Cheeky fucker texting my dh

[Mojitoqueen]

Dd has a friend at school. I arranged a play date for her and her friend. Turned out I was working so dh picked up the girls and took them out. We’ve never met the girl or her parents before.
Dh said the mum asked him in for tea but he declined. They chatted at the door. Her husband works abroad.
Dh works away from home down south, we are up north. He’s home at weekends.
After the play date she texted dh the usual thank yous.
She’s texted dh today and asked if whilst he’s down south if he could meet her brother and get a box of her things in his car to bring to our home so she can pick up.
Dh replied and said he was four hours away from her brother so won’t be able to do it.
She has since texted him again with approx distances from train stations etc.
I’ve told dh I don’t want a relationship with her, I’ve never met her and it was just to let the kids play. I don’t want her texting my dh for favours and have snapped at dh wanting to be the nice guy and help out, he thinks it’s funny but I’m not happy she’s texting my dh.

Aibu to tell him to stop replying to her?
I now feel uncomfortable arranging anything again.

If being a "cool girl" means you trust your husband, I plead guilty. Why use it as an insult?

Some very strange people on MN.

Nayday 🤣🤣

That's great for you, but you can't know that for sure. No-one can.

I agree no one can be trusted 100% so I suggest everyone should track their partners every move and not let them talk to anyone else ever

@DancesWithTortoises

If being a "cool girl" means you trust your husband, I plead guilty. Why use it as an insult?

Some very strange people on MN.

Agree, it’s so tediously predictable how it’s trotted out to describe people who trust their partners, aren’t jealous, don’t snoop on them and are secure in their relationships. It’s second only to ‘hand maids’ as an insult here, a term which is used to (attempt to) denigrate women who are happy to show interest in their partner’s sexual desires.

The elephant in the room of course, is not the behaviour of either the CF, or the DH. It's... what's in the package?

She doesn't want to let that package out of sight does she? Is she talking about reimbursing DH for the train fares? Must be expensive if it's a four hour journey? More expensive than a courier?

Sounds dodgy as fuck. I have a friend who used to "help out" a similarly demanding neighbour, and sometimes be the collection point for packages. Turned out to be class A amphetamines!

What do you know abt this woman?!

@Nayday

Send this:

CF, CF, CF, CFffffffff
I'm begging of you please don't text my man
CF, CF, CF, CFffffffff
Please don't ask him to take the parcel just because you cannnnn

Your packing skills are beyond compare
With lots of texts to ask him where
And with your brother living near
But 2 minutes on the doorstep and all this pain
And he can't pick it up for you
CF

We've been talking about you on mumsnet in our sleep
And there's nothing I can do to keep
From thinking YABU
CF

And I could easily understand
How you could easily ask my man
But you don't know how big the South East is
CF

I think it could work

Best comment I've seen on mumsnet to date

Hopefully CF doesn't come back with Signed, Sealed, Delivered - I'm Yours (DH's)

I'm not going to be able to stop this now 😂

If you liked it then you should have put a stamp on it?

Too much?

@Nayday

@GreyhoundG1rl
Let me tell you something about being tired to the point of collapse, in pain to the point where you actually do. These things sometimes either addle the brain a little or give you a small platform in wish to offer some support to others.
Of course there are the other mumsnetters. The ones who just want to bully. From what I've seen of your posts I wonder which which group you identfy with.

But still you do you.
Ťhanks for your input thou.

@DancesWithTortoises

If being a "cool girl" means you trust your husband, I plead guilty. Why use it as an insult?

Some very strange people on MN.

Perhaps because it is possible to trust your DH and empathise with and support someone else who has insecurities.

I think the 'cool girl' tag is aimed at those who parade their confidence and exclaim how incomprehensible it is that everyone is not the same. Notably without any useful advice on what the OP can do to attain this unassailable pinnacle of perfection.

Not applicable to all who have suggested the OP might need to work on her trust issues - something the OP has stated herself.

@Nayday love it love it love it

If it had been the girl's Dad being a CF. Would you still have the rage?

I think the 'cool girl' tag is aimed at those who parade their confidence and exclaim how incomprehensible it is that everyone is not the same.

While there are a few folk who brag how they have no issues with DH going to strip clubs or a weekend away with a female friend it's more often people scratching their heads at the fuss made over something mundane like knowing the names of one of the mums at the local Scout group or being friends with a women down the cycling club or whatever.

@Mojitoqueen you said you have insecurities but I really don’t think its you who have a problem, its CF who is trying her luck. As someone said earlier on the chat, many affairs started like this.

I have a story...we went for a snowboard trip couple years ago with my (then bf) DH and his friends. There was this girl all giggly and chatty around my DH when we all had a drink and I said to him to be wary of her, he said I am jealous etc. Few months later we found out that she cheated on her bf with a guy from work ( friends told us as we didn’t really know her/ keep in touch after the snowboard trip).

The thing is- you know when you know, just trust your instincts.

And men ‘just want to be nice’ until things happen unexpectedly because they became ‘friends’. I know quite a few cases where this sort it thing happened.

You’re just being wary & protective over your family, I’d be too.

Well my Mum trusted my Dad 100% and he had an affair.

Also, my Mum is lovely and attractive.

Do you think he wouldn't have cheated if she'd not trusted him, monitored his phone, and screeched at any woman who came near him?

@HeyDemonsItsYaGirl

Do you think he wouldn't have cheated if she'd not trusted him, monitored his phone, and screeched at any woman who came near him?

No idea but I certainly don't do those things. Me and my DH trust each and have the opposite sex friends but we do rather spend time with each other. I can just imagine my DH's reaction if CF had asked him to do the favour. He'd have told her to give her head a shake.

@HeyDemonsItsYaGirl it’s definitely better not to encourage these sort of situations... no one talks about screeching & monitoring mobile...

Another case I know- something that happened to my girlfriend...her DH’s female colleague offered to paint the nursery while my friend ( pregnant at the time) was away...my girlfriend was all relaxed about it. You can guess how it all ended up...they had an affair and my friend only just managed to save their marriage.

After all it does not pay off to be all relaxed about any random Shila hanging out with DH, sorry thats life!

I do wonder what the Cool Wives Husbands look like. My DH is lovely looking but I still trust him.

Some of the Cool Wives will find it easier though if their men are average and not all that and know the ladies,that are wanting to friend them aren't one bit interested them sexually. Some woman like a male friend who share their interests but would not touch them with a barge pole.

I mean if you're married to Danny DeVito lookalike there is less of a worry than if DH is more Dwayne Johnson.

So cool Wives we do not want your man.

@HeyDemonsItsYaGirl

Do you think he wouldn't have cheated if she'd not trusted him, monitored his phone, and screeched at any woman who came near him?

Who the fuck screeches at people?

@Mojitoqueen i admire your honesty in admitting you feel insecure. Strangely many people appear to have interpreted this as you don't trust your husband?
I notice on many threads if someone admits to having a weakness or they do not think the same way as other people then the nastiness starts. Very sad when people forget or choose to ignore that there is a human being who is suffering behind the screen.
The woman in question has certainly in my opinion way overstepped the mark with her request and as you suffer from insecurty i fully understand why this has upset you. I'm sure you would love nothing more than to be totally unfazed by the whole situation however sadly when you are insecure this is very difficult as the mind tends to jump to worst case scenario.
My advice is to keep doing all you can to build your self confidence and focus if you can on the moment and all the good things in your life. Insecurity is a horrible feeling and those who don't understand it or understand how debilitating it can be are extremely fortunate.
I hope your ok op