To want to sell a gift

[Lastsundayinjuly]

I was bought an expensive present a few months ago, worth over a thousand pounds.

I don’t use it and won’t have many opportunities to.

I want to sell it but the person who gave it to me is clearly against this.

Is this horribly ungrateful of me or makes sense? (I could really, really use the money.)

Of it's a piano tell your DH you need to sell because it makes financial sense, and you can buy another on the future. Then don't buy another.

Just be glad it's not a Peleton.

If I'd given something expensive to a friend and they didn't want it, but could achieve something they really did want by selling it, I would want them to say so.

"I'm really sorry Korma, I know you thought I'd love that genuine tortoiseshell toilet seat because it goes so well with the elephant's foot umbrella stand, but I have outgrown my taste in recycled dead animals. However, this would help pay towards my trip of a lifetime to Mars. Do you mind if I trade it in? I will think of you all the way to Mars and shower you with blessings and thanks for your generosity."

Regardless of the costs involved, we can't give things to people and expect them to keep them, even if they don't want them. And in fact no one does, do they? Otherwise, imagine what the interiors of our homes would look like by about the age of 35.

Late to this but just a thought... Could you decide something you would spend money on and ask gift giver if that would be ok - in effect you would be making a swap. You could offer gift giver any excess cash.

Hope you resolve it.

@KormasABitch

If I'd given something expensive to a friend and they didn't want it, but could achieve something they really did want by selling it, I would want them to say so.

"I'm really sorry Korma, I know you thought I'd love that genuine tortoiseshell toilet seat because it goes so well with the elephant's foot umbrella stand, but I have outgrown my taste in recycled dead animals. However, this would help pay towards my trip of a lifetime to Mars. Do you mind if I trade it in? I will think of you all the way to Mars and shower you with blessings and thanks for your generosity."

Regardless of the costs involved, we can't give things to people and expect them to keep them, even if they don't want them. And in fact no one does, do they? Otherwise, imagine what the interiors of our homes would look like by about the age of 35.

My mum does! Her house is full of stuff given by other people which she is too sentimental misguided to ditch. We have had many conversations about this. She doesn't love most of it. We should feel no obligation to keep something just because it is a gift.

I get the disappointment with expensive gifts that you then must keep.

I'm a keen hobbyist and have a small time hobby income, and really need a number of things that cost between £500-£1000
These are out of my price range but I always look and dream.

For a special birthday I was given a very very expensive pair of shoes and designer lingerie.

How I wished that it had been my hobbyist wish item(s).

I'm still dreaming.....

You can't sell the item, not ever, your relationship with the giver will be changed and damaged forever.
If they are truly this generous, start dropping hints as to what you really need whist thanking them for their generous gift already given.

@MyOtherProfile LOL!!!!! Funnily enough, my parents are the same! They have this really weird mismatch of bizarre items that they've been given over the past century or so.

Maybe that's why they always urge me not to be sentimental about such things!

Is it a puppy?! Come on you are just teasing us knowing that everyone on here are nosey gits!😂

I am of the "once given, it's yours to do whatever you wish with it" opinion. £1k is a lot of money, nevertheless, I don't understand the situation where someone feels personally insulted when someone does not appreciate a gift. We are all different. we all like different things. Frankly, I would (if only I could!) give the person a cheque. Sell, and be prepared for friend to contort into death throes every time she sees you!