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Where are kids supposed to play?

338 replies

lazylump72 · 18/07/2021 08:05

Hi
I am having a bit of a barny with my DH and well quite frankly he is trying to be thoughtful of the neighbours etc and he does work 12 he shifts but
whilst I do think he has a point and I might be being a bit unreasonable
I don't know how to approach this so thought I would see from the wise mumsnetters where you stand on this,All suggestions will be helpful!
So it's the start of the school holidays,beautiful weather,garden full of toys and pool out,happy days!This is the first year our DD 9 yes has has friends on our estate and it's wonderful.Thereis a little group of 5 and they get on amazingly and play really well,They have been round our house in the garden playing for a week,They are safe and enclosed and well a bit demanding and noisy.I get this,I do I have to sit and listen to it but they are having such a Fab time safely and under supervision I have no issues except I will try to shut them up when it gets too loud! Now I am the one listening to it all day not DH he is at work but he gets home and the garden is full of kids and he doesn;t want it, I am trying to find a balance here but what do I do? There is nowhere else for the kids to play,I don't want them out on the road it's not safe,I don't mind them here really.Its not ideal for the neighbours either but it's summer,.Am I being the neighbours from hell? Where do your kids and their friends play? Given there ages of 8 and 9 years Ithought I was doing the right thing...am I? Do people expect quiet between 11 and 7 ish? I know it's a pain hearing kids for a lot of people but where do you all stand on this?

OP posts:

Hankunamatata · 19/07/2021 22:04

Screaming would melt my head.

I'd clear the kiss out about half hour before dh comes home. Get dd calmed down.

Hankunamatata · 19/07/2021 22:05

Kiss = kids

Ifeelsuchafool · 19/07/2021 23:40

Think you're being taken for a mug to be honest. And jolly glad I'm not your neighbour, sorry to say.

SoNotRainbowRhythms · 20/07/2021 01:40

If the neighbours don't reciprocate I understand why your DH is unhappy. I am the same as your DH. I don't bother with neighbours who don't share the load.

pastypats · 20/07/2021 07:17

What time does DH get home? Would it not be time for them to go home by then?

You're basically, feee childcare for the other parents. Have a day off

Cardiffwales · 20/07/2021 07:47

What a lovely thing to do. I would be happy as long as my kids were happy. I think it’s nice that your daughter is happy to be at home. If it’s everyday I would probably send them home for lunch and for dinner!

saraclara · 20/07/2021 07:54

Good grief. So many people posting as if this hadn't already been resolved.
Is no-one reading the thread, or bothering to check for OP's updates?

OceanTurtles · 20/07/2021 08:05

@saraclara

Good grief. So many people posting as if this hadn't already been resolved. Is no-one reading the thread, or bothering to check for OP's updates?

Here comes the thread police.

UndertheCedartree · 20/07/2021 08:24

That's a lovely update, OP. Hope your DD is enjoying her freedom, racing around on scooters and exploring! Your neighbours sound lovely. You sound like a lovely mum, too. Have a wonderful Summer!

HumunaHey · 20/07/2021 08:24

@saraclara

Good grief. So many people posting as if this hadn't already been resolved. Is no-one reading the thread, or bothering to check for OP's updates?

I was thinking the same😂.

Friday999 · 20/07/2021 08:29

I definitely read the OPs update, but other than buying her daughter a phone, it didn't sound like much had been resolved?

HumunaHey · 20/07/2021 08:39

@Friday999 OP bought her DD a phone so she could keep in contact with her to let her out to play. She has let her daughter call for her friend. Letting her out to play will mean all her friends don't need to be in their back garden quite so much. Overall, OP was allowing kids in the garden mainly due to being anxious about DD playing out in the street. But she's bit the bullet and let her go.

Other people are coming on asking questions that have already been answered or comments that have already been addressed (not cross posting). It's funny and annoying at the same time.

saraclara · 20/07/2021 09:06

It's bizarre because, in real life, few people want to look stupid. But there's nothing like posting without reading the thread or at least the OP updates, to risk looking totally moronic.

I once totally accidentally missed a few pages and did similarly. When I realised I actually blushed with embarrassment.
Two seconds to click on 'see all' on the OP is a huge face saver.

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