Secret friend

[Faa27]

How would you feel
If you found out (after a year) that your husband has a friend who you never heard about, he chats to everyday and meets regularly. Just a friend nothing else.

@Faa27

Just chit chat, nothing incriminating. But a lot of chit chat and a lot of meeting up

How much meeting up?

Where has he told you he was going during their meet ups?

Has he directly lied or just been vague.

Not that it matters I would be fucking livid

He hasn’t lied, but I always assumed he ran alone

This definitely be enough for me to follow stealthily next time he goes for a run, or observe from a car if you know his route?

He hasn’t mentioned it so I wouldn’t either until I’d checked it out myself.

If you ask him and something’s going on, he’ll only lie and make out you’re crazy and hide it better.

How old are they both

Hi is 40 and I assume she is her 20’s

At the very least an emotional affair. Do they always meet to run or are they meeting for coffee?

Just run I think.

What a dick.

I would follow and see what they do

You're not stupid. You just made a reasonable assumption that your partner would not lie and deceive you.
So sorry.

Stepping carefully here, with an eye out for an accusation of being a cool wife.

It could be they are just what you've seen, running mates that chat about running.

Could be that running is a source of friction between you that the addition of a running mate would cause more strife.

That said, it's a long time this has been happening. Whatever his reason he's kept it on the downlow even to have avoided a casual mention. That in itself seems quite odd.

Are you married to a man that you’ve only know for a year or have you found out me met this friend a year ago?

If he's on Strava you could check to see if he's actually been running.

I'd confront him but lie and say a friend saw him running with a partner rather than showing your hand that you've seen his phone.

This is def possible, but I’d still feel strange about it. If I meet anyone I normally mention

Good idea

Was about to say the same re Strava. People who run want everything logged. She might be on Strava too so you can build up a picture.

He probably fancies her but she may not be interested. He still likes to have his ego massaged though.

What a turn off for you though :-/ Nothing less sexy than a married man trotting along after his crush who isn't interested

Follow them in the car with the baby

Lol and toddler (and he goes running at 9 pm or 10 pm

It's the lack of mention, unless you are unreasonably jealous/controlling usually, that would make me wonder about this.

I have a close male friend and I know his DW doesn't know how much we are in touch for that reason. She is so controlling I have had my suspicions that it crosses the line into abusive.

But unless you're similar to that, it does seem weird. Could well be innocent but it's hard not to see the obvious here....

I’m def not. He is always put alone or w friends doing his things

I don't know on this one. I have a younger male friend. Met at work years ago.

Used to go for lunch. Still do sometimes. He works near me.

Never out in the evening or anything. They're is nothing in it. Never has been and never will be.

For that reason I honestly think it would take a partner seeing my phone to ask about him. I wouldn't think to mention him as there is nothing to tell.

Idk. When do they go running.

Having said that I have said when asked about my day I went for lunch with xyz today so I have said.

No doesn't look good

Does strava let you see if the run has been suspended for any length of time part way? I know what it is, just not how it works.

I have had a fair few younger male friends and still do. Ranging 10-25 years younger.

Go for lunch drinks nights out meals etc.

DH knows about them though because they're my friends.