To want a baby at 36

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In a stable, loving relationship and want to have a baby. Just turned 36 in July. This wasn’t really on the cards before as I’ve been so career focused.

I’m worried I’ve left it too late and everything around ‘geriatric’ pregnancy is scaring the life out of me! AIBU?

I really hate these threads. They make me feel old.

Seems perfectly fine to me, I did 33, 36, 39 and all fine/normal.

Go for it!! I didn’t want kids untill I was 34. Had my little one last year.

The midwife had a chuckle when I asked if I was too old to be pregnant. She said absolutely not! And that it was the average age these days. I had no problems what so ever. No one batted an eye lid xx

I got pregnant (unplanned) at 39 and had DD at 40. I wasn’t the oldest by any stretchy

I had DS1 at 37 and DS2 at 40. Don't worry about it.

I started wanting them at 36. Pregnant for the second time now. Good luck OP ... it is a whole new world trying to conceive. Join peanut, get on groups here and enjoy the process... don't read up too much on geriatric anything x

I'm 38 and pregnant. Just go for it. The risks are only slightly higher and you are still much more likely to have a healthy pregnancy than not.

I was 34 then turned 35 when pregnant and was noted as a geriatric mother! Don't let that stop you though

The possibility for complications increase after 35, no matter what older mums will say. You’re still in your mid 30s so far less risk than your late 30s/40s. I have friends in their early/mid 20s with parents that are 40+ years older than them. They worry about their elderly parents the same as I worry about my grandparents (who are around the same age as their parents). If you want a child then now is the time to try!

“In your early 30s, your chances of getting pregnant are only slightly lower than in your late 20s, and your risk of having a miscarriage or a baby with Down syndrome is only slightly higher. But at 35, that decline in fertility begins to accelerate.
That age is also when other genetic problems become more of a concern, so experts routinely recommend that women have cell-free fetal DNA blood testing, amniocentesis, chorionic villus sampling, or other detailed screenings starting in the mid 30s.”

www.babycenter.com/getting-pregnant/preparing-for-pregnancy/age-and-fertility-getting-pregnant-in-your-30s_1494695

Current research suggest that a mum being consider geriatric at 35+ is outdated. Whilst some risks do increase they aren't a huge risk. I had my 3rd at 37 and I mentioned it to the midwife that I was concerned she said they don't do extra checks anymore till a mum is 40+

I remember my risk for downs was no different than when I was checked with my 1st and 2nd pregnancy when I was 31 and 33!

@Thebig3

Current research suggest that a mum being consider geriatric at 35+ is outdated. Whilst some risks do increase they aren't a huge risk. I had my 3rd at 37 and I mentioned it to the midwife that I was concerned she said they don't do extra checks anymore till a mum is 40+

I remember my risk for downs was no different than when I was checked with my 1st and 2nd pregnancy when I was 31 and 33!

Came to say similar.

A surprise pregnancy at 39 here and had a panic at my MW about my age. She was completely nonplussed.

Get yourself some good quality antenatal vitamins and crack on.

I had my second in May. I'm 36. Had my 1st at 32.

Yanbu..

My aunt was 40 when she married in 1950 and she had 2 dcs, and my gm was 43 when she had her youngest in 1929. All fine. Good luck

Also meant to add when my mum fell pregnant with me she was 25 then 26 when I was born and she was classed as an elderly prim!

Go for it, you’re the perfect age.
Established career, comfortable home, settled relationship.

My mum was classed as geriatric at 27! Obviously a ridiculous label to be ignored. I’d start TTC ASAP.

I had my youngest at 36 and certainly didn't feel old when I was pregnant. It's a very normal age to be pregnant now.

36 is young!

I'm 36 and pregnant with my 3rd. I've had no complications so far.
go for it or you will regret it.

I had my first at 41 and my second at 43... with no problems. No guarantees, but good luck trying.

It all depends how you feel, biologically it's absolutely not too late, as others have said. Personally, it would be much older than I'd want to be, but that's for personal reasons that may not be the same for you, plus I don't see anything wrong with it, just wouldn't be for me.

No not too late.

Had my second at 35, certainly wasn't anywhere near being the oldest in my ante natal group. Probably about average.

I don't think post-35 is even called geriatric now? Post-40 is. 36/37 is a perfectly normal age to have a baby, most of my friends were 35+ when they started their families.