Sister in law gave my son covid

[Hijabigirl234]

I’m still fuming right now,but basically we went to visit my sister in laws house on Saturday the 17th ( their household is our bubble) she said nothing to us about being next to someone who tested positive for covid,nothing. She was there kissing my kids and everything ( they are 5&4), this Tuesday the 20th comes around,it’s Eid and my sons birthday party ( he’s 4 today!) I spoke to her the night before,my husband saw her the night before, she came with her family to our house for the party even knowing my dad who is fully jabbed but still vunerable was their, she said nothing. Early hours of wed morning my son jumped into bed with me, and he was coughing a cough I have never heard before ( sounding very dry and almost like a bark) I knew nothing at this point but I don’t know why I had a feeling he had covid. Wed afternoon my sister in law texts me a picture saying “ guess what my covid test is positive. last wed I was next to my friend we went to the gym together,and my friend tested positive on Friday. I have been feeling really unwell since Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to ruin my eid day to go out because I’d have to isolate."

Just think, this woman not only came to my house, but afterwards went to her husbands family house who has a large family,the same woman who since Monday has been going out here their and everywhere without a mask whilst knowing she was close to someone with covid and herself showing symptoms.

I can’t stop being so angry, I think she is extremely selfish that she had not 1,but 2 opportunities to tell us she had been next to someone with covid and showing symptoms, my 4 year old son,who’s birthday is today has tested positive for covid and he’s coughing too ( me,my husband and daughter have tested neg)

AIBU to think she is the most selfish person to do this,to go all these places knowing her situation very well, to come inside my house kissing and hugging my children knowing she has symptoms and knowing she most likely had covid. I was so angry last night that I told my husband to call his sister and kick of because this behaviour is disgusting, he shouted at me and said well it’s wrong but what can I do now.

The thing that makes me more angry is,is that when my little boys test came back positive, she was sending laughing emojis ( 🤣😂) so it’s clearly just all a very big joke to her.

What a lovely 4th birthday present she has given to her nephew.

post edited by MNHQ in order to avoid further confusion

Maybe your son gave it to them? You really don't know. You can't stop a virus from spreading.

[quote Taliskerskye]@PrettyBlunt
Why would her sil say nephew when she was talking about her son.

OP delete this thread and start a new one so it’s easier for the hard of thinking[/quote]
Because she was quoting what her SIL said so it would be nephews birthday not sons birthday. If the OP was saying it as she said it then yes it would be sons birthday. But she wasn't she was quoting SIL. Sorry you're so hard of thinking .

@wasthataburp

Maybe your son gave it to them? You really don't know. You can't stop a virus from spreading.

...I mean other than following govt advice, isolating and testing as soon as you get symptoms 🤷🏻‍♀️ Like the SIL should have done....

"You can't stop a virus from spreading"
Not at a national level but at an individual level of course you can. I've isolated when I've had the flu before and various family members have isolated when they've had sickness bugs and it's not spread

Awful behaviour and you are right to be upset.

Yet Mr Johnson would think this was OK of course, given his views on personal responsibility.

OP, I've reported your first post and asked if MN can edit it to make it clear that it was your SIL who deliberately failed to take a test and went out when she had symptoms.

I understand why you'd want your DH to say something to her, as he could hold more authority than you in their eyes, but you can't make him - in one sense, he's right, he can't change it now.

However, I do hope you gave your SIL and family's details to NHS Trace and Test following your son's positive test so they have to isolate by law, as nobody else needs to catch it from them still not isolating. It might protect somebody in her husband's workplace at least.

Yes, I'd be so angry if someone did that to me, especially if it was family or friends - if you can't show consideration for your loved ones, then we've got no hope this thing.

Covid is going to be around for a long time, we've no idea how often we could be reinfected - as she's proved she can't be trusted, I really wouldn't want to see her now.

@DrinkFeckArseBrick

@newnortherner111

Yes, yes and yes to above!

People are getting fatalistic.

Its not inevitable for this to spread but we all have a level of responsibility now the government have pretty much rescinded theirs.

@PrettyBlunt
No it’s been established throughout the thread that the op forgot quote marks around the whole of her sil text so sil is talking about her own son! I thought that was obvious

For everyone

SIL :
“guess what my covid test is positive. Last wed I was next to my friend we went to the gym together and my friend tested positive on Friday. I have been feeling really unwell since Monday, feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to ruin my eid day to go out because I’d have to isolate”

I think all of us with a brain cell could read through your mistakes and work out what you were saying @Hijabigirl234

She has knowingly put young, old, vulnerable and whoever else at risk because of her selfishness. Unbelievable. I would be absolutely fuming like you

We're just bobbing on here to say that we've edited your original post, @Hijabigirl234 in order to make it clear what was in the text message you say you received.

Hopefully that will avoid further confusion.

Op you have every right to be angry, she has put your father at risk. Disgusting what she has done actually without a thought or care for anyone in the world for her enjoyment.

You can't stop a virus from spreading.

You literally can, that's why we've had a year and a half of measures of different levels to... stop the virus from spreading.

A really basic one is 'keeping your distance/staying away' if you've got symptoms or been with someone who's tested positive.

I'd definitely be giving all their details to test and trace so they're all stuck isolating.

@wasthataburp

Maybe your son gave it to them? You really don't know. You can't stop a virus from spreading.

We do weekly lateral flow tests because of my husbands work and kids in school, never had a positive received on one before,even last week. My sister in law knew when we first went to her house on Saturday that she had been in very close contact with her friend who along with her entire household tested positive for,she said nothing that day nor on the day of my sons party/eid because she knew she very likely had covid when we saw her both times and she knew if she told us we would obviously tell her not to come, she was as far as I know the only person with covid who was extremely close with my son hugging and kissing him. And this is the first time ( along with the positive pcr test) that my son has had a positive lateral flow, which I did first whilst waiting for the pcr ( both of his lateral flow and pcr has come out positive ) this as only been since being in contact with her, and she was the first person who knew and was in very close contact with an infected person. With all these facts that are known at the moment we are fairly sure it is her who has passed it on to not only my son but god knows how many other people considering the fact she’s been going out here their and everywhere knowing she’s been with her friend and in her friends house who tested positive and even knowing she has symptoms going here their and everywhere shopping without a mask on and touching everything in shops. I just feel sorry for the people who are unaware.

As I’ve said, I know my sister in law and her personality very well, she’s very selfish and I don’t even know why I’m so shocked she didn’t tell us because this is her nature just thinking about herzf and then to go one step further and laugh about it.

Their is one thing spreading it unknowingly then another thing spreading it to others when you know full well.

As I’ve said, she knew she was doing wrong and she new where it has come from hence the reason she didn’t say anything till after the events where over and done with because she didn’t want to be uninvited from the celebrations, she knew she was doing wrong.

Just to add to that, I know my sister in laws nature, if their was any doubt in her mind who gave it who she would have been already telling everyone that it was my fault for giving it to them. That’s why I’m fuming because she always tries to spin it around on me, but she knows exactly where it’s come from. My son was fine up until he saw her and she was kissing him all over his face. She knew when we saw her the first time on the Saturday that she had already been next to someone who tested positive ( her friend tested positive on the Friday ) so it’s pretty clear it’s come from her and not from my son giving it to her. Even if it was the other way round ( which I highly doubt) she still shouldn’t be going round everyone’s houses and not telling anyone she’s tested positive and having symptoms until after everything’s done and dusted and leaving everyone else to pay the price for it.

unbelievable behaviour

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

OP's original post said,

I have been feeling really unwell since Monday,feeling like I have the flu but I didn’t want to take my covid test before eid/my sons birthday because I didn’t want it to “ruin my eid day to go out ” because I’d have to isolate.

It was't in speech marks so I assumed it was about/from the OP.

If it was from SIL, then yes, she is massively selfish and I take back the hypocrite comment.

Well yes - especially as the text referred to "before my sons birthday" after saying I didn't want to test. A quote from the SIL would refer to nephew's birthday.

But I think it's just written unclearly - and it is the SIL who is in the wrong here.

When 19th July was set in place as the day to release pretty much all restrictions (I don't like to use the term 'freedom day' - its a construct by the media and its misleading) did nobody think that with Eid on the 20th and 21st, a slightly later date would have been better? E.g. 23/7/21 - the start of most school summer holidays (in England). Sajid Javid could have mentioned something...

send her the government link someone previously posted about isolating within your household shes making shit up and could potentially make someone very ill with her attitude

@FredBlankenship

When 19th July was set in place as the day to release pretty much all restrictions (I don't like to use the term 'freedom day' - its a construct by the media and its misleading) did nobody think that with Eid on the 20th and 21st, a slightly later date would have been better? E.g. 23/7/21 - the start of most school summer holidays (in England). Sajid Javid could have mentioned something...

irrelevant the husband is still not isolating after the celebrations it doesnt really matter when Eid was

Oow I'd be enraged. And your husbands a spineless ass. Send everyone the link below. Stating sil is symptoms and positive

www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/testing/test-results/positive-test-result/

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-stay-at-home-guidance

Here's that link again, for you to send her and her husband:
www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-stay-at-home-guidance/stay-at-home-guidance-for-households-with-possible-coronavirus-covid-19-infection

I couldn't lose my shit over this.

@thenakedmolerat Aye, because the whole world was closed for business last year because of a cold. Are you for real? It's not the cold.