Friend annoyed with me because of Covid result

[FuckingFabulous]

On Friday, my friend's DC and mine got together and spent a few hours hanging out playing a sport . We had a chat together when we collected our kids, then went our separate ways. On Saturday morning, my DH woke up dizzy, thought it was vestibular neuritis again, looked online for an OTC remedy and read a Harvard article about dizziness being a Covid symptom, so took a PCR. This morning, me and the DC did lat flows and mine had a very faint line. Texted the people we had been in contact with to give a cursory heads up. Took myself and DC for a test; while getting it, DH got his back positive. Immediately texted all people we were in contact with to let them know there was a positive in our household. This particular friend read the message and didn't respond, but immediately put up a Facebook post saying she was furious that someone she had been in contact with had Covid and put her CV self and her child at risk for a game of football rather than staying home and being safe and considerate, and if she dies she hopes they feel guilty for being such a selfish fucker.

Uh.

How do I respond to that?

@DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo
Many many places here (again, Scotland) have walk-in and drive-in test centres. I made my appointments online and was offered times within the hour...

Why focus on troll hunting? Nothing better to do?

I'd comment something along the lines of "nobody in my household had symptoms before we met. If they had done, we wouldn't have continued with our plans. Unfortunately, we had to get tests the following day because symptoms developed. Fortunately, you won't need to worry about us exposing you again because you've shown your true, nasty colours. Take care X"

I think I would have to comment on the post setting the record straight. You couldn't predict that you were going to get unwell, it's not like you went there with symptoms. I would want people to know that.

But then I'd terminate the friendship for sure. It's a shitty thing to post and a childish way to behave.

@DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo if you have symptoms you go for a PCR test at a test centre and the results are sent by text 24 hours later. I've done PCR tests at a test centre twice (booked and attended the same day) and the results did not take more than 24 hours.

I think I’d post something like:

“No problem, friend - I’ll just jump in my time machine and go back to stop us going out with you the day BEFORE my husband developed covid symptoms!

Seriously - I don’t have a crystal ball so I had no way of knowing then that he was going to get ill.

Love, @FuckingFabulous.”

To add to the timing posts, I recently booked a test at 2.30pm on the Thursday, managed to get an appointment up the road for 3pm same day, results back at 5am on the Friday. They're very quick around here.

Definitely comment in a straightforward way, explaining your side. Then back away, she's not much of a friend.
I wouldn't worry too much about the FB comment, I'd have thought most people who see it will be rolling their eyes!

[quote Headsinsand]@DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo
Many many places here (again, Scotland) have walk-in and drive-in test centres. I made my appointments online and was offered times within the hour...

Why focus on troll hunting? Nothing better to do?[/quote]
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Both times I've had to have a PCR test (Scotland), I've been able to book at test for within half an hour at the drive-thru centre and had the results back within 12 hours.

I wouldn’t respond at all, but would make sure our mutual friends know the timeline of what occurred.

T&T are counting outdoors as contact now with delta

I would definitely respond. Either comment on her post or put your own one up clarifying the timeline.

You've done nothing wrong OP, as you well know, your 'friend' deserves to be called out for being the vile nasty bastard she is.

@DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo what are you on about? Every PCR test I’ve had has been at a drive-through, booked and taken immediately and then I’ve had the results inside 12 hours.

I'd message her directly, tell her you've seen her FB post, tell her noone had symptoms until Sat and leave it there.

I've had a result in 8h, to poster who asked (test at 10.30am, booked early that morning and results by 6.30pm!)

Well, clearly she's annoyed because she thinks you met Friday, you've had a confirmed positive today and probably thinks you went out on Friday knowing DH was symptomatic. She might think you attended playdate with your DH already having done a PCR or awaiting results from one, rather than only actually doing one yesterday.
She shouldn't have jumped to conclusions but for example, where I am there was a 3 day wait last Autumn. I had no idea that results could be processed within a day now and families were being contacted within 24 hours.
Now you have to isolate but Friday if DH not symptomatic, you would never have known. Nor do you have a .
I would explain the timeline to her, she could be as ignorant as me wrt results turnaround. Hate social media for this kind of commentary in any case.

@DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo

Fair enough then - have to be ordered by post here 👍

Where are you that you can only have postal tests?

@DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo

DH took a drive through test on Saturday afternoon. Got the results today. I drove him, considering he's dizzy. The rest of us did lateral flows this morning. When mine came back with a faint positive, we booked a drive through test for us all and as we were at the test site DH sent me a screenshot of his email saying his was positive.

“Hi, I assume this is aimed at me? Obviously, when we attended football camp nobody in the house had any symptoms or we wouldn’t have gone. Husband developed one lesser known symptom the following day and we did absolutely the right thing by getting tests and letting everyone that we had seen know.

I assume your hideous diatribe is down to fear so I’ll wish you well and cross my fingers that you’ve avoided infection, and thank you for helping me to spread the word amongst any shared friends that we may need some support over the coming days. Take care”

@DontDrinkDontSmokeWhatDoIDo you can get a drive in PCR test within the hour where we are.

@Iwantamarshmallowman

I wouldn't grace it with a responce but i would terminate the friendship with immediate effect

This with stomping great bells on 🔔🔔

What a stupid woman

As I've got older, I've taken to calling out shit like this. So I would post on her wall the actual sequence of events and watch her squirm.
Then block her.

Ooh. Just read @Thehop 's suggestion. Brilliant.
Write that.

Yeah I opt for just flat out calling her out for the cunt she is.

Just say something along the lines

"My sincere apologies that my fucking time machine was broken when we attended football, see I haven't the ability to look 24 hours in to the fucking future. Although if I did have a crystal ball I know where I'd put it right now!"

This is ridiculous. Surely she knows there's a pandemic out there and yet she willingly takes a risk each time she meets up people.
Ridiculous and vile.
She could just have sent you a text to wish you and your fam to get better soon, but no.

Each time we meet people we're putting ourselves at risk, we know it.
A friend of mine is scared of the virus, not for her, but for her mum, so each time she's about to see her mum, she self-isolates for 10 days and takes some LF tests.
Not that complicated really.

Hope you and your family recover soon OP!

Thehop

What they said! 🔼

Your mistake was telling anyone... I've learnt the hard way (due to employees testing +ve) - tell no one, just "I'm self isolating as I've been in contact but I'm fine"

People are way too antsy about Covid to be rational....we've had very odd reactions at work so now keep it very confidential