Secret friend

[Faa27]

How would you feel
If you found out (after a year) that your husband has a friend who you never heard about, he chats to everyday and meets regularly. Just a friend nothing else.

I feel terrible but I sensed something wasn’t right

@Faa27

I checked his phone

So something has made you not trust him…

Its weird

Deeply suspicious, sorry.

Why did you go through his phone? It sounds like there's quite a lot going eco g between you.

They are having an affair. Don’t bust him til you have all the evidence and you have researched where he keeps his money and how much.

Sorry

If it was innocent he would have told you. He didn't for a reason - that could be an affair or an ego boost?

He would surely have mentioned her in passing convo if he’s been chatting to her DAILY and meeting up for a year. That sounds like a very close ‘friendship’. DH is always mentioning friends and work colleagues who I’ve never met.

Unless he didn’t want you to know about her which begs the question of why?

I’d be totally assuming an affair or an infatuation and I’d want proof that it was innocent. I wouldn’t be asking him to provide it though, I’d find out for myself. Full on detective mode and I wouldn’t feel the slightest bit bad about making sure I’m not being taken for a mug!

He didn't mention her because he doesn't want you to know about her. Have you had it out with him yet?

The fact he didn't ever mention it is very suss.

OTOH some women would veto any friend of the opposite sex at all so in that case I'd understand really.

But it sounds off.

How is he managing to see her and talk to her so much in secret?

@Faa27

How would you feel If you found out (after a year) that your husband has a friend who you never heard about, he chats to everyday and meets regularly. Just a friend nothing else.

Are they actually 'friends' or do they go to the same gym or something?

Why did you look at his phone?

You don't trust him- has he got form?

They run together

I haven’t mentioned yet

But I’m def hurt

And feel stupid

What did there messages say?

General chit chat or more

If it’s a heterosexual woman and he’s kept her a secret it’s probably an affair, perhaps emotional rather than physical but still an affair. He’d have told you about her if it was innocent.

'Run'

Just chit chat, nothing incriminating. But a lot of chit chat and a lot of meeting up

Mmmmmmm spidy senses would be going berserk.
There’s a reason he has kept this “friend” a secret.

‘Run’ lol
Women (me) are stupid

You’ve had marriage problems for years haven’t you?

Surely this hasn’t come from nowhere?

Yes. Years and I had a baby last year. Since then things got worse