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Sister in law gave my son covid

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Hijabigirl234 · 22/07/2021 09:15

I’m still fuming right now,but basically we went to visit my sister in laws house on Saturday the 17th ( their household is our bubble) she said nothing to us about being next to someone who tested positive for covid,nothing. She was there kissing my kids and everything ( they are 5&4), this Tuesday the 20th comes around,it’s Eid and my sons birthday party ( he’s 4 today!) I spoke to her the night before,my husband saw her the night before, she came with her family to our house for the party even knowing my dad who is fully jabbed but still vunerable was their, she said nothing. Early hours of wed morning my son jumped into bed with me, and he was coughing a cough I have never heard before ( sounding very dry and almost like a bark) I knew nothing at this point but I don’t know why I had a feeling he had covid. Wed afternoon my sister in law texts me a picture saying “ guess what my covid test is positive. last wed I was next to my friend we went to the gym together,and my friend tested positive on Friday. I have been feeling really unwell since Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to ruin my eid day to go out because I’d have to isolate."

Just think, this woman not only came to my house, but afterwards went to her husbands family house who has a large family,the same woman who since Monday has been going out here their and everywhere without a mask whilst knowing she was close to someone with covid and herself showing symptoms.

I can’t stop being so angry, I think she is extremely selfish that she had not 1,but 2 opportunities to tell us she had been next to someone with covid and showing symptoms, my 4 year old son,who’s birthday is today has tested positive for covid and he’s coughing too ( me,my husband and daughter have tested neg)

AIBU to think she is the most selfish person to do this,to go all these places knowing her situation very well, to come inside my house kissing and hugging my children knowing she has symptoms and knowing she most likely had covid. I was so angry last night that I told my husband to call his sister and kick of because this behaviour is disgusting, he shouted at me and said well it’s wrong but what can I do now.

The thing that makes me more angry is,is that when my little boys test came back positive, she was sending laughing emojis ( 🤣😂) so it’s clearly just all a very big joke to her.

What a lovely 4th birthday present she has given to her nephew.

post edited by MNHQ in order to avoid further confusion

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Budapestdreams · 22/07/2021 09:35

I understood your post OP, and yes she was selfish and irresponsible. I would be mad too, not least because your whole family has to isolate for 10 days now as your son has Covid. You can't go to the shops or the park and it's because she didn't isolate or get a test when she first had symptoms.

PullTheWeeds · 22/07/2021 09:35

Sorry, took me so long to write that I see everyone else has already said that!

Youdiditanyway · 22/07/2021 09:36

YANBU, she’s a selfish twat. She should have isolated as soon as she found out her friend had tested positive but definitely as soon as she got symptoms. Instead she’s spread it around her family because she didn’t want to ruin Eid. Nice one.

Elkey · 22/07/2021 09:38

I didn't find your post confusing at all! Yanbu. I'm quite relaxed about covid personally, but the situation you describe is extremely annoying and your SIL is very unreasonable and selfish.

Hijabigirl234 · 22/07/2021 09:38

She also has it in her head, this is her words not mine “ that only I have tested positive so my husband and kids are still going out, it said on the news that only I need to isolate because I’m the one who’s tested positive not my household) pretty sure that the whole household has to isolate,which I told her. But she’s calling me a liar and saying that’s not the case and her husband has gone of happily to work this morning, their are 6 people in their household to.

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SpringSparrow · 22/07/2021 09:40

Ah, apologies, I read it as the SIL said the bit in the speech marks, and the next bit being about the OP. Yes, I would be angry with the SIL too. She has been very selfish and spread it all around your family.

SummerBreeze1980 · 22/07/2021 09:41

It is the OPs sister in law with symptoms and not testing not the OP!

Yes, it was very selfish of her. I hope your little boy is not too ill and feels much better soon. How is he now? Not the birthday you expected but I hope he can still enjoy some type of celebration Cake

AdelindSchade · 22/07/2021 09:42

Absolutely selfish idiot. I'm not surprised you are raging.

The post is perfectly understandable.

Hijabigirl234 · 22/07/2021 09:43

@SummerBreeze1980

It is the OPs sister in law with symptoms and not testing not the OP!

Yes, it was very selfish of her. I hope your little boy is not too ill and feels much better soon. How is he now? Not the birthday you expected but I hope he can still enjoy some type of celebration Cake

Got a bad cough at the moment, just praying it won’t be more than that for him and that it’s only mind. I’ve been panicking so much because he’s only little.😒
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Sarcobaleno · 22/07/2021 09:43

Your post was clear to me. Your SIL is a selfish arsehole. I hope you are all ok and your son can enjoy his birthday at home.

eurochick · 22/07/2021 09:44

Your SIL is a fucking idiot. And so is her husband, who should be isolating. How incredibly selfish they have been.

SpringSparrow · 22/07/2021 09:44

How can we be so far into this pandemic and people still don’t think they should isolate! Honestly she needs someone to talk to her and tell her that all the family need to isolate! Where is the husband working?!

Hijabigirl234 · 22/07/2021 09:46

@SpringSparrow

How can we be so far into this pandemic and people still don’t think they should isolate! Honestly she needs someone to talk to her and tell her that all the family need to isolate! Where is the husband working?!
In an office, so an enclosed space too. I’ve said all this and apparently I’m a liar and she’s heard it on the news that only those in the household who tested positive need to isolate. She’s clearly making it up about “hearing this on the news” I’ve heard no such thing.
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GoWalkabout · 22/07/2021 09:47

Please tell her that you think she and her family are putting others at risk and then blank her. I hope you all feel better soon. I wonder if she was contracted by track and trace after being next to her friend in the gym - in which case she has broken the law.

Budapestdreams · 22/07/2021 09:47

Her family are all out and about spreading it too? Great!

FreeBritnee · 22/07/2021 09:47

What sense of entitlement must she have to operate like this? Completely bizarre.

AvaCallanach · 22/07/2021 09:47

Your sister's whole family should be isolating. It's highly likely that at least some of them are also infected.

Fwiw 3 of us got infected - despite being vaccinated.

Mindymomo · 22/07/2021 09:49

Quite frankly your SIL is an idiot, firstly by not isolating after being near someone who tested positive. Then feeling ill and not telling anyone, as her family should have started isolating then and getting a PCR test and lastly seeing other people.

I would certainly have strong words with her, no emojis needed, words speak more. Selfish person.

Sorry for you child, I hope he’s ok.

dementedpixie · 22/07/2021 09:49

The speech marks should have surrounded everything sil said. I took it that the next bit was relating to the OP.

Maybe you are getting told you are unreasonable by some people due to the way the OP is written

Kokapetl · 22/07/2021 09:49

I would be fuming too. I really hope your son is ok. Although they are less likely to be seriously affected kids can still get long coved and we just don't know the long term problems it may cause.

I would seriously consider reporting her and her family for failure to self isolate. What they are doing is dangerous.

Aprilx · 22/07/2021 09:50

@SheABitSpicyToday

Op forgot the speech marks but it’s obvious what she meant
Well she didn’t forget them, she put them around one short sentence “guess what my covid test was positive” and then proceeds to write about having symptoms outside the quotation marks. Hence she was misunderstood, as it was an unclearly written post.
WhatsWithAllTheCarrots · 22/07/2021 09:51

YANBU. She's an idiot. Her family should be isolating - if she's tested positive with a PCR then test and trace should have been in touch and told her family to isolate. It's awful that they are out and about.

TeaDrinker98 · 22/07/2021 09:52

@SheABitSpicyToday

Op forgot the speech marks but it’s obvious what she meant
@SheABitSpicyToday

I agree, it was super obvious that she was talking about her SIL, and not herself lol

catfunk · 22/07/2021 09:52

How close was she to the person who had tested positive ? Did she definitely get it from them?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 22/07/2021 09:52

You are a massive hypocrite.

You've been feeling unwell since Monday but didn't want to take a test in case it 'ruined your plans'?

It could be YOU that has infected everyone!

I'm just blown away by your arrogance and stupidity.