue isn't that the person is vulnerable.
It's the fact they have posted an inaccurate version of events.

It's normal for vulnerable people to feel concerned. I'm vulnerable and was very concerned about Covid, especially when I had to return to work with no SD, no masks and poor ventilation. And yes, I caught Covid abd wasn't well, I was in hospital abd now have a life long health condition that needs daily medication - Covid complications led to it.

Despite this, I don't blame someone for giving it to me when they would have been asymptotic and not showing any signs of Covid infection.

It's sadly one of those things vulnerable now have to deal with.

Every time the OPs 'friend' and other vulnerable people mix with others they take the risk of catching Covid. Whether that's for social or work reasons, if they mix with others they risk getting Covid.

The OP did nothing wrong here.

The OPs friend, however, has done something wrong. They've posted a nasty message for all to see, blaming the OP and insinuating the OP has deliberately seen her whilst infectious. That shouldn't be allowed to stand unchallenged:

Abraxan · 02/08/2021 09:34

[quote Cattailkitty]@Fucking Fabulous - wow that's impressive! Must be a north-side divide then[/quote]
I'm in the north of England , South Yorkshire - again, PCRs coming back within 24 hours throughout the pandemic.

Abraxan · 02/08/2021 09:38

Did you consider who you've been in contact with before spending time with her? If not, why not?

Like the OPs friend appears to have done you mean?

Friend knows the OP has been in contact with Covid, she knows the OP has had a positive LFT and is awaiting PCR results.

However the friend appears to have possibly been to a crowded pub yesterday despite knowing this?!? Presumably after OP told her?? So potentially knows she has been in contact with Covid but had still knowingly gone out and mixed with others.