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Friend annoyed with me because of Covid result

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FuckingFabulous · 01/08/2021 18:47

On Friday, my friend's DC and mine got together and spent a few hours hanging out playing a sport . We had a chat together when we collected our kids, then went our separate ways. On Saturday morning, my DH woke up dizzy, thought it was vestibular neuritis again, looked online for an OTC remedy and read a Harvard article about dizziness being a Covid symptom, so took a PCR. This morning, me and the DC did lat flows and mine had a very faint line. Texted the people we had been in contact with to give a cursory heads up. Took myself and DC for a test; while getting it, DH got his back positive. Immediately texted all people we were in contact with to let them know there was a positive in our household. This particular friend read the message and didn't respond, but immediately put up a Facebook post saying she was furious that someone she had been in contact with had Covid and put her CV self and her child at risk for a game of football rather than staying home and being safe and considerate, and if she dies she hopes they feel guilty for being such a selfish fucker.

Uh.

How do I respond to that?

OP posts:
billy1966 · 02/08/2021 22:29

Well handled OP.

Certainly not a friend worth keeping.

thinkingaboutitall · 02/08/2021 22:37

OP, end the friendship now please

SirB0bby · 02/08/2021 23:22

@MrsEko

I don’t have time for wankers I might embroider this on some napkins.
Maybe you should start selling them. I'd buy some! Grin
Ineke · 03/08/2021 01:15

Some friend, did she even ask how you were or if you needed anything from the shops. She may have been anxious but that doesn’t excuse her rushing to FB.

Ilovemypantry · 03/08/2021 01:24

@Maskless

What a bitchy drama queen you have there!

Why would she "die"?

Because thousands and thousands of people HAVE died from Covid. Nobody knows how ill they will be if infected, it varies enormously from one person to another.
safclass · 03/08/2021 01:30

My husband had to go and be tested. Got a test within 3hrs (4pm ish) and had results the following morning before 8am.
Her husband went on the saturday and had result sunday- how it is for most people.

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 03/08/2021 07:38

She's deleted it because your post doesn't support what she'd told other people, I bet. It'll have been that you knew you all had symptoms.

If you message back it should be something like we both know that's exactly what you were doing.

M4J4 · 03/08/2021 08:15

@FuckingFabulous

I just said "oh dear, it is a worry! I hope your night out cheered you up a bit!"

Three people I don't even know angry reacted it after about twenty minutes so I assume she was talking shit about me to anyone who would listen.

She commented saying "yeah, thanks?!????"

I just said "I know what it's like to be surprised by Covid, given that my husband tested positive yesterday after feeling off colour on Saturday! We wouldn't have known a thing all week, even when you and I met up with the boys on Friday, we were saying then how many people are testing positive with no symptoms now! Wish I had a crystal ball! Hope you stay negative."

She deleted the post and sent me a message saying "I hope you don't think I was getting at you?"

Yes, I do very much, but I will leave that on read like you did when I messaged you letting you know

I think I love you, OP.
a8mint · 03/08/2021 09:03

She deleted the post and sent me a message saying "I hope you don't think I was getting at you?"
"How do you know that this woman's rant was even about your family?

BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 03/08/2021 09:08

She put herself at risk by going out. Anyone could have Covid.

Crowtooyo · 03/08/2021 09:10

Why is she out and about? Shouldn't she be isolating after being in contact with you??

BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 03/08/2021 09:11

Good for you OP

Pastrydame · 03/08/2021 09:14

@Crowtooyo

Why is she out and about? Shouldn't she be isolating after being in contact with you??
OP has not posted that she has Covid, her husband is confirmed but not her. Though by now I think she would have the result? So annoying friend doesn't have to isolate unless OP is positive.
LookItsMeAgain · 03/08/2021 09:26

So, she could be asymptomatic at the moment and be carrying the virus to all of those that she was socialising with at the weekend???
Wise woman....not!

Ineke · 03/08/2021 09:27

Just interested to know how do you get a PCR test. I do the LFT twice a week for work, but do not know where I would go for the lab ones, can someone help please?
OP, your ‘friend’ is no friend I would like, not one word of support for you, ditch her if you can.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 03/08/2021 09:31

@Ineke

Just interested to know how do you get a PCR test. I do the LFT twice a week for work, but do not know where I would go for the lab ones, can someone help please? OP, your ‘friend’ is no friend I would like, not one word of support for you, ditch her if you can.
Go to the Gov.uk site to book a test. It offers postal, drive through and walk through options available near you. Choose one. Test. They then email or text results.
cervixuser · 03/08/2021 09:35

@Ineke

Just interested to know how do you get a PCR test. I do the LFT twice a week for work, but do not know where I would go for the lab ones, can someone help please? OP, your ‘friend’ is no friend I would like, not one word of support for you, ditch her if you can.
www.gov.uk/get-coronavirus-test
007Stocko · 03/08/2021 10:39

You could point out that as your DH didn't have any symptoms prior to meeting your friends it is quite possible that they were Asymptomatic carriers and passed it on to him!

senoritarita · 03/08/2021 11:00

Christ almighty! Your friend sounds ridiculous

Abraxan · 03/08/2021 11:24

@Pastrydame

She wouldn't have to isolate though would she? She was in contact with the OP, not the OP's dh; and I don't think OP has her PCR results back yet.
The Op had had a positive LFT so although the 'friend' doesn't need to isolate she did know she'd been in contact with someone who is most likely positive. It didn't stop the friend from not isolating and just going to the pub and mixing with others, despite knowing she'd been in contact with a positive case.

So she can't be that bothered about spreading covid about to others.

crazeelala2u · 03/08/2021 16:16

@Thehop

“Hi, I assume this is aimed at me? Obviously, when we attended football camp nobody in the house had any symptoms or we wouldn’t have gone. Husband developed one lesser known symptom the following day and we did absolutely the right thing by getting tests and letting everyone that we had seen know.

I assume your hideous diatribe is down to fear so I’ll wish you well and cross my fingers that you’ve avoided infection, and thank you for helping me to spread the word amongst any shared friends that we may need some support over the coming days. Take care”

I absolutely love this!

I'd be blocking her and not speak to her again.

TopBlogger · 04/08/2021 09:12

" I hope you stay negative " - VERY clever, love it!

AbsolutelyPatsy · 04/08/2021 09:45

well done op, good work

thinkingaboutitall · 04/08/2021 18:43

@TopBlogger

" I hope you stay negative " - VERY clever, love it!
I love this, must use it soon Grin
Madamum18 · 06/08/2021 15:59

I would have responded as follows when I first saw her FB message ...in a text message or email, depending on your normal method of communication (or a phonecall)

Hi, I have just read your FB message and I assume that you are referring to me. Just to clarify:

*when we met yesterday I had no idea that DH had Covid and therefore no idea that there was a possibility that I might have it

  • we both agreed to meet up and enjoyed our time together as did the kids *Once we realised that there was a possibility of Covid I contacted you asap. *I am unsure why you think I am a "selfish fucker" and should have "stayed at home instead of putting you at risk" when I had no idea we might be infectious, and we both agreed to meet up?
  • I am disappointed that you made those unjustified comments on FB without discussing the situation with me
  • I am disappointed that you appear to have misinterpreted the facts as detailed above I hope that you and ** do not get Covid.

That response clearly states your perspective and also makes her responsibilities and her dramatic lies evident to her and that you have realised.

If she then came back with such a silly comment as "I hope you don't think I was getting at you?" after those ridiculous comments I would reply|:

*Yes I do think you were
*No I don't understand why....followed by your comment about ... "We wouldn't have known a thing all week, even when you and I met up with the boys on Friday, we were saying then how many people are testing positive with no symptoms now! Wish I had a crystal ball! Hope you stay negative."

After that I would not engage in further silly conversations, justifications by her. Either repeat the points already made by you OR just say you no longer wish to discuss it as you have said what you wanted to say. I would step right back from a friendship with her although it might be that you find that difficult because your sons are friends so you may wish to take their friendship into account and skip chatting/coffeeing with her. I would never trust her again as a friend!

If she has left her original post on FB you could make a comment: "There are two sides to every story" but personally I would just ignore it and focus purely on making your point to her in a clear and assertive manner.

Good luck and hope you are all better soon

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