Sister in law gave my son covid

[Hijabigirl234]

I’m still fuming right now,but basically we went to visit my sister in laws house on Saturday the 17th ( their household is our bubble) she said nothing to us about being next to someone who tested positive for covid,nothing. She was there kissing my kids and everything ( they are 5&4), this Tuesday the 20th comes around,it’s Eid and my sons birthday party ( he’s 4 today!) I spoke to her the night before,my husband saw her the night before, she came with her family to our house for the party even knowing my dad who is fully jabbed but still vunerable was their, she said nothing. Early hours of wed morning my son jumped into bed with me, and he was coughing a cough I have never heard before ( sounding very dry and almost like a bark) I knew nothing at this point but I don’t know why I had a feeling he had covid. Wed afternoon my sister in law texts me a picture saying “ guess what my covid test is positive. last wed I was next to my friend we went to the gym together,and my friend tested positive on Friday. I have been feeling really unwell since Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to ruin my eid day to go out because I’d have to isolate."

Just think, this woman not only came to my house, but afterwards went to her husbands family house who has a large family,the same woman who since Monday has been going out here their and everywhere without a mask whilst knowing she was close to someone with covid and herself showing symptoms.

I can’t stop being so angry, I think she is extremely selfish that she had not 1,but 2 opportunities to tell us she had been next to someone with covid and showing symptoms, my 4 year old son,who’s birthday is today has tested positive for covid and he’s coughing too ( me,my husband and daughter have tested neg)

AIBU to think she is the most selfish person to do this,to go all these places knowing her situation very well, to come inside my house kissing and hugging my children knowing she has symptoms and knowing she most likely had covid. I was so angry last night that I told my husband to call his sister and kick of because this behaviour is disgusting, he shouted at me and said well it’s wrong but what can I do now.

The thing that makes me more angry is,is that when my little boys test came back positive, she was sending laughing emojis ( 🤣😂) so it’s clearly just all a very big joke to her.

What a lovely 4th birthday present she has given to her nephew.

post edited by MNHQ in order to avoid further confusion

YADNBU! I'd be furious, and would tell her so myself. That's a very selfish and ungrateful thing to do. As for your husband 'shouting' at you for asking him to talk to her?! I'd tell him where to go..clearly he doesn't put the welfare and safety of your child/ren first. Your poor little boy (I hope he gets better very soon) it may not be the Eid celebration and birthday you were hoping for, but you could still have a small intimate garden party with everyone from your household? (And silver linings- you don't have to invite the idiotic creature that purposefully infected your child and put other vunerable family members at risk ) x

And people will continue to just read your OP rather than your updates so will reply to that

Not unreasonable at all, but the reality is that this is the government's plan. Herd immunity by any means possible, and no thought for the vulnerable.

@Orf1abc Indeed.

Doesn't excuse this woman's selfish attitude but her and other like her will fuel the above effortlessly.

A senior World Health Organization official has accused the UK of “moral emptiness and epidemiological stupidity”

www.telegraph.co.uk/global-health/science-and-disease/moral-emptiness-epidemiological-stupidity-condemns-uk-covid/

“The abrupt rise in UK delta variant cases will not only engender more Long Covid, but has also already resulted in more severe illness, with hospitalisations and deaths,” Prof Topol said. “Taking more time to further improve vaccination rates should help reduce the toll of this superspreader strain.”

“Even assuming that approximately 20 per cent of unvaccinated people are protected by previous Sars-CoV-2 infection, this still leaves more than 17 million people with no protection against Covid-19,” the letter says.

“Given this, and the high transmissibility of the Sars-CoV-2 delta variant, exponential growth will probably continue until millions more people are infected, leaving hundreds of thousands of people with long-term illness and disability.”

It adds that allowing widespread transmission “provides fertile ground for the emergency of vaccine-resistant variants”, while high transmission rates will disproportionately impact deprived communities and lead to “significant educational disruption” as Covid spreads through schools.

OP you're getting such a hard time here for missing a few speech marks.

It was perfectly understandable to me, especially given the rest of your post that it was your SIL who had been feeling unwell and refused to isolate

I would be beyond livid with her. Utterly selfish.

[quote dementedpixie]@Hijabigirl234 you wrote a confusing post with only some of your SILs words in speech marks. You can't berate people for getting confused when you haven't been clear with who said what[/quote]
Yes and I realise now I did mistakes with my OP as I said I was writing in a rush and angry and didn’t write it properly. However people should read a bit further down in the comments before just commenting saying that I’m selfish, o know it may be confusing how I wrote it but the majority of people understood perfectly what o meant.

@Hijabigirl234

Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to “ruin my eid day to go out ” because I’d have to isolate.

Hypocrite much?!?

I don't think the majority of people are understanding perfectly what you meant. Lots of people reading it the way i did at first

@SheABitSpicyToday

Op forgot the speech marks but it’s obvious what she meant

Yes, totally obvious. I think people are being a bit disingenuous claiming they don't understand.

Op - if your dh won't call her, can you not call her? I wouldn't have anything to do with her again after that. It's so inconsiderate. It would be bad enough with any other illness but with covid, everyone is aware of the symptoms and knows what they need to do to prevent its spread. The fact she delayed the test in order to enjoy Eid just shows how selfish she is.

I also misunderstood and thought you were saying you had ignored symptoms. But I RTFT before commenting! She's totally totally unreasonable, I'd be furious with her too.
Really try not to worry about your son though. He'll be fine. Little ones bounce back so fast, and covid really doesn't seem to impact them badly.

Read the thread!!!!!! It is her SIL who didn't take the covid test not her!!!

She sent a laughing emoji?! What the fuck?!
YANBU to be fuming.

Reminds me of pre-covid times when my friend came over to give my DC their Christmas presents. A couple of hours in, her daughter vomits. She then casually mentions her child has had D&V yesterday and today but didn’t want her to miss out on the Christmas celebrations.
Literally the next day both my DC start complaining of being unwell and then both start with D&V the day before we were supposed to be going away for our Christmas break (which she knew about and was all paid for).

I know this term is overused on MN but some people are so selfish!!! There’s no excuse for this!

Another sorry - didn’t understand. Yes very selfish. But what can you do? Hope you’re all better soon.

@AdelindSchade

Absolutely selfish idiot. I'm not surprised you are raging.

The post is perfectly understandable.

Well, yes, it is, once you've read it a couple of times but the speech marks are in the wrong place and grammar is there for a reason.

I would be raging at her. How selfish and irresponsible. I'd struggle to be civil to her, especially if anyone became particularly unwell with it.

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

You are a massive hypocrite.

You've been feeling unwell since Monday but didn't want to take a test in case it 'ruined your plans'?

It could be YOU that has infected everyone!

I'm just blown away by your arrogance and stupidity.

I'm blown away by your lack of critical thinking. Don't be dense, re-reading it a second time would have made it clearer. OP is clearly stressed about her sick child and thick as shit SIL, give her a break.

OP, I'm not surprised you're furious. I'd cut off SIL completely tbh - she can make that decision for herself to know her friend is positive but carry on but she completely removed your family's choice to be around her by not saying anything. She lied and she's an arrogant bitch into the bargain. Whatever about short term effects, but the long term effects of covid for a child and vulnerable person? She's a dangerous fool.

And I'd probably phone her husband's workplace and inform them anonymously. But then I'm petty like that. All bridges would be burned as far as I'm concerned. You don't endanger my child and send a laughing emoji.

I think we've established what the OP meant not and of course she is writing out or pure upset and frustration, so understandable that it may not be the most coherent post. OP I would be absolutely furious if I were you. So sorry

There’s a massive difference between accidentally unsuspectingly infecting someone and knowing you’ve been in contact with a positive case and socialising as normal even when feeling unwell

@Hijabigirl234, your posts are confusing to say the least. I took your post at face value and that they were your words.

However, if this is what your SIL said and did, she was indeed extremely selfish.

Text her back ‘utterly selfish behaviour on your part which potentially could have serious health implications on others who catch it from you or those you infect’

In an office, so an enclosed space too. I’ve said all this and apparently I’m a liar and she’s heard it on the news that only those in the household who tested positive need to isolate. She’s clearly making it up about “hearing this on the news” I’ve heard no such thing.

It's so unfortunate for her and her family that you'll be giving their details to Test and Trace as a close contact of your son, right? And so they'll legally have to isolate from when they had contact with him.

@Hijabigirl234its not the speech marks , your SIL would have text saying my nephew, not son. Maybe ask for your post to be edited.

Omg, I would be so furious. I’m not sure I could ever bring myself to ever speak to her again.
And the not isolating the family is horrendous. I’d be giving her both barrels and not holding back on how irresponsible they are. She would certainly know how furious I was - not just mildly upset.

I would be pissed off too but tbh, you went over her house, allowed the kids to kiss and cuddle people, loads of people have covid and are not aware of it, many people have been in contact with covid and don’t know it as they don’t have the NHS app. The only way not to get it is to stay away from everyone. Yes SIL was stupid to invite you over knowing full well she had been in close contact but we are all at risk of catching it especially if we are hugging and kissing people that don’t live with us.

At least your ds will now have antibodies for when he returns to school.

Omg read the thread! Stop berating the Op for a post that you couldn’t understand, but many did. Posters are not top journalists with editors. Some spell things wrong. Some have a stupid autocorrect that wrong word. Some don’t use speech marks. But on the whole the posts are understandable if you read them rather than skim them or you read the thread!

Sorry Op, your SIL is having just about the most selfish response to this that I have ever heard. No way she’d be coming to my house again and she’d be getting a huge earful if it was me. She purposely put lives at risk so she could have a nice day 🤦‍♀️ And now she denies knowledge of the isolation rules. I’m not normally a “report them” person, but I would in this case. Not only is she putting more lives at risk by letting her family go out, but chances are they will be stopping the holidays of a lot of their kids friends when they all get told to isolate or get it through school. They need to all isolate now and she needs a reality check!

I'd message her, point out that thanks to her your child is ill and his birthday party cancelled, and you don't really see why she finds it funny
Then I'd ignore her completely

Yanbu, that’s absolutely outrageous. I’m so sorry about your poor son, hope he’s on the mend soon ❤️