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Sister in law gave my son covid

191 replies

Hijabigirl234 · 22/07/2021 09:15

I’m still fuming right now,but basically we went to visit my sister in laws house on Saturday the 17th ( their household is our bubble) she said nothing to us about being next to someone who tested positive for covid,nothing. She was there kissing my kids and everything ( they are 5&4), this Tuesday the 20th comes around,it’s Eid and my sons birthday party ( he’s 4 today!) I spoke to her the night before,my husband saw her the night before, she came with her family to our house for the party even knowing my dad who is fully jabbed but still vunerable was their, she said nothing. Early hours of wed morning my son jumped into bed with me, and he was coughing a cough I have never heard before ( sounding very dry and almost like a bark) I knew nothing at this point but I don’t know why I had a feeling he had covid. Wed afternoon my sister in law texts me a picture saying “ guess what my covid test is positive. last wed I was next to my friend we went to the gym together,and my friend tested positive on Friday. I have been feeling really unwell since Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to ruin my eid day to go out because I’d have to isolate."

Just think, this woman not only came to my house, but afterwards went to her husbands family house who has a large family,the same woman who since Monday has been going out here their and everywhere without a mask whilst knowing she was close to someone with covid and herself showing symptoms.

I can’t stop being so angry, I think she is extremely selfish that she had not 1,but 2 opportunities to tell us she had been next to someone with covid and showing symptoms, my 4 year old son,who’s birthday is today has tested positive for covid and he’s coughing too ( me,my husband and daughter have tested neg)

AIBU to think she is the most selfish person to do this,to go all these places knowing her situation very well, to come inside my house kissing and hugging my children knowing she has symptoms and knowing she most likely had covid. I was so angry last night that I told my husband to call his sister and kick of because this behaviour is disgusting, he shouted at me and said well it’s wrong but what can I do now.

The thing that makes me more angry is,is that when my little boys test came back positive, she was sending laughing emojis ( 🤣😂) so it’s clearly just all a very big joke to her.

What a lovely 4th birthday present she has given to her nephew.

post edited by MNHQ in order to avoid further confusion

OP posts:
IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 22/07/2021 10:23

I’d be furious and that would be the end of contact for me.

I’ve seen many posts recently though re not testing so people can still go and do things or not bothering when told to isolate. Not hard to see why we have so many cases.

DoubleTweenQueen · 22/07/2021 10:24

Who on earth are the 10% who think YABU??

RevolvingPivot · 22/07/2021 10:25

@SpringSparrow @WhoNeedsaManOfTheWorld @MissyB1

Did you not notice the "" !!!!!! So rude!!

RevolvingPivot · 22/07/2021 10:26

@MissyB1

Speech marks, it’s all about speech marks.
😳
Chicchicchicchiclana · 22/07/2021 10:27

Yanbu to be raging with your sister in law, what a selfish arse she is.

I'm worried that hundreds of thousands of people have this attitude now - they think we can be more relaxed about the rules because of vaccination and just because, well, we've had Freedom Day!

There is an ugly storm brewing.

TempName01 · 22/07/2021 10:27

I would report them to be honest, everyone she has been in contact with should be isolating. What an absolute selfish idiot!

gurglebelly · 22/07/2021 10:29

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

You are a massive hypocrite.

You've been feeling unwell since Monday but didn't want to take a test in case it 'ruined your plans'?

It could be YOU that has infected everyone!

I'm just blown away by your arrogance and stupidity.

Read the thread, OP has explained several times that it's her SIL that has been feeling unwell since Monday NOT the OP
RevolvingPivot · 22/07/2021 10:29

I'm dyslexic and even I understood she meant her sister.

FunnyWonder · 22/07/2021 10:31

OP HAS NOT, I SAY NOT, PASSED COVID TO HER SON OR ANYONE ELSE. IT WAS THE SISTER-IN-LAW!!

Ah that's better.

@Hijabigirl234 I'm so sorry your DS has Covid due to your SIL's utterly reckless behaviour and hope he isn't too ill with it and that the rest of your family remain negative. My nephew (9yo) had Covid a couple of weeks ago and is right as rain now. He did, however, catch it in a similar situation. He went to his dad's house and SIL only found out afterwards that all the dad's workmates had tested positive and that he had symptoms he knew about BEFORE he spent the day with his child. People are unbelievable!

Sillysuzie · 22/07/2021 10:32

@DoubleTweenQueen

Who on earth are the 10% who think YABU??
Covid deniers most likely
roguetomato · 22/07/2021 10:33

Of course it's reasonable for you to get angry and upset. But it sounds like your sil is one of those people who thinks covid is just a flu and don't take it seriously. No point in getting angry at those people. Nothing will get through to them.
Hope your dc has speedy recovery and lovely birthday.

gamerchick · 22/07/2021 10:35

She's selfish and stupid. Tell her, thanks to her selfishness your kid is missing his birthday and you would prefer she kept her distance from your family while you feel so angry with her. Then block the twat.

I've fell out with family over this thing and am in no hurry to speak to them again tbh. People's selfishness boggles my head.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 22/07/2021 10:35

@gurglebelly

Read the thread, OP has explained several times that it's her SIL that has been feeling unwell since Monday NOT the OP

Read my update and retraction.

DaisyWaldron · 22/07/2021 10:35

I voted YABU because I misunderstood the speech marks and thought the OP was being a massive hypocrite, complaining about other people spreading Covid but gadding around with symptoms after being contact who tested positive. I suspect the rest of the 10% were similarly confused.

lboogy · 22/07/2021 10:35

Wow you it sister in law is a piece of work. If your husband won't do it then
I'd call her and give her a piece of my mind.

Shocking behaviour - especially with vulnerable relatives about

Hadjab · 22/07/2021 10:36

[quote dementedpixie]@Hijabigirl234 you wrote a confusing post with only some of your SILs words in speech marks. You can't berate people for getting confused when you haven't been clear with who said what[/quote]
She can certainly berate people for not reading the full effing thread though! It’s been established it was the SIL, and yet people are still going full grammar police and jumping to the wrong conclusion/deliberately ignoring the fact that reading comprehension isn’t that hard, even without speech marks 🤦🏼‍♀️

Taliskerskye · 22/07/2021 10:36

I read the op once
Made sense to me. Not that well written but I got the bones of it

She’s a twat.

RevolvingPivot · 22/07/2021 10:36

THE OP DOES NOT HAVE COVID! I don't know why I'm so wound up by this!!!!

lboogy · 22/07/2021 10:36

And I'm not sure why people are confused by your post. It was perfectly understandable to me . With it without the quotations

DaisyWaldron · 22/07/2021 10:37

Because obviously the OP is NBU, and her SIL's behaviour was outrageous.

OldTurtleNewShell · 22/07/2021 10:38

@thenakedmolerat

Meh. Did you used to fume if someone passed on a cold?
Honestly, yes. If someone knew they had cold symptoms and went around hugging and kissing my kids, then I'd be pissed off. There's a reason we blow our noses into tissues and cover our mouths if we cough. It's basic good manners. This isn't that different. Add in the additional risk for covid, and it's beyond rude and irresponsible. OP's son is young and will almost certainly recover just fine, but he's still poorly and coughing on his birthday because someone was selfish enough to not stay away when she knew she might be contagious.
PrettyBlunt · 22/07/2021 10:38

I have been feeling really unwell since Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to “ruin my eid day to go out ” because I’d have to isolate.

Yes I thought this was you. Not your SIL. You also said son not nephew.

MrsR87 · 22/07/2021 10:39

@thenakedmolerat

Meh. Did you used to fume if someone passed on a cold?
It’s not the same at all though is it!?! Even if the symptoms are “just like a cold” because you’ve been jabbed or are just lucky, it’s the inconvenience it causes too. Having to isolate and feel poorly in your 4th birthday is horrible and made so much worse by the fact that it is his Aunt who almost certainly gave it to him and had the knowledge and every opportunity not to.

OP YANBU! Not at all. I am so cross for you! Accidents happen and it can be spread so easily by people with no symptoms and you can’t really blame anyone for this. However, this is a cold and calculated move by someone who should care immensely for their nephew. They put their social life first, knowing there was a good chance they had it, and have now infected their nephew. I’d be so angry!

Taliskerskye · 22/07/2021 10:39

@PrettyBlunt
Why would her sil say nephew when she was talking about her son.

OP delete this thread and start a new one so it’s easier for the hard of thinking

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 22/07/2021 10:39

What a total dick. Even if she doesn’t believe in covid then surely she still understands that she has ruined your sons plans. I would text her saying
‘So you knew you had been in contact with someone who was positive and you had symptoms but you decided not to test and came over without telling us? Why?’
I’m so confused by her behaviour I’d like to know her justification.