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Reporting someone for failing to isolate

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WouldYouShouldI · 17/07/2021 00:44

Under what circumstances would you report someone for failing to isolate? Would you report any breach, no breach, or would it depend on circumstances?

I've been told by a friend that a family member of theirs (should be isolating because someone they live with has tested positive) is not isolating, and is even going out to work- and they work with vulnerable people in a medical environment!

Should I report them regardless of the possible consequences on my friend (who will be blamed if they get caught)? Or encourage my friend to do the same, again despite the consequences?

I'm torn!

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LittleBearPad · 17/07/2021 12:53

I asked which it was

UKSub · 17/07/2021 12:57

@LittleBearPad You’re entirely missing the point. As I said originally, worse than flu, worse than gastroenteritis. Baby has severe diarrhoea which I’m concerned about. But no, we don’t need to be blue lighted but that’s NOT the point. We don’t need to no, but someone else may need to, so it’s not about us, it’s about not giving it to someone who could end up in a worse situation.

UKSub · 17/07/2021 13:00

@TSSDNCOP thank you for being kind, this has changed my whole perspective, I really worry for the vulnerable

gillysSong · 17/07/2021 13:00

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FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 17/07/2021 13:05

@TSSDNCOP

I would like to ask though, are posters regularly taking LFT? I do think it is very irresponsible not to.
I am, I'm a teacher and have to do them twice weekly and will carry this on in the summer.

Although you may as well flip a coin with them really!

3Lions · 17/07/2021 13:06

@Iwonder08

Covid really brought some awful qualities in some people.. I keep wondering how our society is going to live after this madness is over with so many people thriving on curtain twitching, reporting their family and friends, counting people in neighbour's garden eager to report a breach of whatever regulation. I doubt this nasty energy will just disappear..
This.
onthinice · 17/07/2021 13:08

I definitely would not report anyone at this stage. I would consider why being a contact of a positive case this week is any different to being a contact of a positive case in a months time and come to the conclusion that there is no difference. And I would consider that a lot of people won't get paid if they have to isolate.

Cacacoisfarraige · 17/07/2021 13:17

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LittleBearPad · 17/07/2021 13:21

[quote UKSub]@LittleBearPad You’re entirely missing the point. As I said originally, worse than flu, worse than gastroenteritis. Baby has severe diarrhoea which I’m concerned about. But no, we don’t need to be blue lighted but that’s NOT the point. We don’t need to no, but someone else may need to, so it’s not about us, it’s about not giving it to someone who could end up in a worse situation.[/quote]
Which I haven’t disagreed with. If I tested positive I’d isolate and so would my family.

I’m sorry you’re unwell - it’s a yucky virus. I just think specificity is useful hence my question.

TSSDNCOP · 17/07/2021 13:34

The specifics are absolutely irrelevant. It is a binary state you are positive, or you are not. If you are you pose a potential risk irrespective of severity.

sergeilavrov · 17/07/2021 13:50

People who don’t isolate are pro-COVID going on forever: either deliberately or through their own stupidity. Report, it’s your duty to society to do so.

UKSub · 17/07/2021 13:56

@LittleBearPad apologies, I misunderstood.
I think the reason why this has surprised me so much is the fact that it hit five, seven and eight days after originally being pinged to isolate. If we hadn’t had that notification we could have been out spreading it, so it’s made me feel like the contact isolation IS a good idea? I don’t know, it’s all so difficult m. I imagine we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t.

HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 17/07/2021 15:11

I'd have no qualms in reporting

WeHaveComeSoFar · 17/07/2021 15:34

Report, it’s your duty to society to do so

Yeahhh, no

Sockwomble · 17/07/2021 15:44

"People who don’t isolate are pro-COVID going on forever: either deliberately or through their own stupidity. Report, it’s your duty to society to do so."

Ds isn't isolating because we don't want to be attacked constantly or watch him hurt himself all day. Feel free to come and offer us some respite.

Comeondoit · 17/07/2021 15:48

@Sockwomble

"People who don’t isolate are pro-COVID going on forever: either deliberately or through their own stupidity. Report, it’s your duty to society to do so."

Ds isn't isolating because we don't want to be attacked constantly or watch him hurt himself all day. Feel free to come and offer us some respite.

That must be really tough Flowers

This is what people don't understand...

We all have different situations

ButteringMyArse · 17/07/2021 15:55

@sergeilavrov

People who don’t isolate are pro-COVID going on forever: either deliberately or through their own stupidity. Report, it’s your duty to society to do so.
Covid's likely to go on forever anyway, the concept of being pro or against that is pointless.
warmfluffytowels · 17/07/2021 15:56

@sergeilavrov

People who don’t isolate are pro-COVID going on forever: either deliberately or through their own stupidity. Report, it’s your duty to society to do so.
Bullshit.
warmfluffytowels · 17/07/2021 15:56

@Sockwomble

"People who don’t isolate are pro-COVID going on forever: either deliberately or through their own stupidity. Report, it’s your duty to society to do so."

Ds isn't isolating because we don't want to be attacked constantly or watch him hurt himself all day. Feel free to come and offer us some respite.

I'm sorry @Sockwomble Flowers

I don't blame you one bit. I hope you're all okay.

olivethegreat · 17/07/2021 16:11

I can't believe you're even considering this .

Let alone hearing about it secondhand!

Mind your own business

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WouldYouShouldI · 17/07/2021 17:57

Wow, I had no idea this would blow up soo much! Although it's interesting to see how opinions differ so much more when it was fairly consistent initially.

For those who are basically saying I don't know what I'm talking about- I do. Written evidence that the person should be isolating, they're definitely not on the DCTS trial- although they will sign up if offered it- and evidence that since being told to isolate they've been to work twice! It's also not the only place they're going

I'm not going to give exact details of the relationships within the household, the job or what my relationship is to them- but all of it is evidenced and none of it supposition.

They also are putting the people they work with at risk. Yes most of them might be double vaccinated, and so was the person I'm discussing, however- so was the person in their house who currently has COVID!

I don't understand why so many people fail to understand that having the vaccine does not make you immune? People in that situation can not only still get it, but can still be hospitalised and still die! It just reduces the risk. To then deliberately put those people at increased risk of catching it, and not caring that you might be the cause of their death, seems incredible to me- especially for someone in a position of responsibility in a caring profession.

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DeflatedGinDrinker · 17/07/2021 18:00

My partner works in a care home and when I was isolating with a cough his boss told him she doesn't care and told him to go in as he wears PPE. My test was negative luckily. So maybe they know.

Spanielstail · 17/07/2021 18:14

What is this 'dobbing in people' attitude? Dreadful. Mind your own business really.

That phrase sounds like teenagers or drug dealers.

Of course you should report. I would report if I witnessed a robbery, drink driving, someone texting and driving, a mugging etc.

I therefore would report someone who was legally asked to isolate and chose not to bother

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 17/07/2021 19:04

"Learn to live with it". That one gets trotted out on every thread touching on covid-19 but is always used in the wrong way.

To learn to live with this new and still pretty deadly virus, does not mean let it rip through the population and kill whomever is frail enough to be taken out by it. Instead it means we now have to adapt, with a mixture of opening up, locking down and practising social distancing and making smart choices. It means that we now have to consider very carefully our actions when we wake up coughing and it means that life as we once knew it isn't quite possible, not if we care about other human beings lives, and especially not yet. There are far too many people still not double jabbed and those people deserve a shot at life too, do they not?

It's really quite unsettling seeing so many people say that everyone should mind their own business and that anyone who even considers reporting people for this sort of reckless and selfish behaviour are no better than nazis, though I truly don't see the logic behind that comparison. Baffling, frankly. No one wants to report a neighbour, friend or family member but in this instance it is 100% the right thing to do.

HopingForOurRainbowBaby · 17/07/2021 19:06

@DeflatedGinDrinker

My partner works in a care home and when I was isolating with a cough his boss told him she doesn't care and told him to go in as he wears PPE. My test was negative luckily. So maybe they know.
Yes I was told the same. Still self isolated at home though for 10 days, even with a negative PRC test
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