AIBU to ask how you sleep at night if you’re the other woman?

[DoYouHaveAHeartOfStone]

Got a frantic call from my cousin that she’s caught her husband cheating, gone over to hers & seen that his iPhone is synced to the iPad & photos of a very cosy day out with his fancy woman have pinged over all at once 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ There’s even messages from the other woman saying “I know you have a wife & kids, but I hope you pick me”

It’s easy to always blame the other woman, we are so quick to do it. But F me this is just god awful & I don’t get how you’d sleep at night knowing you are happy to help break up a family? I’d love to hear from “other women” to know how this works in your head? Did you end up staying together? Did he leave his wife for you?

It's abit of both.

Thé bloke will spent a lot of time convincing the OW he's unhappy at home/only stays for the kids/he and his wife lead separate lives etc etc etc all the usual sad tired cliché's.

The OW will pity the bloke,feel sorry for his unhappiness at home and tried to "rescue" him.They often see the poor unsuspecting wife as the villain.

It's not always the case some OW are just ruthless but the cheating partners/husbands are just as much to blame.

Thé bloke will spent a lot of time convincing the OW he's unhappy at home/only stays for the kids/he and his wife lead separate lives
Considering how many women post on MN expressing the same unhappiness and the same reason for staying (with the additional reason of financial dependence) I would not assume the man is lying or following a script.

@choli Agree. I’ve never understood why some posters will insist that if a married man says he’s in a sexless, miserable, marriage, then he must always, definitely, be lying... right alongside countless threads from women about their sexless, miserable, marriages.

Sure, some married men will be lying but you don’t have to look far to see that they won’t all be.

[quote ClearwaterTulip]@choli Agree. I’ve never understood why some posters will insist that if a married man says he’s in a sexless, miserable, marriage, then he must always, definitely, be lying... right alongside countless threads from women about their sexless, miserable, marriages.

Sure, some married men will be lying but you don’t have to look far to see that they won’t all be.[/quote]
I suspect they have a script of their own.

Again though it’s not the OW’s problem to deal with.
An unhappy marriage should only involve the two people in it.

It’s no surprise that there are other people out there that might suit you better but it doesn’t help to stay in the marriage whilst cheating. You want out, leave. He’s married, wait until he)s not.

Sure some OW go on to have to have long term relationships with the man but most don’t (5-7%). So it doesn’t help anyone.

@choli

Thé bloke will spent a lot of time convincing the OW he's unhappy at home/only stays for the kids/he and his wife lead separate lives Considering how many women post on MN expressing the same unhappiness and the same reason for staying (with the additional reason of financial dependence) I would not assume the man is lying or following a script.

Agree