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Assaulted at school

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Theoneandonly321 · 16/07/2021 14:19

Posting here for traffic
My dd has been severely assaulted at school by another child. The child has been excluded. What action can I take as this is the third time the child has hurt my child and there wasn’t any consequences beforehand.
Am I able to call the police as the child is 10 and google says they are now above the legal age for criminal responsibility. Any advice appreciated I am so angry and upset.

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 16/07/2021 14:22

I'd report to the police.

Umberellatheweatha · 16/07/2021 14:26

I would.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 16/07/2021 14:27

Oh I'm so sorry you're poor little one. The age of criminal responsibility is 10
if you're in the UK. Has it also been reported to the Safe Guarding officer.
Something is clearly lacking somewhere when a child isnt safe from another child. Also for a child being that violent at such a young age its obviously came from somewhere.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 16/07/2021 14:28

This is,the 3rd time.Shock. I'd be raising hell.

BlatantlyNameChanged · 16/07/2021 14:29

You can take it to the police and escalate the inaction up the schools complaints chain too as their mismanagement has led to this.

DS was having some trouble at his previous school with a particular child targeting him. School were useless and when it started escalating again we involved the police. DS is disabled and the bullying was related to this so the police documented it as a hate crime, surprisingly school were suddenly motivated to investigate and take action and tried to make out that we'd overreacted by involving the police. I very quickly put them right on that assumption, made a formal complain to the governors (so it's nice and documented for when Ofsted next inspect) and then moved him to a different school.

YourHandInMyHand · 16/07/2021 14:31

Yes I'd report it.
I'd also call the local safeguarding mash/ehash number and report my concerns for my own child, the other child, and the school.
I'd also complain to ofsted that I'm concerned about the level of safeguarding and support.

WunWun · 16/07/2021 14:32

Definitely the police.

Merryoldgoat · 16/07/2021 14:33

What the fuck is going on? OP - I’m so sorry for you and your child.

Call the police without a doubt.

bloodyhell19 · 16/07/2021 14:36

Straight to police.

onlyhereforthecake · 16/07/2021 14:36

Third time?

Yes, police, it has gone way too far and for too long.

storminabuttercup · 16/07/2021 14:36

Your poor DS.
Third time and school aren't doing anything I would definitely report now and follow the schools complaint procedure too! They have a duty to keep your child safe.

LakieLady · 16/07/2021 14:38

Absolutely report to police.

The school's response so far has been woeful. Schools need to be safe places.

ComDummings · 16/07/2021 14:40

Yes report to the police and do not let it go. Your poor DD, hope you’re all OK

flumposie · 16/07/2021 14:41

Police and Ofsted.

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Theoneandonly321 · 16/07/2021 14:44

Thanks all, the first two times were pushes etc ‘minor things’ but this has caused actual physical harm so I will not tolerate it
Does anyone know what the police will do?
I don’t know their address so I’m not sure if they can do anything without visiting them

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WunWun · 16/07/2021 14:46

They can ask the school for the address

2bazookas · 16/07/2021 14:51

Report full history to the police and inform school you have done so.

Porcupineintherough · 16/07/2021 14:52

Police will act on a severe assault but if what you actually mean is your child has been pushed twice and now thumped then, at age 10, you'd be best persuing it w the school. They need to tell you what steps they are going to take to keep your child safe going forward.

rainbowstardrops · 16/07/2021 14:53

Yes you could report to the police but I'd firstly be having strong words with the headteacher and then a formal letter to the governors because they HAVE to take it seriously. Definitely don't let it drop.

Kitkatchunkyplease · 16/07/2021 14:54

Yes you should ring the police. It is bigger than a school issue.

Original poster
Theoneandonly321 · 16/07/2021 14:55

Can anyone confirm is exclusion is permanent or temporary?
She is covered in bruises and cuts

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Mistressofnone · 16/07/2021 14:55

So sorry you are going through this. I hope your DD is ok. I have no advice but would contact the police too.

This is my worse nightmare anyone hurting my children. That child must be very unhappy. Let's hope he or she can be guided in a better direction before it's too late. You will be helping them and others in the long run.

korawick12345 · 16/07/2021 14:57

FFS read the thread people - there is no indication the school has done nothing. The other child has been excluded and the prior incidents were not nearly as serious the op herself describes them as pushes etc.

OP what is the outcome you are looking for?

Kitkatchunkyplease · 16/07/2021 14:58

@Theoneandonly321

Can anyone confirm is exclusion is permanent or temporary? She is covered in bruises and cuts
We can't tell you that but I'd imagine it will be fixed term,based on what you've said.
Pinkflipflop85 · 16/07/2021 14:58

@Theoneandonly321

Can anyone confirm is exclusion is permanent or temporary? She is covered in bruises and cuts
Exclusion is temporary.
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