Cheeky fucker texting my dh

[Mojitoqueen]

Dd has a friend at school. I arranged a play date for her and her friend. Turned out I was working so dh picked up the girls and took them out. We’ve never met the girl or her parents before.
Dh said the mum asked him in for tea but he declined. They chatted at the door. Her husband works abroad.
Dh works away from home down south, we are up north. He’s home at weekends.
After the play date she texted dh the usual thank yous.
She’s texted dh today and asked if whilst he’s down south if he could meet her brother and get a box of her things in his car to bring to our home so she can pick up.
Dh replied and said he was four hours away from her brother so won’t be able to do it.
She has since texted him again with approx distances from train stations etc.
I’ve told dh I don’t want a relationship with her, I’ve never met her and it was just to let the kids play. I don’t want her texting my dh for favours and have snapped at dh wanting to be the nice guy and help out, he thinks it’s funny but I’m not happy she’s texting my dh.

Aibu to tell him to stop replying to her?
I now feel uncomfortable arranging anything again.

I do worry now that even if he puts an end to the conversation you're going to be constantly on edge just in case he's texting her judging by your comments...

And if he does do a favour, make sure she picks it up from YOU at your houses then you will know for sure what her intentions are if she makes excuses or request dh to drop it at hers etc bla bla

Why is it inappropriate to ask someone of the opposite sex a favour?

I think your husband probably is enjoying your ridiculous response and thank goodness he can see the funny side because I'd be furious if you didn't trust me to get rid of strange cheeky woman.

@Mojitoqueen

I’m annoyed because he replies and justifies it to her about the distance, telling her when he’s coming home etc and keeping the conversation going. Yes don’t want her texting my dh and trying to get pally with him and I don’t want to get into a situation where we are asked for favours all the time. She’s acting like he’s her close friend.

It doesn't sound like she is. If she is trying to get into his pants, getting on at him to go half a day out of his way to pick up a box is a really odd way to do it. Her technique needs a little practice if that is her aim.

I'm getting an underlying sense of you not trusting your DP, rather than the issue being this woman, OP. They've had a playdate, she asked for a favour, your DP said no. But you seem very het up that they're communicating at all. Does your DP have form for cheating?

@Mojitoqueen

If she was that desperate for a box of stuff she would just pay a courier to deliver it.

@Mojitoqueen

These people are very reasonable.

And yes she is a CF.

Yea cheeky of her! Who the hell mssgs someone else's dh for favours after meeting them once!!
Seems like the first man she's come across that spoke to her and now she will take full advantage. If it was my dh, I would expect him to ignore her mssgs, so she gets the mssg.

If I were him I would agree to do it.

Then I would not do it and when she asked I would say, oh yeah, I forgot.

She won't ask again.

I don’t get the issue, your kids had a play date and if they enjoyed it then why not organise another, at yours this time? She asked if he could collect box, he said no- not convenient . I don’t get the issue, leave it up to go to sort! Cxx

He’s enjoying you being a bit jealous, that’s all. Stop reacting to it and he’ll stop trying to get a rose out of you with ‘crying laughing emojis’.

In before the next mumsnet thread comments, oh god he's taking the train to see her he must be having an affair!

Your husband is showing you her messages because he enjoys seeing you get all ruffled and possessive. It makes him feel masculine and desirable. Don't encourage it, I say.

@WallaceinAnderland

If I were him I would agree to do it.

Then I would not do it and when she asked I would say, oh yeah, I forgot.

She won't ask again.

So let the mum arrange for her brother to meet the OP's DP to hand the box over but not turn up, totally wasting the brother's time? That's just spiteful!

I'm not sure if your DH is flirting with her or just winding her up, but either way I don't think he's handling it well.
She's a cheeky sort.

So you know her well enough to leave you child with her but not your husband?

That's no way to live OP.

It sounds like you don't trust him and are worried he wants to do her favours to try and impress her in the hope she might end up sleeping with him. Do you have reason to feel like that? Does he have a roving eye? If so you should leave him, if not you should work on your self esteem.

How on earth was the first reply rude and narky? I read it in a very matter of fact voice? Weird...

In the OP's world, the only males women should talk to are their husbands and close family relatives.

Why doesnt he suggest to her that her brother go to where your DP is and give him the box?

Would you be happy with that?

@Drivingmeupthewall

He’s enjoying you being a bit jealous, that’s all. Stop reacting to it and he’ll stop trying to get a rose out of you with ‘crying laughing emojis’.

This ^^ He’s enjoying having two women vying for his attention . Let him sort it out OP, he’s presumably capable of repeatedly saying No?

You’ve seriously lost the plot. Are you always this jealous over nothing?

@Notmoresugar

Block her on his phone.

Would you actually do this?!

You'd take another adults phone and block someone on it? Really?

Controlling AF. Totally unacceptable.

She’s a cheeky fucker, no doubt about that.

But you are insecure and allowing your insecurities to try and control your DH by telling him what he can and can’t do.

If he wants to form a friendship with this woman he should be able to; you trust him, don’t you?