To want a baby at 36

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In a stable, loving relationship and want to have a baby. Just turned 36 in July. This wasn’t really on the cards before as I’ve been so career focused.

I’m worried I’ve left it too late and everything around ‘geriatric’ pregnancy is scaring the life out of me! AIBU?

I made my last hold when I was 42. Not one person referred to me as a geriatric mother

I am 36 and pregnant. Much easier pregnancy than when I was 30!

I'm 38 and pregnant. I've never once been described as having a 'geriatric' pregnancy, either to my face or in my notes. Not one health professional has (yet) commented on my age.

PS have you started any other threads about this topic recently? It sounds very familiar. Apologies if not.

Bollocks to “geriatric”, I had DD at 36 and I know heaps of women who had babies into their 40s. Go for it

I had my third and final baby at 36 and the birth and recovery was by far the easiest of all 3. Conceived him quicker, too.

@Clymene

I made my last hold when I was 42. Not one person referred to me as a geriatric mother

What I meant to say was I had my last baby when I was 42. Obviously

I had my second a while ago at 35, almost 36. I found out at these midwife appts that they had in fact changed the age of geriatric mothers to 40!! Not that a label really matters

I was 39 and nobody mentioned anything about geriatric pregnancies. I loved being pregnant and it was fairly easy.
Being established in your career certainly helps financially and career wise too.

I don't think it's too old if you really want a baby but if you're in any doubt at all don't do it. I had completed my family by 28 and didn't want any older than that.

I am 34 and am the youngest in my NCT group- everyone else ranges between 37-44, so not too old at all 😊

This isn’t remotely old, at least in a lot of circles it isn’t.

I was 30 and the youngest in my NCT. I would say half of university friends had had a child by 35 with 28 or 29 or so being the absolute youngest anyone had started having children.

I had my youngest at 38, easiest pregnancy and quickest recovery of all my DC!

No one even mentioned ‘geriatric pregnancy’ to me once and I had mine at 34 & 39.

At my NCT group there were 6 of us:

33, 34, 34, 38, 39, 40

I felt like a youngster

Definitely not too old

Is this a fucking joke

No one mentioned geriatric pregnancy to me either.

I was pregnant with dc3 at 36 when I saw on call the midwife someone called a geriatric pregnancy (maybe the dr wife the Scottish nun - midwife)

But that was set in the 1960s? Never heard geriatric used.

36 exhausted with my 3rd but no issue with #1 I'd say... or 2!

I had mine at 36, I was never referred to as geriatric, and that was 25 years ago.
If you were 46 it would be more problematic.
You're still young!
There was a woman on here claiming to be pregnant at 53, but the thread was deleted.

I had mine at 36 and 37. Got pregnant within a month of trying both times. Had never wanted them earlier. Had no significant problems at all with pregnancy or labour, bar symphis pubis with no.2, but that was due to them being so close in age, nothing to do with my age. Go for it.

Ignore the misogyny if you come across it. No one talks about 'geriatric fathers to be' about men in their 30s, just women of course. Nothing geriatric about it at all, frankly.

Just had a baby at 38. Nobody ever mentioned my age and I was definitely never described as geriatric.

I had my DD at 37. Go for it!

In my personal circumstances I wouldn't have a baby at 36. But that is because I have 2 kids already and I am now disabled. Lot's of people I know only started in their mid 30s

Having my first at 36. I absolutely do not feel too old and I'm still one of the first of my friends to be having a baby. People leave it later these days for all sorts of reasons. Not been referred to as 'geriatric' once.

36 isn't old!
My SIL and brother had their first child a year ago. They're both 43!