Friend annoyed with me because of Covid result

[FuckingFabulous]

On Friday, my friend's DC and mine got together and spent a few hours hanging out playing a sport . We had a chat together when we collected our kids, then went our separate ways. On Saturday morning, my DH woke up dizzy, thought it was vestibular neuritis again, looked online for an OTC remedy and read a Harvard article about dizziness being a Covid symptom, so took a PCR. This morning, me and the DC did lat flows and mine had a very faint line. Texted the people we had been in contact with to give a cursory heads up. Took myself and DC for a test; while getting it, DH got his back positive. Immediately texted all people we were in contact with to let them know there was a positive in our household. This particular friend read the message and didn't respond, but immediately put up a Facebook post saying she was furious that someone she had been in contact with had Covid and put her CV self and her child at risk for a game of football rather than staying home and being safe and considerate, and if she dies she hopes they feel guilty for being such a selfish fucker.

Uh.

How do I respond to that?

[quote Cattailkitty]@Fucking Fabulous - wow that's impressive! Must be a north-side divide then[/quote]
Cheshire - test at 11am, results back just after 10pm the same day.

I’d post if you’re going to complain at least get your facts right.
Then explain the facts
Then say it would be great to meet up again AFTER a negative test. What an attention seeking moron. Wtf is wrong with people??? That’s one of the reasons I was only
On fb for about a week. Full of self serving self gratuitous, small minded narcissist’s. I just can’t be doing with such time wasting vacuous muppets.

This morning she's put up a status saying that she spent the whole night at home terrified. She's deleted all her pub pictures but they were there, we all saw them. A person has said "Weren't you posting pics from your local?" but mostly it's "oh, I'm so sorry for you hun, selfish bastard who put you at risk, name and shame!"

Have just drafted this, but not sure if I'm poking a wasp nest now!

"Yes, Covid is a very scary thought and a positive result can take you quite by surprise. Glad to see you managed to calm your fears in the pub all night though. Hope you stay negative so you can keep partying safely! 😘"

Post it but she will immediately delete it and block you. You could screenshot your post though and post it on your page just to clarify things if you and her share the same social circle - she is potentially naming you privately, and then delete the attention seeking drama bitch from your life and move on.

How did you get the PCR test, and then result, back so much quickly OP?

The one test I've ever done, in May this year, I decided to have it at 7.50am on a Saturday morning, booked it online at 7.55am, at 8.35am I was in the centre with a swab up my nose, got the message with the result early that afternoon.

Ignore it, and give that 'friend' a wide berth.
Our DS tested positive and his class had to isolate and I was really surprised at the number of parents 'blaming' us for having the class isolated, or me for getting him PCR tested in the first place.
It was nuts. Showed me who our real friends were, i.e. the ones who asked how he was and showed some concern for his health rather than annoyance that their kids missed school.
We didn't create the pandemic, nor did we set the government guidance around isolation! FFS.

though I might be tempted to out up the pub comments! looks like the friendship is doomed one way or another...

@FuckingFabulous

This morning she's put up a status saying that she spent the whole night at home terrified. She's deleted all her pub pictures but they were there, we all saw them. A person has said "Weren't you posting pics from your local?" but mostly it's "oh, I'm so sorry for you hun, selfish bastard who put you at risk, name and shame!"

Have just drafted this, but not sure if I'm poking a wasp nest now!

"Yes, Covid is a very scary thought and a positive result can take you quite by surprise. Glad to see you managed to calm your fears in the pub all night though. Hope you stay negative so you can keep partying safely! 😘"

Go for it. People have seen her for the lies shes telling.

@FuckingFabulous

This morning she's put up a status saying that she spent the whole night at home terrified. She's deleted all her pub pictures but they were there, we all saw them. A person has said "Weren't you posting pics from your local?" but mostly it's "oh, I'm so sorry for you hun, selfish bastard who put you at risk, name and shame!"

Have just drafted this, but not sure if I'm poking a wasp nest now!

"Yes, Covid is a very scary thought and a positive result can take you quite by surprise. Glad to see you managed to calm your fears in the pub all night though. Hope you stay negative so you can keep partying safely! 😘"

Go for it. The friendship is probably irreparable anyway.

So she's potentially caught this and then risked so many other people by knowingly socialising instead of isolating? Either way the friendship would be at an end for me - I couldn't be friends with anyone so deliberately selfish.

Dunno that I'd be so PA. Maybe "I saw you on Friday before we had any inkling that my DH was or could be sick. After that, we isolated, tested and contacted everyone as soon as we knew. Given you were posting from the pub last night it doesn't look like you can say the same and I do agree that's incredibly selfish. So we're on the same page there at least".

I'd be going with @Bingbongbash 's suggestion or with @ShowMeTheSugar s reply above.

Reply with "who were you with that had covid? We tested positive the next day, so thanks for passing it on"

PCR on Saturday results on Thursday in north Midlands. That's way longer than we expected.

I’d reply “that’s not good and I agree very selfish. At least I told you as soon as we suspected/knew”!

So she's potentially caught this and then risked so many other people by knowingly socialising instead of isolating? Either way the friendship would be at an end for me - I couldn't be friends with anyone so deliberately selfish.

^This 100%. She has a lot of cheek, calling you selfish in view of her not isolating.

@Iwantamarshmallowman I agree with this idea OP!!! Omg. What an awful thing to say!!! It’s nice that they care about you all so much!!! Definitely unfriend and block! Wish you all a speedy recovery ❤️‍🩹

I think your response is fine. I think the friendship is over now anyway. I think her behaviour towards you was awful and her behaviour since appalling

@ShowMeTheSugar response is perfect

My DD age 12 tested positive and one of her friends fell out with her 🤦‍♀️ I was fuming and messaged the mum to say that her DD was being horrible to my DD and she said oh its just because she's worried she gets it and gives it to her Gran. I replied with keep her in then if it's such a worry .

Is your friend 12 too 😂 on a serious note I hope you are all OK. My DD is absolutely fine thank god

Is she okay? That’s really unusual behaviour. I wouldn’t bother calling her out, she’s clearly not thinking straight and if she is prepared to lie like that all just to spin some fictional narrative to her Facebook friends she will go all guns blazing if you contradict her.

There’s a lot of hypocritical behaviour going on with people & Covid. I don’t think you did anything wrong at all @FuckingFabulous & you’re right to be annoyed by this so-called friend. I don’t blame you at all for the FB post, but I’d be bothered about how it might impact on my DCs if she’s one of those playground rallying types (eugh!)
I wish your DH a speedy recovery, concentrate on him & your family, not this vicious shrew.

But are you sure it's you she's talking about?

[quote Lulola]@mysecrethistory

Why do you think she has to self isolate? Was it indoor football?

Why do you say this? OP has mentioned self isolating in the post. Are you just making things up so you can be judgmental?[/quote]
My DD tested positive the day after football training and her team didn't need to isolate. It depends on the setup so I was told by track & trace. Don't think this person was being judgemental at all

I notice she isn’t remotely concerned about you or how you might be affected with Covid. I know people like this who are too pathetic to say how they feel in person, but happy to air their dirty laundry with a passive aggressive rant on social media. Pity her, and move on.