AIBU to go on Holiday without DH?

[kravestix]

DH isn't interested in hot places, long flights, beaches, etc. He also isn't prepared to holiday without his kids. That's fair enough. We can't afford to take them. So if he doesn't want to go without them then I get that completely but I still want to go! We also have a DS who is 3. When he's older, I'd be quite happy to take DS on Holiday just the two of us but at the moment I think he's a bit young and it wouldn't be enjoyable for me as the only adult looking after him without a break.

So, I was thinking, until DS is a bit older, I could just go on holiday on my own without DH. Then when DS is older he can come with me too.

Would you do that? AIBU to do it? Would it be safe? I want to go to places like Croatia, Mauritius, Norway, Thailand, etc. It would certainly be cheaper just going on my own!

I have taken little kids x3 alone on holidays - no problems! They seem to know to stay with you to stay safe.

Plus they’ll be other single parents around and kids to play with.

Life’s too short - go have some fun.

My biggest worry is being a woman travelling alone.

Have you got a friend to go with? Pre-Covid, my best friend and I went abroad at least once a year on a trip just the two of us.

@BluebellsGreenbells

I have taken little kids x3 alone on holidays - no problems! They seem to know to stay with you to stay safe.

Plus they’ll be other single parents around and kids to play with.

Life’s too short - go have some fun.

Wow! I'd like to do alot of swimming though. Deep swimming, snorkeling, etc. Couldn't really do any of that with DS. He's too young. Most he can do at the moment is have a little paddle. So I'd rather wait until he is older.

100% go without him!

Some places have kids clubs on that you can book.

There’s no reason not to think outside of the box and find a solution!

I love solo travel and have been a few times without DH to places he’s not fussed about. If your husband doesn’t want to go then absolutely take yourself; the alternative is surely never visiting those places? I suppose you’d just need to work out how he gets some time to himself to keep things even.

The other thing you could do is advertise or ask friends with little kids to come along and you can share childcare - that way you both get some peace to do your activities

Go to a hotel with kids clubs so you can have time off.
Have a look at the Tui site, they’re usually good.

I'll get shot down in flames for saying this, but as a parent I find your attitude a bit selfish. My dc would be gutted if I left him at home for a week to go holiday, and I know I'm not just blowing my own trumpet. 🏃‍♀️🔥

Well who would be paying for the holiday. If its your own personal money fair enough. If it is family money then no you should be looking at something you could both do along with his children

Just had a week away with my best mate and her daughter who is similar age to mine.
We had the best time, def go for it OP

I don't know how that middle emoji got there 😂

Go with a tour group and you'll be able to do your own thing, some group things and have the benefit of a local/native speaking guide

Of course you should go without him or with friends. No way would I let my DH restrict me going on holiday!

How do the kids clubs work? Does that mean I could take DS but still have some time to myself if he went to the kids club sometimes? So I could go swimming for a few hours or whatever? If so, I'll happily take DS too! I just need to know I'll still be able to get time to myself. And yes it is family money, but family money we have both contributed too.

@Looubylou

I'll get shot down in flames for saying this, but as a parent I find your attitude a bit selfish. My dc would be gutted if I left him at home for a week to go holiday, and I know I'm not just blowing my own trumpet. 🏃‍♀️🔥

DS is only 3 so he wouldn't even notice tbh! But if I could take him and still guarantee some time to myself at some point during the holiday, I'd prefer him to come than stay home! As long as I get some time for me too.

If it is family money then you either use half each to do your own thing or you find a compromise imo.

@kravestix

How do the kids clubs work? Does that mean I could take DS but still have some time to myself if he went to the kids club sometimes? So I could go swimming for a few hours or whatever? If so, I'll happily take DS too! I just need to know I'll still be able to get time to myself. And yes it is family money, but family money we have both contributed too.

That's exactly how kids clubs work. You drop them off for a couple of hours and you're free to do your own thing.

TUI resorts are fabulous. We always book with them and get DS booked in the kids clubs. He loves it as it means other children to play with and we get some adult time. Highly recommended.

www.singleparentsonholiday.co.uk/

Mmmmm, so as a family you can't afford to go on a holiday which includes your DH's kids but you can afford to go to Mauritius, Thailand or Norway alone?

I can understand why you would love a holiday OP but none of us know the ins and outs of you and your DH's finances so it is not really for us to say whether you are being reasonable or not

I think going without your DH is ok but not taking your DC is a bit funny.

Go. Leave your DS with his boring Dad. Fuck. Plenty of men piss off on stags weekends and leave the wimmin to it.

Why do you think your DC won't notice because he is 3?

I go once a year without dc and dh. As do the other women I go with. Dh is free to do the same, if he can be arsed.