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Original poster

To want to sell a gift

308 replies

Lastsundayinjuly · 25/07/2021 20:10

I was bought an expensive present a few months ago, worth over a thousand pounds.

I don’t use it and won’t have many opportunities to.

I want to sell it but the person who gave it to me is clearly against this.

Is this horribly ungrateful of me or makes sense? (I could really, really use the money.)

OP posts:
pleasedonttextmyman · 25/07/2021 21:28

@Herecomesthesun70

Hot tub?
😂

you did make me laugh 😂

sparemonitor · 25/07/2021 21:29

@Lastsundayinjuly

I was bought an expensive present a few months ago, worth over a thousand pounds.

I don’t use it and won’t have many opportunities to.

I want to sell it but the person who gave it to me is clearly against this.

Is this horribly ungrateful of me or makes sense? (I could really, really use the money.)

Wait - you told the person who gave it to that you were thinking of selling it? why on earth would you do that? just quietly sell it.
Original poster
Lastsundayinjuly · 25/07/2021 21:30

It was well intentioned but not thought through. That is all, really, not necessarily weird.

As it is, it is mildly frustrating that it is there and is not getting any use, when the money would come in handy. That is it, really.

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Original poster
Lastsundayinjuly · 25/07/2021 21:31

Because we were talking about finances and I suggested this as a possibility. It would be noticed immediately if I did so without prior discussion and I would agree that would be very rude.

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DogsSausages · 25/07/2021 21:33

Whats the worst that will happen if you sell it. Your dp might get upset and feel you are ungracious and not bother buying you anything again but if that doesn't worry you and you'd rather have the money then just try to flog it.

RealBecca · 25/07/2021 21:33

Did someone SPEND that much on the gift or was it an inherited item?

If they bought it i understand why they would be pissed off but ultimately your decision, if it was theirs or an inheritance or family heirloom type of item then no not really ok.

Augtwo · 25/07/2021 21:35

If you have already made the person aware you would like to sell the unwanted gift I suppose you can't now!

But I would of sold it and never mentioned it in the first place.

Prettybubblesintheair · 25/07/2021 21:36

Oh please tell us what it is OP! I’ll admit I am just bloody nosey and want to know! I’m guessing a hot tub or a peloton.

Original poster
Lastsundayinjuly · 25/07/2021 21:36

What in God’s name is a peloton

OP posts:
Catawaul · 25/07/2021 21:38

Coffee machine?

Ewanispurple · 25/07/2021 21:40

Sounds like a peloton!

There's no point in ask the OP what it is, they're thoroughly enjoying the Mystery!

Flutteringwings · 25/07/2021 21:42

Is it a designer bag?

ShakerMakerGirl · 25/07/2021 21:43

I think its a dog. Expensive, would notice and a pain in the arse to look after!

Original poster
Lastsundayinjuly · 25/07/2021 21:43

Tbh, I’m finding it a bit stressful, and I wish people would stop, but they won’t.

It is worth remembering that when someone says no, that should really be respected.

No is a complete sentence. Unless you’re on MN.

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MichelleScarn · 25/07/2021 21:43

it is, it is mildly frustrating that it is there and is not getting any use, when the money would come in handy. That is it, really.

Are you just never able to find the time to use it? Or will you never be able to use it, ever?

GreenMeeple · 25/07/2021 21:43

Give it back to the giver! Thank them for the though but you're not using it. Knowing how expensive it was its better if they give it to someone who will get use out of it or maybe they can get a refund. Again thank them for the though and you really appreciate it.

jaundicedoutlook · 25/07/2021 21:44

@Lastsundayinjuly

What in God’s name is a peloton
One of those connected exercise bikes that come with the annoying advert where some over-keen American says “with me Peloton” in a voice that makes you want to kick her hard in the arse, whilst an energetic graspy looking HR lady pulls a determined face in her IKEA appartment and cycles another 2k into the ether.

Later, Patrick Bateman comes along and chops them all into small pieces.

FawnFrenchieMum · 25/07/2021 21:45

So you’ve said it was from you DP and that your short of cash. Is DP short also or in a position to help you? If so ‘DP I’m really sorry to have to ask but I’m struggling so I was thinking of selling the ‘x’ unless you would prefer me to keep it but help me out in other ways?
Does DP use the said gift?

Boysnme · 25/07/2021 21:46

If it’s your DP I’d sell it. Surely they’d rather you had something you want.

ShakerMakerGirl · 25/07/2021 21:46

OK not a dog....just read gathering dust and not used Hmm

lastcall · 25/07/2021 21:46

I'm assuming your partner/spouse gave you the gift and wants you to keep it. That, imo, means the gift isn't really for you but for your partner (and how giving/having it makes them look to others) which is troublesome in itself.

I'd be blunt: you're not going to use it and it's supposed to be a gift for you. It's unreasonable for it to be sat there like a giant, useless paperweight when there are things you'd actually like. You should be able to sell it or return it without guilt.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 25/07/2021 21:47

Since it is a DP and they aren't happy with it then I don't think I would. It could really damage the relationship.

However, saying that. You said that you could really do with the money. If it made a difference between paying bills and not paying them then yes I would sell it. If you just want some more cash just because, then no I wouldn't

FawnFrenchieMum · 25/07/2021 21:47

Also if you weren’t short of cash would you feel so strongly about not wanting / needing it?

Pinkypie86 · 25/07/2021 21:47

It's a Piano - or similar.
Just mentioned it to my OH - he said straight away, a Piano.

Either way, I'd sell it. You don't need it, it's not contributing to your life ( making it easier or something you enjoy having, using ).

Get rid - buy what you need to buy.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 25/07/2021 21:47

What in God’s name is a peloton
It's an excercise bike thingey and you can excecise at 3am with some inspirational people on your Teams App (or something)
I'd sell that , to me it says 70 you're getting fat and you;re a lazy turd who won't walk more than 20 feet let along go to the gym.

But it's a horse isn't it ? Not broken and rideable but a yearling that cost £££ but will be no good for three years after you've spent further £££ on it ....and you don;t even like horses !