Sister in law gave my son covid

[Hijabigirl234]

I’m still fuming right now,but basically we went to visit my sister in laws house on Saturday the 17th ( their household is our bubble) she said nothing to us about being next to someone who tested positive for covid,nothing. She was there kissing my kids and everything ( they are 5&4), this Tuesday the 20th comes around,it’s Eid and my sons birthday party ( he’s 4 today!) I spoke to her the night before,my husband saw her the night before, she came with her family to our house for the party even knowing my dad who is fully jabbed but still vunerable was their, she said nothing. Early hours of wed morning my son jumped into bed with me, and he was coughing a cough I have never heard before ( sounding very dry and almost like a bark) I knew nothing at this point but I don’t know why I had a feeling he had covid. Wed afternoon my sister in law texts me a picture saying “ guess what my covid test is positive. last wed I was next to my friend we went to the gym together,and my friend tested positive on Friday. I have been feeling really unwell since Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to ruin my eid day to go out because I’d have to isolate."

Just think, this woman not only came to my house, but afterwards went to her husbands family house who has a large family,the same woman who since Monday has been going out here their and everywhere without a mask whilst knowing she was close to someone with covid and herself showing symptoms.

I can’t stop being so angry, I think she is extremely selfish that she had not 1,but 2 opportunities to tell us she had been next to someone with covid and showing symptoms, my 4 year old son,who’s birthday is today has tested positive for covid and he’s coughing too ( me,my husband and daughter have tested neg)

AIBU to think she is the most selfish person to do this,to go all these places knowing her situation very well, to come inside my house kissing and hugging my children knowing she has symptoms and knowing she most likely had covid. I was so angry last night that I told my husband to call his sister and kick of because this behaviour is disgusting, he shouted at me and said well it’s wrong but what can I do now.

The thing that makes me more angry is,is that when my little boys test came back positive, she was sending laughing emojis ( 🤣😂) so it’s clearly just all a very big joke to her.

What a lovely 4th birthday present she has given to her nephew.

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It really is the era of personal responsibility. And I can see just how badly that is working out...how many fallings out will there be with friends/family? Are you ruining the party/wedding by going if you have symptoms but don't test - or are you ruining it all by not going if you are aware others have tested incorrectly (or not at all). This is an unenviable dilemma we will all face at some point now...

Yup we’ve already had the dilemma. We are going to go, despite people refusing to do lateral flows to protect older, vulnerable people. It’s an uncomfortable situation.

Not a popular view on here but I'd be worried at the amount of others they are probably spreading it to. It's not an exaggeration to say that along the line people will be seriously ill because of their actions and the worst part is they dont even care. I think I'd be calling their work places and gym etc etc and telling them to be honest

@MzHz

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Good god @LivMumsnet how bad WAS the original post, it’s still barely comprehensible

It wasn't bad at all. I'm dyslexic and it was perfectly clear who said what.

@MzHz

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Good god @LivMumsnet how bad WAS the original post, it’s still barely comprehensible

It wasn't that bad. And it's a bit shitty to have a go at someone who is a) very upset and b) may not have English as her first language.

Can’t comment as I didn’t see the original post

And I’m hardly having a go!

@MzHz - And I’m hardly having a go!

If that's your version of not having a go, I'd hate to see you actually having a go.

You can’t read tone in posts

Pack it in now. No harm meant.

@MzHz

You can’t read tone in posts

Pack it in now. No harm meant.

No, you can't read tone but stating that something written by someone else is barely comprehensible, is not, with any tone, a particularly pleasant thing to say unless they have asked for feedback on the text.

I hope you managed to stage a photo without your DS realising, of him sitting by himself at a table with empty chairs either side where his party friends were supposed to be, to send to your SIL...

@MzHz

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Good god @LivMumsnet how bad WAS the original post, it’s still barely comprehensible

@MzHz

Perhaps you need to re-read the post. I understood it perfectly well 🤷‍♀️

Absolutely no need for this rude comment.

@BestZebbie

I hope you managed to stage a photo without your DS realising, of him sitting by himself at a table with empty chairs either side where his party friends were supposed to be, to send to your SIL...

Why put the child through this to get back at the SIL?

Very strange thing to suggest, sorry.

Morning - we've deleted a goady post from the thread. Just to be clear, we simply added a quote mark to the end of a sentence in the OP so that it was clear what the OP's SIL had said to her. Hopefully everyone can get back to offering the OP advice now.

Hope your DS is much better soon, @Hijabigirl234.

Update - dd ( 5 and a half) started showing symptoms yesterday ( tested negative at the same as ds testing positive ) ds still just has a cough but dd is very sleepy, keeps trying because she’s saying she’s feeling very dizzy and her tummy’s hurting, she also bas a sore throat and a very high temp 😔 I’m not feeling to well myself tbh. My husbands brother, who lives with my sister in law has had a high temp for 5 days but they are still all going out.

Should I get my dd tested again or just assume it as covid considering my son has already tested positive and we are all isolating anyway ?

I'm sorry to hear your DD is feeling unwell now too. I think you are supposed to get her tested too as she has symptoms and it might extend the time you need to isolate (I'm not sure about that). Hope they both get better soon.

So they’ve infected you three and numerous others, some of which will infect many more. One families selfish behaviour could potentially lead to hundreds/thousands of others being ill, dying?, financial hardship, holidays lost and many other consequences!

And we wonder why we are in the mess we are. I couldn’t talk to them ever again.

Hope your family recover soon

I think you should all - DD, you, DH - take PCR tests again

And tell your ILs that they're potentially killing people and need to stay the fuck at home.

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this, and I hope you're all well again quickly