To want a baby at 36

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In a stable, loving relationship and want to have a baby. Just turned 36 in July. This wasn’t really on the cards before as I’ve been so career focused.

I’m worried I’ve left it too late and everything around ‘geriatric’ pregnancy is scaring the life out of me! AIBU?

I was 38 and 40 when I had my 2. My best friend was 43. You are definitely not too hold but I would start now. If you run into problems with fertility, you will have time to work through them. As you get closer to 40-42 the emotional pressure rises too as increasingly you will have limited / no fertility options left.

Best of luck 💐

For goodness sake

I had kids at 35 and 39. Most mums I know are “older”. It can take a bit longer though, so seek help quickly if needed.

On the whole a pregnancy at that age is not hugely risky. I’d go for it. I had my last baby at 36 and they wouldn’t even call me a geriatric pregnancy at the hospital anymore as they’d made that for 40 and over.

Nothing wrong with 36, just be aware that TTC could take you a while ago if you're s bit older, so if you want to go for it don't put it off.

I am currently 24 weeks pregnant at the age of 37. DH and I started TTC the month after I turned 36 and it took us 11 months to conceive.

I was 2 days shy of being 36 when I gave birth to my first born, I never considered myself geriatric I am sure it didn't say that on my notes either even with my second pregnancy and I was 38.

I had no pregnancy complications and both were born healthy, go for it OP, you are definitely not too old

Apologies for butter fingers when typing my previous reply, but you get the gist.

I had my 2 at 30 years of age. 10 years on and I am shattered. In hindsight I would have preferred to have had them a lot younger, so I had/have the energy to deal with them. Just don't underestimate how exhausting it is.

I had my children at 34 & 36.
This is pretty average for the mums at school.

You're definitely not too old and in your shoes I'd start trying ASAP.

I had my first baby last year. I'm 37 and I waited out of choice. I just wasn't ready and actually I didn't feel 'old' enough to have a child before that. Not ready for my second yet either even though I know a few people with babies the same age who are pregnant again.

YANBU at all! The risks at 36 will not be much greater than at 34 so just ignore any references to 'geriatric'.

First at 39 and second at 42. No problems at all. Had convinced myself it would not happen or be difficult. Feel pregnant immediately both times, easy pregnancies, no regrets.

I had mine when I was 37 (just about to be 38) and 42. Both easy uncomplicated pregnancies (although lots more tests offered 2nd time).
Both are healthy, wonderful young adults now, eldest just graduated from uni with a first😊 Go for it, they're worth every sleepless night x

Had DS2 at 37 no complications whatsoever never even had morning sickness straightforward birth and recovered pretty quick. Defo not too old at 36

@ivfgottwins

I had twins at 37/38 don't sweat it x

Yep, same as above. I'm now 50 and my DTDs are 12.

Geriatric is over 40 now

I had my third baby a month before I was 36 - didn't even consider if I was old 🙈

I purposefully didn't have a child until I was 37 even though I was married at 30 to a man I'd started dating at 20 because of wanting to get all my childless ambitions and adventures out of my system first and save up. I'm 38 and really don't consider myself old, noone referred to my pregnancy as geriatric (although I was familiar with the term) and lots of people have children in their late to mid 30s, I didn't think it was that big a deal.

I had my only child at age 36. Easiest pregnancy and child ever!

Had my only DS at 37! Not once was the word geriatric used by midwives/doctors etc whilst I was pregnant. Had a great pregnancy, no issues. I say do it! I'm 40 now and feel I have the energy and life skills to deal with DS.

It’s not old at all for pregnancy these days. Hi for it if it’s what you want.

Had mine at 38. It took 2 years of trying but it turned out a fertility monitor was all I needed to time sex right.

It's a fairly normal age to have a child. Some mums are younger and some are older, not a big deal.

36 and 39 for me. Mid 30's seems quite normal and I'm by no means the oldest mum at the school pickup. Given a choice I wish I started earlier as baby 3 was not meant to be. 3 miscarriages in my early 40's told me my body wasn't able so we stopped trying. Now mid 40's and knackered but happy.
Good luck.

I had my last kids at 36 and 38 - but I will warn you that I had two sets of natural twins merely because of my age. I was told that the older you are the more likely you will release more than one egg. Do it! If you have any inkling this is what you want don't let the opportunity pass you by.