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AIBU?

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To not want to see any adult who hasn’t had the vaccine

331 replies

Fthisshitimdone · 15/07/2021 23:15

I don’t feel like I want to hang out with anyone who has refused the vaccine. AIBU? It’s not only because I am worried they are carrying the virus it’s also because I resent them. I think they’re being selfish and also that they think they’re better than the rest of us!

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Maggiesfarm · 15/07/2021 23:35

Would they necessarily tell you they haven't been vaccinated? I suppose it depends how well you know them.

I'm so sick of all this by now I would be having conversations about anything other than Covid and vaccinations.

I don't resent anyone for not being vaccinated, it's their choice; I might think they're barmy but it isn't my business.

ilovesooty · 15/07/2021 23:38

I wouldn't go around asking people but if a friend openly said they were refusing the vaccine I'd be distancing myself.

XenoBitch · 15/07/2021 23:39

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

Hid what a different life I lead - I couldn't tell you who is and isn't vaccinated of my friends and I'd never ask
Same. I am friends with them because they enrich my life, I and I theirs.

Anyone ending a friendship over something like the vaccine was never a friend to start with.

TheTallOakTrees · 15/07/2021 23:40

Your choice.

Anonawoman · 15/07/2021 23:42

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ilovesooty · 15/07/2021 23:43

If any of my friends said they were a vaccine refuser I'd feel as though they weren't the person I'd thought they were.

hawkehurstgang · 15/07/2021 23:43

This can't be real. You sound unhinged.

I've not had the vaccine yet because I simply want to wait for a while and see how it goes - make sure no more hideous side effects come to light. I'm just a cautious person. I've no problem with vaccines in general and myself and my children have had all others. But we (and everyone we know personally) who had covid, had extremely mild symptoms or no symptoms at all, including DH's elderly and vulnerable grandparents! Whereas a lot of people who had the vaccine have been really, really unwell.

I have had literally every other vaccine, including some that many others haven't had like yellow fever and rabies as I live abroad and travel often, and never had a single side effect - not even a mild one. So yeah, I find all these really unpleasant reactions/people being bedbound after the vaccine/women having really weird issues with their period after the vaccine/some people literally rushed to hospital/even dying to be pretty weird and scary and unlike any experience I've had with a vaccine before (and like I said, worse than my experience of actual covid).

When it comes to myself and my family, well, my family come first, and I just want to wait and see if any more side effects come to light/horrible long term effects are revealed. I read an article recently that some scientists have agreed with what I've been thinking - that for young and healthy people, the vaccine might be more risky than covid! So I am, in my opinion, being sensible and cautious.

I haven't had it yet. Doesn't mean I won't. But YAB pretty pathetic to have this attitude and to be honest it sounds like you regret having the vaccine and are a bit bitter that others chose not to? And now want them forced to have it like you felt forced, so you're all stuck in the same boat. Just how it comes across to me 🤷🏽‍♀️

I also think the 'people who haven't had the vaccine' claim is a bit pathetic and just a really weak and desperate thing to say. How is simply taking your time, doing lots of research, taking into account your own experience with covid and other people's experiences of covid and the vaccine, researching statistics and opinions of scientists etc being unintelligent whereas racing to having something stuck in your body without even thinking about it just because you're told to, and in light of the short term side effects and unknown long term risk, the behavior of a really smart person? Hmm

PurpleOkapi · 15/07/2021 23:44

If you're that worried about catching it, then you're not being unreasonable to refuse to spend time with unvaccinated people, but you're being unreasonable to limit it to adults. Just because children aren't at fault for not being vaccinated doesn't mean they can't infect you with covid.

If it's some kind of social boycott, YABU, but I doubt they're too broken up about it. But you shouldn't assume everyone who says they're vaccinated is telling the truth.

MaxNormal · 15/07/2021 23:46

The last year has been quite eye opening. One can see how regimes like the former DDR thrived for a time.
And perhaps other, even worse ones.
The sheer, petty spite of human nature.

XenoBitch · 15/07/2021 23:47

@Tinpotspectator

One of the very unpleasant things about a lot of the refusers is that they are openly saying they will have it if it helps them personally eg to go on holiday. Lovely!
How is that unpleasant? If they get the vaccine, that is good, right? Why does the reason matter?
hawkehurstgang · 15/07/2021 23:47

*People who haven't had the vaccine are unintelligent, that should read. Sorry, got a baby climbing on me!

ilovesooty · 15/07/2021 23:49

It seems to be increasingly common now to call posters 'unhinged' because you disagree with them.

Denny53 · 15/07/2021 23:50

How will you know who’s had the vaccine or not? For instance a GP I work for has refused the vaccine. - how do you know your GP has/ hasn’t had vaccine? How would you then feel about that GP touching you when they examine you?

MaxNormal · 15/07/2021 23:50

It seems to be increasingly common now to call posters 'unhinged' because you disagree with them

Indeed. Or stupid.

Seesawmummadaw · 15/07/2021 23:52

Are you asking everyone that you meet? I have no idea who is vaccinated and who isn’t. I assume people at work are but don’t know for sure because I haven’t (and wouldn’t) asked.

gardeninggirl68 · 15/07/2021 23:53

How will you know who to avoid though?

It's not your right to know people's medical history or vac status is it?

Also.... people will lie

SinisterBumFacedCat · 15/07/2021 23:54

Well, as they like to say, so often on her: Your body your choice. If you don’t want someone who has chosen not be vaccinated near your body, that’s your choice.

41sunnydays · 15/07/2021 23:54

You know that vaccinated people can still carry and spread Covid ? They just hopefully shouldn't get ill with Covid. It's not different to the flu, you spread flu when you touch things but if you have the vaccine, hopefully your should not get it yourself.

Hidehi4 · 15/07/2021 23:55

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PastMyBestBeforeDate · 15/07/2021 23:56

This is the guidance for CEV people. They're told to only meet with vaccinated people. We're supposed to know people's vaccination status.

Sparrowsong · 15/07/2021 23:57

I haven’t had the vaccine - because my Consultant told me not to!

Screw you though, you don’t deserve any friends with an empathy deficit like that.

BluebellsGreenbells · 15/07/2021 23:57

DD is fully vaccinated, a lot of her friends aren’t yet, they are all catching covid now so high risk to each other’s.

I think this virus is decimating our children, who haven’t had the chance to get vaccinated or too young to be vaccinated.

They aren’t selfish - they are suffering.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/07/2021 23:59

Are you going to check everyone's vaccination status and interview them as to why?

I'm sure most ofy friends have because we've talked about it - "can we hug on Sunday, I'm double vaccinated". "I'm only single but I'll do a LFT before hand so yes" kind of thing, but I wouldn't know for most of the people I see. I have no idea if DSs 121 has had it for example

Lalliella · 16/07/2021 00:00

Totally agree OP. They’re putting others at risk, particularly immuno-compromised people. They’re selfish bastards. I think if any of my friends did this I would stop being friends with them.

Thedogscollar · 16/07/2021 00:02

@Fthisshitimdone

I don’t include anyone in this that hasn’t had the choice. Those who are old enough and can have it but have refused are just winding me up
I think you are on a massive wind up OP Bedtime now.
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