@Whiskycav
Its really difficult op.
My mum was hugely involved in my horse riding and I was reminded about the sacrifices she made for my horse.
It wasn't my horse. It was hers. She made every decision, she even decided (without speaking to me) that she was selling him. And got a smaller horse that was too small for me to ride (she is very short and I I tall) She then got a job at the stables. All the sacrifices she made were actually for herself.
It was really difficult for me. Not sure why. Mainly because I suppose I wasn't like the other kids, my mum literally knew everything everything I was doing. They were all looking after their own horses or working Saturday jobs at the stables. She knew everything me and my friends did and our conversations. I felt like my privacy had been invaded.
And she did this to give herself something to.
I don't actually, think you have done anything wrong. But I remember being really annoyed I had my mum there all the time.
Hopefully she will apologise. So will dg and you can have a Converstation about what the issue seems to be.
I was going to say similar, but it wasn't horse riding it was another sport.
Dm loved playing the sport, and it was through her I started to play. She knew quite a lot and liked watching. We played against each other until I was beating her, and then she supported me. I really did appreciate what she did.
However: Having her there all the time at times rankled. Not when I was doing an individual tournament, but when we were playing a team match at home, all the others walked or bused there, played and went home. She stayed and watched my match-and then I felt I had to stay with her because there wasn't anyone else for her to be with.
When we played away, she always spoke first to the coach to say she'd do the driving, so I was always in the front of her car with the others having fun in the back, or in the coach's car. I was also the only girl, so already stood out.
If she'd tried to explain to my team mates what they'd done wrong I would have felt totally embarrassed-but if it had been one of their parents telling me I would have thanked them nicely (even if what they said was clearly rubbish) and been really polite.
I do remember a time when I upset dm. We were at the end of the season and a couple of the boys had said to me that their parents had volunteered to drive to some of the matches, but had been told that my dm was already doing it. They told me they'd (parents not them!) been a bit disappointed.
So I went to talk to dm. I tried to be tactful in a 15yo way. First I said that it wasn't fair on her doing all the driving. She said she didn't mind. Then I said that other parents had volunteered too. She said, oh well, she'd just do the ones (all the rest) she was down for as she didn't like to let anyone down. I pointed out that the other parents wanted to do it too. She said that she liked to come and watch so she'd tell the coach that she'd take me anyway.
That was the point I got very frustrated and told her I didn't want her to come and watch and she got upset.
Now I didn't handle it brilliantly, but at the time I felt backed into a corner. I wasn't asking her not to do them all. I was asking for her not to do one. Just one where I could be one of the team and on my own.
I wonder if your dd has made similar hints that she would like some space here and you've not noticed.
Dm was normally understanding and we had a great relationship. In fact I went in the coach's car the next match, and had a fantastic time. We stopped for fish and chips on the way back and he ran out of petrol and had to run up the road. It was great.
And the next year I didn't mind dm there every time. It was just at that point I felt smothered.