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Original poster

To think people saying "stop moaning about the weather" need to fuck off?

205 replies

Veros · 21/07/2021 10:45

I'm heavily pregnant, pale, ginger and really suffering. I'm sure there are people struggling more than I am though. I'm in London where it's expected to reach 32(?) today.

Not everybody can cope well with this heat and humidity. The met office has issued extreme weather warnings yet some people think we're supposed to be grateful for it.

AIBU to think those people need to fuck off?

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ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 21/07/2021 12:22

yup.
they all need to fuck off.
alongside people who say "fur baby" and use "cool wife" & "woke" as insults.

I grew up in Hungary where we have ridiculous heat. I hated it then and hate it now.
2 weeks ago it was 40°C there, so glad I don't live there anymore.

Superman got it right with his ice palace.

LittleRed53 · 21/07/2021 12:24

I've always thought everyone has the right to complain about one kind of weather- I complain about heat, but I don't mind cold, wind, I like rain and storms.

It's only when people moan it's too hot, then moan it's too cold, then moan it's too wet, that yeah it's clear they're just never happy!

NotExactlyHappyToHelp · 21/07/2021 12:26

YABU. I’m cold all year round. I suffer with Raynauds and my fingers regularly will not work. I spent a fortune on thermal things and coats. I sleep with a massive duvet, two blankets, a hot water bottle and an electric blanket usually. It’s a real struggle for me from October to about April. I however don’t go on and on about it.

Should I tell the heat haters to fuck off for the 360 days of the year it’s not what I’d consider a good temperature?!

It’s hot yeah, it’ll pass. It’s only been a few days Hmm.

Vates · 21/07/2021 12:29

YANBU! I am a fellow redhead. It reached 32 in my bedroom last night. I started to feel really unwell after falling to sleep for an hour. I woke up ran for the loo and was violently sick, cold to the touch, clammy and with a horrific headache. People die in heat waves, 900 people died because of the heat (2019/20). It is not 'lovely weather'.

MostlyMaple · 21/07/2021 12:31

@coogee

It is for England if you don't have air con or a pool...

I have neither. To me, it’s warm, not hot. When it starts getting towards 40, then it’s hot.

I guess everyone has different tolerances 🤷‍♀️
JackGrealishIsMyNewManCrush · 21/07/2021 12:34

We have had hotter spells, and for longer (2018 remember>>>???)

Yet this one seems worse somehow. More relentless, and unforgiving, stifling, humid, and claggy. Every room is as stuffy as fuck, it's too hot to go outside though, and it's too hot and stuffy to do anything.

May as well be raining and cool, because no-one can do much. For the past week, I have just about mustered up the energy to water the plants, take out the wheelie bin, cook dinner, feed the cat, and then wash up after. That's me done!

@Veros YANBU. Especially if you are pregnant!

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 21/07/2021 12:36

isn't moaning about the weather the birthright & favourite national sport of the British?

JackGrealishIsMyNewManCrush · 21/07/2021 12:36

@Vates

YANBU! I am a fellow redhead. It reached 32 in my bedroom last night. I started to feel really unwell after falling to sleep for an hour. I woke up ran for the loo and was violently sick, cold to the touch, clammy and with a horrific headache. People die in heat waves, 900 people died because of the heat (2019/20). It is not 'lovely weather'.
This. ^ I don't have very pale skin, and am not a redhead, and I am usually OK with the heat/sun. But this spell of it is making me feel dreadful. Sad Like you say, nauseous and faint. I pray it's over soon. Sad
JackGrealishIsMyNewManCrush · 21/07/2021 12:38

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

isn't moaning about the weather the birthright & favourite national sport of the British?
True! Tis vair BRITISH! Grin

But I do agree it is pretty unbearable atm. And it's only mid July. Could be worse in August! Shock

Original poster
Veros · 21/07/2021 12:45

I've read back my OP and whilst I stand by thinking those who love this heat shouldn't say we should all be grateful for it, I do apologise for the 'fuck off' part.

I'm just hormonal and very fed up Sad

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TheFoundations · 21/07/2021 12:45

I don't think people like to hear moaning in general, and nobody is being told they have to like it.

If things are so hard for you that you feel the need to be randomly posting 'fuck offs' on a forum about something so anodyne, what can you do to help you feel better? Personally, I go and browse round the co op. Their air conditioning is on mental levels of high, and they sell ice lollies. I might move in.

CaptainThe95thRifles · 21/07/2021 12:47

I'm not entirely sure I understand the logic of posters who are describing this as "nice" weather. The heat and the sun, clearly, are a matter of taste - but yesterday it was thundery, windy and absolutely threw it down on several occasions. Now, I appreciate the rain because it keeps the ground soft, but it's not what I'd generally consider "nice" weather for most people.

GirlAloud · 21/07/2021 12:50

People who whinge about a few hot days in the middle of July are ridiculous, in just the same way as people who moan about a bit of snow in January or heavy rain & storms in October are ridiculous.

The U.K. has a temperate maritime climate with four distinct seasons. It’s surprising how many people who have lived here all their lives fail to grasp this...

Gwenhwyfar · 21/07/2021 12:52

As long as you're sympathetic in return to those of us who can't deal with the cold, don't open windows when others are cold, etc.

WaterOffADucksCrack · 21/07/2021 12:54

I don't tell people to stop moaning about the weather, I just don't respond because it's such a boring thing to talk about!

BlackeyedSusan · 21/07/2021 12:56

@OttilieKnackered

What is annoying me is people saying that who have: large gardens, no work to do, houses well equipped for heat (shutters, curtains, whatever), money to buy as many fans as they need, money to buy different food/takeaway if they don’t wish to cook.

Some people are stuck in overheated flats with no way of cooling down (or other shit situations).

This is so true. If you are self isolating in somewhere ill equipped for heat it's tough. Also really built up areas don't cool so much at night. And some flats only face south and no cool side of a house.... Etc.
ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 21/07/2021 12:57

@GirlAloud

When I moved here I was promised rain, clouds & fog.
I'm quite disappointed

CarpeVitam · 21/07/2021 12:57

@VladmirsPoutine

How did such an innocuous thread descend into this Confused
Because it's too HOT! 🥵 🤣🤣🤣
pleasedonttextmyman · 21/07/2021 13:04

It's unfair to pretend that "pregnant women" moan about the weather. Some of us really enjoyed the heat when pregnant too!

Calling a temperature of 30 C a "heatwave" is funny though Grin
But we do call a couple of snowflakes a "snow bomb" in this country, so It makes sense.

Snog · 21/07/2021 13:08

OP I really feel for you. I struggle to cope with the heat and being pregnant makes it way harder. It's especially tough if it's too hot to sleep at night.

I have ordered one of those personal neck fans as recommended on another mumsnet thread!

CounsellorTroi · 21/07/2021 13:09

@pleasedonttextmyman

It's unfair to pretend that "pregnant women" moan about the weather. Some of us really enjoyed the heat when pregnant too!

Calling a temperature of 30 C a "heatwave" is funny though Grin
But we do call a couple of snowflakes a "snow bomb" in this country, so It makes sense.

The average temperature for July in the UK is 21 C So 31 is a heatwave.
SlothinSpirit · 21/07/2021 13:11

But we do call a couple of snowflakes a "snow bomb" in this country, so It makes sense.

Do we? Never heard this. You learn something new every day Grin.

coogee · 21/07/2021 13:12

I guess everyone has different tolerances 🤷‍♀️

Exactly. Which is why I said "To me".

pleasedonttextmyman · 21/07/2021 13:13

The average is 23-24 in London, so 5 degrees more than "average" really isn't a "heat wave".

And I guarantee you that if the temperatures stuck to 21 all summer, people would loudly complain about their ruined summer, especially this year when proper holidays abroad are more or less all cancelled.

July is "hot", kids are at school. Every year is pretty much the same.
August, when the kids break off, tends to be really crap.

BlackeyedSusan · 21/07/2021 13:15

Some people love the heat, we get that, you are entitled to love t and revel in it.

Some people hate it and find it difficult and are seeking understanding and sympathy.

What's really shit is the telling people that they have no right to feel the way they do cos...( insert some sort of comparison to other people in completely different circumstances) and telling them to grow up/ quit moaning/ ascribing incorrect motives deliberately...

Just come across as uncaring and nasty.

(Passes op a damp flannel)

A decade or two back, I was glad baby was on the inside as it was easier to keep them cool inside than outside, shit as it was for me as a whale with internal furnace...