My DH believes the vaccine will result in mass genocide

[IrisTee]

Im at my wits end. It's all he talks about.

He believes that covid has been over dramatised, masks are a waste of time and that the vaccine is going to kill millions of people over the next few years. He thinks it's a "depopulation" exercise and a way to control the masses. He said if I take the vaccine he will leave me.

He's been buying "survivalist" gear such as tents/ shovels/ emergency matches/ god knows what else. There's numerous packages arriving at the house every day. He's spent over a thousand pounds on this stuff.

Aibu to just be sick of the whole bloody thing??? I want to talk about something else, something normal but it all just comes back to this. What would you do?

Do you want the vaccine?

What would I do? Leave, as fast as I can and leave him to it

I told him I was thinking of getting the vaccine this evening and he's left the house.

@omgthepain

For gods sake get the vaccine snd leave the nut job he sounds off his rocker

Why are you even contemplating doing anything else???

Nice. A man OP has been married to for 12 years and who has previously lived a normal life, proper job etc. Just abandoned because his MH has suffered over lockdown?

@IrisTee

I agree Polly, however, I think saying he would leave me if I got it is a bit ott.

Honestly, it's all he talks about and thinks about- I don't know who he is anymore!

Doea he get out to meet people? Some people "broke" during lockdown. I wasn't far🤷🏻 Doea hw have anyone he trusts who could talk to him?

I’d treat this like any other serious health problem if this happened to my DH. I’d support and try to encourage getting some help, whatever form that may take. I’m sorry you find yourself in this difficult situation OP, and I have sympathy for your DH who, in the absence of any previous conspiracy theory beliefs, sounds like the mental health impact of covid has hit him hard.

Shro- he's fallen out with his best mate because of this. They haven't spoken for months.

Has he fallen into the QAnon rabbit hole?
If so there’s some good subs on Reddit for support and ideas.

I really wish he could be a fly on the wall in our trust's hospitals right now. Was just talking to a colleague who's helping to take care of several patients 25-35 who are in critical condition.

Get the jab!

could you start agreeing with him. NOT encouraging him to talk about it but say yes, you could be right. It might wrap up the conversations quicker and also make him feel less like it's him and his allies against the world.

Protect - I wish he could too. He says that the hospitals are not overwhelmed/ that they never were and the govt. is lying to us.

Do you have anything specific you could recommend?

We've had at least one person on icu who simply won't believe that they have covid and that we're lying to them. It's really sad

Do you have children OP?

I agree it sounds like he needs help with his mental health. But if there are children involved I would be worried about the impact his extreme views are having on them as well.

@Pollypocket89

I think the tents etc sound ott but the pp saying do the right thing and have the vaccine etc... People are allowed to have different thoughts on that. If it was that alone, it wouldn't worry me

Whilst the op's dh can refuse the vaccine he shouldn't be telling his partner she isn't allowed it either. By telling her he will leave her if he has it, he is acting wrong.

@IrisTee

Shro- he's fallen out with his best mate because of this. They haven't spoken for months.

I agree with the pp under. Have a look at the support for yourself as well as him.

He is temporarily broken, that's it. You get your jab.

Maybe Mind can provide some guidance too.

I would protect yourself and get the vaccine . No need to tell him , adleast you’ll have peace of mind ?!

Get the jab, and hope he leaves, along with his fucking tent.

Honestly, I’d have a really low threshold for this, and spending £1000s of household money on tinfoil hats would be over the line for me. Threatening to leave me for having a vaccine? I’d be helping him pack,

There is a support group in Reddit for people in your situation.

www.reddit.com/r/QAnonCasualties/

QAnon believes in the same sort of thing as your h does with added Trump conspiracies added to the mix

Such a distressing situation-these people are very anxious and displaying ineffective coping skills. Unfortunately, if he doesn't admit there's a problem he's 99% likely to refuse to seek help. If he stays in this mindset you're going to need to leave with your children if you have any.

I'd take the vaccine and hope that he leaves tbh. He sounds seriously unwell but he is unlikely to engage with professional help so I think you need to decide if you want to live like this indefinitely.

get the jab, don't tell him and then seek help for him. if he won't get help - leave

He is not alone in his thoughts.

I have a friend I have known since we were 13. Close friends throughout secondary school.

She is obsessed with all these theories and spent an hour ranting at me down the phone about how my life would only be saved if I would listen to her.

I gently explained I had already had the jab and she hung up. She has now written to say we can never be friends again !!

I am stunned. No hint of that coming and I am still struggling to understand why.

I'd be seriously concerned about his mental health.

He's recently discovered Michael Yeadon's videos and watches them constantly.

Sometimes I just don't know what to say, what the guy is saying is his own opinion. But to listen to the one dissenting voice in a sea of thousands? Why?

He won't even watch the regular news anymore because it makes him too angry.

Inmylife- sounds very similar to what happened with him and his best friend. They no longer talk. Which is very sad.

If you have children you have to think of them first. He doesn't sound well at all, but you can't force a grown man to get help. You can, however, get the vaccine and protect yourself from his Qanon nonsense. It's one thing to choose not to have the vaccine, this is another level. Too much internet for this man.