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To want to sell a gift

308 replies

Lastsundayinjuly · 25/07/2021 20:10

I was bought an expensive present a few months ago, worth over a thousand pounds.

I don’t use it and won’t have many opportunities to.

I want to sell it but the person who gave it to me is clearly against this.

Is this horribly ungrateful of me or makes sense? (I could really, really use the money.)

OP posts:
Wingedharpy · 26/07/2021 01:00

If it's fence panels OP, I'll have them off you.Wink

caringcarer · 26/07/2021 01:10

If I loved the person who gifted it to me I would.not sell it. After a while I might confess I don't really use it. If I was not really.close to the gifter I would tell them it was a very kind gift but as I don't use it offer it back to them. I think it is rude to sell a gift. How would selling this gift affect your relationship with gifter?

aspadeaspade · 26/07/2021 01:45

@Lastsundayinjuly

It was well intentioned but not thought through. That is all, really, not necessarily weird.

As it is, it is mildly frustrating that it is there and is not getting any use, when the money would come in handy. That is it, really.

Did he actually miss the mark, or are you only interested in selling it because you need the money?

If you would have kept it and enjoyed it otherwise, then I think selling it is off - presumably he bought it because you wouldn't have spent that kind of money on yourself and he wanted you to have that treat.

If it's just an expensive but shit present... that informs a different answer.

BadNomad · 26/07/2021 01:52

I'll swap it with you for a 5-year-old state-of-the-art electric treadmill. It has a fan n everything. Used twice. Currently being used to store a weighted hula hoop, yoga mat, grip things for planking and something in an Amazon box.

Jenasaurus · 26/07/2021 01:53

Is it a world cruise?

Floralnomad · 26/07/2021 02:26

If the partner doesn’t want to sell it then ask him / her to provide the money you need from another source .

Catflapkitkat · 26/07/2021 03:04

8 pages and she's still not said what it is. And what's with all the 'I'll tell if you tell me why you need to know' melodrama. Attention seeker

MusicTeacherSussex · 26/07/2021 03:29

It's a highly advanced sex doll of her favourite daytime tv presenter or something

If it was a ring, or a piece of tech or furniture I'm sure she wouldn't be to embarrassed to tell us what it is

WrongWayApricot · 26/07/2021 03:32

Of course it matters what it is. Advice for a person sized statue of mickey mouse is different to advice for a tree house, piece of jewellery, fur coat, surfboard, diamond studded dildo, drum kit or a signed poster of putin. It also matters so that most of the replies are useful answers instead of what is it? xx400

Fwiw yabu to sell it if it's so personal you can't mention what sort of category it falls into on an anonymous forum.

sergeilavrov · 26/07/2021 04:12

@WrongWayApricot If it is a signed poster of Putin, I’d like to put a significant offer in. He can have pride of place in my secret pleasure dungeon at the UN Grin

BettyAndFrank · 26/07/2021 04:28

Is it a life size effigy of our lying, fuckwit Bunglecunt? If so I will pay you to hammer nails in it.

Bogeyes · 26/07/2021 04:30

@Lastsundayinjuly

Why would a painted portrait of my baby be resold for a large amount of money?

I didn’t give birth to the messiah.

I did!
frazzledasarock · 26/07/2021 04:39

I would sell it, then when/if the giver notices tell them you have as you needed the money and the gift wasn’t being used.

I’ve sold my jewellery in the past when I needed money. Rather food on the table than trinkets gathering dust.

A gift once given is the recipients to do with as they wish.

breakfasty · 26/07/2021 06:22

@Lastsundayinjuly

Why would a painted portrait of my baby be resold for a large amount of money?

I didn’t give birth to the messiah.

Oh this made me laugh!
breakfasty · 26/07/2021 06:29

If it's small just stash it away for a year or so then sell?
If it's big then I'd be honest and say look, this is a rubbish gift, I'm going to sell it or can you return it. (But nicely).

ShitPoetryClub · 26/07/2021 07:01

The most annoying thread ever.
Just tell whoever, that whatever, isn't suitable.

Sciurus83 · 26/07/2021 07:01

What a dull thread and a mardy OP! Telling people what it is makes your dull thread more interesting for one. But more importantly it helps set the context. Is it a sentimental gift, something that holds resale value or something that lost it's value the second it left the shop floor, something personalised, practical that's never been used, practical that has been used, something easy to sell on or that you would need to seek a specialised market for that people could help you get the most money for? Why is your DP (? did you even deign to say who the gift giver was? I don't remember now the posts were so dull) so upset and doesn't have the same view of the money as you when it comes to this gift? You've given no context for people to offer advice and are getting uppity with anyone who asks questions, so I dunno, sell it don't sell it who cares? Maybe the gift giver is justified in upset, maybe not, we have no way of knowing!

FuzzyPenguin · 26/07/2021 08:04

Would it loose value if you put it away got a bit and then looked at selling it later?
My DH bought me a diamond bracelet for one Christmas which was really not me. I just didn’t wear it using the excuse of it being to expensive, then a few years later said about selling it as I don’t wear it and I wanted the money for something else.

LunaBunaTuna · 26/07/2021 08:09

@FlouncingBabooshka

I love my Thermie but I can see that other might not want one especially if they could do with the money.

thecognoscenti · 26/07/2021 08:14

If it's so specific that you can't possibly mention it on MN because you'd be identified, you probably can't sell it on the open market TBH.

I know you don't want to say what it is OP but it may help people give you suggestions of appropriate places to sell, if that's what you decide to do. If you are going to sell it you presumably want the best price.

SleepingStandingUp · 26/07/2021 08:14

If you want to sell it because you could use the money, do you need a larger conversation about eating money on presents when money is tight?

BloodyMaryplease · 26/07/2021 08:18

It’s obviously a gold-played vibrator.

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Lastsundayinjuly · 26/07/2021 08:22

@Catflapkitkat

8 pages and she's still not said what it is. And what's with all the 'I'll tell if you tell me why you need to know' melodrama. Attention seeker
I sometimes wonder if people type these sort of things and the one calling me a twat and just really think there is a robot behind the screen.

There isn’t, there is a person. I went to school, I went to university, I have friends, I have a child, I have loved ones, I am a human being like you and your words are causing me quite a lot of pain.

I genuinely do not think it is helpful or conducive at this stage to do a big ‘reveal’. I wondered what the equitette was and I can’t sell it, so am stuck with it, but it does seem rather silly, but that’s fair enough.

It isn’t attention seeking, it is everyone else who has decided that this is of such importance they must know, that is not my fault at all.

OP posts:
MyOtherProfile · 26/07/2021 08:29

No idea what the item is, nor who the donor is.
Based on that I would say if it is something with a personal / sentimental attachment don't sell. If it is a generic gift like a laptop or an ornament with no personal connection I'd possibly sell.
If it is from DH or someone who comes round often I'd probably not sell if they were against it. A more distant friend or family member then again I'd possibly sell.

Will it hold its value? Could you sell it in a year when it's not such a recent gift?

Tavannach · 26/07/2021 08:29

See the thing is if DP (yes, I’ll answer that one) happens upon it, it could be a little bit awkward.

Let no man put asunder.

Sell without guilt.