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AIBU?

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To not want to see any adult who hasn’t had the vaccine

331 replies

Fthisshitimdone · 15/07/2021 23:15

I don’t feel like I want to hang out with anyone who has refused the vaccine. AIBU? It’s not only because I am worried they are carrying the virus it’s also because I resent them. I think they’re being selfish and also that they think they’re better than the rest of us!

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StardewMelons · 19/07/2021 01:24

Scary times we live in indeed. Luckily for me, I only know people who have tested positive, that have been Asymptomatic or mild cold symptoms. Yet do know of a lot of people pressured to take a trial vaccine they are caucious of because of thier job, people on the breadline, people who have children (including myself) who's children have basically lost a years education and/or having their kids held back a year... People on the brink of suicide or at least self destruction mentally... Yet the people who are vaccinated and "safe" are moaning ..You are "safe" now, go hang out with 10 unvaccinated rebels, your vax with save you :)... But please don't pave a way for forced medical treatment and cheer it on, everybody has their choice when it comes to thier body!

OliveToboogie · 19/07/2021 02:45

It is one of your basic human rights not to have to put an experimental drug in your body. I have severe respiratory condition and was told to shield by CMO Scotland. I have not taken vaccine as is my human right. I have not had Covid that I know of. One reason I ethically do not agree with what is in the vaccine.

MareofBeasttown · 19/07/2021 08:44

It is also a basic human right to decide whom to befriend or have in your home.

Newrumpus · 19/07/2021 09:08

You are projecting far too much. Don’t worry so much about the decisions that others make. The vast majority are vaccinated and you can’t tell by liking who is and who isn’t.

Maggiesfarm · 19/07/2021 10:43

If you have been vaccinated why are you bothered about other people who have not? I don't get it.

In any case you are hardly likely to ask people whether or not they have had the jabs. You would usually know with your nearest and dearest but not other random people with whom you come into contact.

Nengineer · 19/07/2021 15:44

@OliveToboogie

It is one of your basic human rights not to have to put an experimental drug in your body. I have severe respiratory condition and was told to shield by CMO Scotland. I have not taken vaccine as is my human right. I have not had Covid that I know of. One reason I ethically do not agree with what is in the vaccine.
Having just been hospitalized with severe anaphylaxis, I hope it's made of bees and ants Grin
Nengineer · 19/07/2021 15:47

@OliveToboogie

It is one of your basic human rights not to have to put an experimental drug in your body. I have severe respiratory condition and was told to shield by CMO Scotland. I have not taken vaccine as is my human right. I have not had Covid that I know of. One reason I ethically do not agree with what is in the vaccine.
Also one of my team refused the vaccine because she was a vegan and against animal testing. Turns out she was early pregnant on 8th IVF round and didn't want to disclose it too early. She has now been vaccinated at 20 weeks with no issues.
lazylinguist · 19/07/2021 15:51

YABU to think anti-vaxxers are selfish or idiots, but tbh it wouldn't particularly occur to me to ask people I was going to meet if they've had the vaccine. It's their business and they might have a valid medical reason if they hadn't had it.

RosieRoww · 19/07/2021 15:55

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lazylinguist · 19/07/2021 16:36

Ooops - I meant YANBU to think anti-vaxxers are selfish or idiots, obviously.Blush

Nengineer · 19/07/2021 16:37

Anti vaxxers are in general idiots.

mygood · 19/07/2021 17:04

anyone remember the 80's AIDs epidemic? How gay men were treated like lepors? How anyone with AIDs was treated?
This is the same.
fgs people have we lost all sense of morality and humanity. Are we going to ask club goers for proof they dont have an STI just in case they hook up with someone. Are we going to be asking people to prove they have a clean criminal record before we let them into a coffee shop?

Folks this is absolutely mental!!
We cannot control people like this.
You had free choice and free will to be vaccinated. Others have free choice and will not to be. No one should be punished, penalised, rewarded or ostracised over this. What happened to last years be kind and we are all in this together? This is so sad

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 19/07/2021 17:44

@mygood

anyone remember the 80's AIDs epidemic? How gay men were treated like lepors? How anyone with AIDs was treated? This is the same. fgs people have we lost all sense of morality and humanity. Are we going to ask club goers for proof they dont have an STI just in case they hook up with someone. Are we going to be asking people to prove they have a clean criminal record before we let them into a coffee shop?

Folks this is absolutely mental!!
We cannot control people like this.
You had free choice and free will to be vaccinated. Others have free choice and will not to be. No one should be punished, penalised, rewarded or ostracised over this. What happened to last years be kind and we are all in this together? This is so sad

It's not the same in any way, shape or form.
Elsielouise13 · 19/07/2021 18:22

Am double vaccinated, currently in bed with Covid. Vaccination doesn’t prevent you getting the virus. Hopefully will just stop me feeling very much worse than I currently do.

user1471539324 · 19/07/2021 18:32

@astraaurelis

How is me relying on scientific evidence for my own personal decisions anything to do with the earth being flat? I simply asked that you considered other perspectives and did not limit yourself to government fed information. It doesn't take a genius to see how unreliable the governement is. I certainly do not have that thought nor do i believe half the stuff that comes out of these 'conspiracy theories'' including this idea of flat earth.

I am a well educated individual whose up-bring has been heavily science focused. All members of my family are scientists, psychotherapists, doctors etc. You are quite frankly what is wrong with society these days, i pity you.
As i said before, unless you are able to show me evidence then i ask that you conduct yourself as an adult and dont reply to my posts.

@Mummyford. I love your replies. Cutting through the ‘I do my own research’ waffle which has absolutely no scientific value.

I can’t for the life of me understand why someone would use a family member’s academic credentials as a way to validate their own opinions. I’m an actual scientist, not just related to one, and I completely disagree with @astraaurelis points. I do my own research by conducting clinical studies and can’t get my head round anyone thinking that all of us ‘sheeple’ must just use mainstream media sources.

XenoBitch · 19/07/2021 18:36

@mygood

anyone remember the 80's AIDs epidemic? How gay men were treated like lepors? How anyone with AIDs was treated? This is the same. fgs people have we lost all sense of morality and humanity. Are we going to ask club goers for proof they dont have an STI just in case they hook up with someone. Are we going to be asking people to prove they have a clean criminal record before we let them into a coffee shop?

Folks this is absolutely mental!!
We cannot control people like this.
You had free choice and free will to be vaccinated. Others have free choice and will not to be. No one should be punished, penalised, rewarded or ostracised over this. What happened to last years be kind and we are all in this together? This is so sad

Having seen the latest Gov press conference.... it is tantamount to HIV positive people being banned from clubs. They can offer to wear a condom.. still no entry. Only double vaxxed allowed in clubs now... a negative Covid test doesn't count.
FruHagen · 19/07/2021 22:36

@hawkehurstgang

👏👏👏👏👏 have some claps for your eloquent post perfectly puncturing the og posters position

nugget396 · 21/07/2021 00:04

You’d think that after a year and a half of restrictions, lockdowns, endless data etc people would be able to distinguish the difference between cases and deaths.

Now the vaccination programme is very much underway and everyone constantly reiterating how effective it is, an increase in cases does not automatically = a crazy rise in deaths. The data so far shows that.. deaths remaining steady, despite cases increasing which was inevitable anyway due to people mixing again.

Also very important to remember that death stats include anyone who died that may have tested positive within 28 days. They could’ve died of something completely unrelated, but they are still used in the stats. Lots of people may have died WITH covid, but not OF covid.

Vaccination doesn’t stop you getting or transmitting COVID. At least 40% of those currently hospitalised with COVID are vaccinated?

The vaccination programme was touted as the way the elderly/vulnerable would be protected, hence why they started with the older age groups. If they’re vaccinated, why are people so worried?

The idea that those who cannot/choose not to get vaccinated should be “punished” and live a limited, restricted life is just beyond comprehension. By all means base your friendship group on people who have taken the vaccine, but are you really so opposed to personal choice? Surely you cannot be serious.

I listening to the radio on way to work today and one of the presenters was going on about how he agreed with vaccine passports and “why should people have luxuries like nightclubs and big events if they won’t get vaccinated”… errr because it’s a democracy apparently Hmm and people can have autonomy over their bodies? Full steam ahead to creating a two tier society… and the language being used “do the right thing”, “for the greater good” is just guilt tripping and coercion, all in the name of altruism and heroism.

Why is it so awful for some people to want to wait until there is some long term data on any side effects? Previous posters on here writing them off as insignificant, the risk of side effects being minuscule etc.. I’m sure those suffering side effects from the vaccine and their loved ones would beg to differ? I could argue that the risk of complications from COVID would be minuscule for me, but that doesn’t mean I write off others experiences that have been different and they have been more unwell. Personally I would like to wait until there is more long term data regarding fertility and conception, menstrual issues etc. My 88yr old grandma is double vaccinated so I’m not exactly a huge risk to her. I frequently interact with vaccinated and unvaccinated people, couldn’t really tell you which was which though because I don’t ask. It’s none of my business.

@Mummyford “with a large percentage of the population choosing to not act in the best interests of the population at large” I think your maths is a bit off because as of 11th July, 86.1% of the population aged 18 and over had been vaccinated with at least one dose, and more than 6 in 10 individuals aged 18 and over have now been vaccinated with both doses (approx 65% of population).

More than 9 in 10 individuals (approx 93%) aged 50 and over, supposedly the most vulnerable age group, and more than 8 in 10 individuals aged 40 and over (87%) have been vaccinated with both doses.

Flowerlane · 21/07/2021 05:25

@Fthisshitimdone

How many of you vaccine refusers have had any Botox or lip fillers - be honest
Nope never had Botox and never had lip fillers! I also don’t agree with people that have them but respect their choice! Also don’t think I’m ‘special’ by deciding not to have the vaccine at this stage. I have a choice and have chosen not to.

Glad I’m not friends with anyone who doesn’t respect someone’s else’s choice and can only see it from their side.

Your posts come across like a child stamping their feet demanding their own way. You have had your vaccine be happy with that, stop interfering in other peoples lives.

Figmentofmyimagination · 21/07/2021 07:26

I would probably have been nervous if I was still trying for a family, especially if I had any worries about my fertility. The OP needs to remember that each person has different worries and is at a different life stage and find some empathy.

PurpleOkapi · 21/07/2021 23:15

I've never even considered botox or other cosmetic procedures, and I don't envision that changing. But since they've been in common use a lot longer than mRNA vaccines, their long-term effects are well known. I wouldn't fault someone for having those while declining vaccination due to concerns about long-term effects.

user1471539324 · 21/07/2021 23:31

@PurpleOkapi

I've never even considered botox or other cosmetic procedures, and I don't envision that changing. But since they've been in common use a lot longer than mRNA vaccines, their long-term effects are well known. I wouldn't fault someone for having those while declining vaccination due to concerns about long-term effects.
They are incomparable. Botox and fillers are toxins which are present in your body for months/years. mRNA vaccines are gone within a week roughly. I personally would never, ever go down the unregulated path of Botox or fillers. The risk is too high for me to tolerate. But the vast majority of women I know that are vaccine hesitant have had these unregulated procedures performed without a second thought. It highlights the results of previous studies showing that individuals tend to be poor risk assessors.

We have solid data from hundreds of millions of these vaccines now and understand the prevalence of significant side effects in the population. We also have a years worth of data for these vaccines now, long past the time it would take for side effects to present.

PurpleOkapi · 21/07/2021 23:45

@user1471539324 You're right that they aren't a good comparison - I meant that in reply to someone else comparing them. I did get vaccinated, somewhat against my better judgment, based on the same reasoning you used. The side effects were enough to make me unwilling to get boosters made with the same technology. That reasoning doesn't really hold up if boosters end up being necessary every year.

Lollipop25 · 22/07/2021 00:11

Wow judgemental much 🙄

BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 22/07/2021 00:16

I agree with you actually OP

It is selfish because there are vulnerable adults and children who cannot have the vaccine and so the rest of us having it also helps protect them