To think my sister is being ridiculous with these comments?

[hp45]

My son is 24, he lives a few hours away with his friend, so we rarely see him especially with covid. He has mental health issues and last year he was very depressed and suicidal and his friend helped him through it.

A couple of months ago, I asked him if he wanted to come on holiday with us, he said yes but asked if his friend could come and I agreed.

We got here yesterday, and my sisters children would've had to share a room so DS and his friend got their own room, DS and his friend offered to share. Since then, my sister has been making ridiculous comments to DS, asking him why he wants to share with his friend, and asking why his friend can't go on holiday with his family.

She then said to me that, if she lived with her friend, she wouldn't want to bring them on a family holiday, I told her that it was up to DS. She then said that they're going to ruin the holiday, they're going to be doing their own thing as we will be with our younger children, so I don't see how they're going to ruin it.

Am I Bu in thinking she's being ridiculous? Or would you agree with her?

[BasiliskStare]

I may be being naive but any young male adult who has been to e.g. DoE or gone camping, or going to a friend's wedding not near to home so you book a twin room in a B&B because cheaper. , or friend lives in a v small house so you have to have to bunk up if you stay over why would you not share a room with a close friend. I have done with my with my friend if it saves money on occasion .



I think as @thing47 has said the dynamic has changed and she is trying to make the point different.

Well - there you go - takes all sorts - but two young adults sharing a room doesn't mean they are in a relationship. I can't even begin to see where sister is coming from. If they are - good luck to them.

[CrankyFrankie]

This has made me so sad. I hate your sister!

[UnsolicitedDickPic]

Christ, your sister is a bitch. She must surely know your DS has experienced problems with his mental health. If that was my sister I'd be hauling her over the coals for her attitude - but my sister isn't an enormous twat, so I wouldn't have to.

If your sister's problem is that they're in a relationship then she's truly showing her prejudices.

Sorry you, and your son, had to experience such toxicity on what was meant to be a lovely holiday.

[bonfireheart]

I would leave too OP. Regardless of whether they are in a relationship, your son is so lucky to have such a lovely friend who has helped him through a hard time (unlike your sister) that please please do anything to protect that so they don't lose each other.

[bonfireheart]

When you said to your son that it was fine for you if they were in a relationship what did he say and did he mention his aunts behavior?

[josbd]

"Listen sister dear. It has happened. We are on holiday, and the lads can do their own thing. This holiday is for ALL of us, and we have wasted enough time on a non issue as it is. So. let's draw a line underneath it all, and go and get pissed!!"