Secret friend

[Faa27]

How would you feel
If you found out (after a year) that your husband has a friend who you never heard about, he chats to everyday and meets regularly. Just a friend nothing else.

[quote Agog123]@heymacaroner I think you’ve behaved very wisely! If I felt that my friend was ‘positioning’ to escalate our friendship - I too would be disgusted.

I would be horrified if my husband had a secret running partner, because I would know that by keeping her a secret he was doing something he felt guilty of. But that’s because my husband and I are very open and transparent and it would be really, really unusual behaviour on his part.

So OP you have to ask yourself, is it that he just doesn’t want to hurt me, or is it because he’s got something to hide?

I guess it depends on your relationship - from my experience as ‘the secret friend’ I know my friend has some belief that it would upset his wife, for her own reasons, and he just doesn’t want to cause her the aggro.[/quote]
But what has he actually told you about her, @Agog123 ?
Does he ever say things like, 'Mrs and I went to XYZ at the weekend' ?

@Teacupsandtoast

You posted in 2018 that he's a twat. In 2019 that he's a twat. And now he's a cheating twat. You CAN leave

How many more years are you willing to tolerate him? Your poor DC, living with a dad like that.

Read your other threads about him. He's thoroughly awful.

How bad does it have to be before you leave?

How old are your DC now OP?

@Faa27 I’ve just read every post you’ve made about your husband.

He is a cruel, selfish, abusive, lazy, controlling, lying piece of self-centred shit. I really, really really hope you find the strength to leave him. I know he’s beaten you down to having no self esteem but the cruelty he spouts is not true, and reflects only on him. Don’t be afraid of him lying to take custody of the children, the courts will believe you.

Good luck.

You don’t sound ready to get rid of him.
How about you get some counselling for yourself and build up your emotional strength. I would really recommended this.
Please do not waste your life on this man. You will regret it in the end.
What messages are you giving your children.
It is hard to end it.
What’s behind your lack of strength?
Good luck.💐