Cheeky fucker texting my dh

[Mojitoqueen]

Dd has a friend at school. I arranged a play date for her and her friend. Turned out I was working so dh picked up the girls and took them out. We’ve never met the girl or her parents before.
Dh said the mum asked him in for tea but he declined. They chatted at the door. Her husband works abroad.
Dh works away from home down south, we are up north. He’s home at weekends.
After the play date she texted dh the usual thank yous.
She’s texted dh today and asked if whilst he’s down south if he could meet her brother and get a box of her things in his car to bring to our home so she can pick up.
Dh replied and said he was four hours away from her brother so won’t be able to do it.
She has since texted him again with approx distances from train stations etc.
I’ve told dh I don’t want a relationship with her, I’ve never met her and it was just to let the kids play. I don’t want her texting my dh for favours and have snapped at dh wanting to be the nice guy and help out, he thinks it’s funny but I’m not happy she’s texting my dh.

Aibu to tell him to stop replying to her?
I now feel uncomfortable arranging anything again.

@LifeinPieces21

I do wonder what the Cool Wives Husbands look like. My DH is lovely looking but I still trust him.

Some of the Cool Wives will find it easier though if their men are average and not all that and know the ladies,that are wanting to friend them aren't one bit interested them sexually. Some woman like a male friend who share their interests but would not touch them with a barge pole.

Ffs stop with the Cool Wives shit. So now if you’re not a jealous obsessive drama queen it’s because nobody would look twice at your husband because he’s unattractive. Not because you’re a rational, reasonable human being who doesn’t think the worst of everyone.

LifeinPieces21 were you on the wine last night?

@HeyDemonsItsYaGirl

LifeinPieces21 were you on the wine last night?

Yes 😁

Ffs stop with the Cool Wives shit. So now if you’re not a jealous obsessive drama queen it’s because nobody would look twice at your husband because he’s unattractive. Not because you’re a rational, reasonable human being who doesn’t think the worst of everyone.

I'm not actually a worrier about these things and definitely don't screech but I just thought some posters were horrible to OP.

For me?

I don’t think it is a case of cool girls/trustworthy partners/screeching harpies/jealousy/control.

If OP’s gut is telling her it is all wrong, then she should pay heed to it.

It might be nothing.. hopefully so.

But I’ve seen enough of this caper in my time and even though her husband is trustworthy, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the woman’s intentions are entirely honourable.

The first request was definitely in cf territory. So too is the follow up with train times. But that could have been stopped if the OP's DH had simply said no, and kept saying no. The real issue is that he's kept the conversation going rather than shutting it down. Is he stringing her along and laughing at her? Or is it a mild form of flirting and he's enjoying the attention? Neither are good, but the latter is more concerning, and we don't know his motives. PPs have given examples where something that apparently starts out innocently can move on to something worse.

FWIW I don't think you're being unreasonable. My DH is obliging to the point of ridiculousness, and therefore attracts people who like to take the piss. He's almost incapable of saying no without me pointing out vociferously that the person making the request is a total CF.

@RadandMad

FWIW I don't think you're being unreasonable. My DH is obliging to the point of ridiculousness, and therefore attracts people who like to take the piss. He's almost incapable of saying no without me pointing out vociferously that the person making the request is a total CF.

Mine too. People take advantage of his kind nature. He can never say no.

YANBU OP. I would be furious with this situation too and would demand (yes, demand) that my DH did not engage any further if I were you

@Mojitoqueen

Any update, is she still texting your DH?

Why are you so stressed about this.
It seems a perfectly reasonable Thing to ask someone to collect something if it's near where she thinks he is going to.

He said no he couldn't.

Where she is unreasonable is to send the distances and persist

He could say if the brother could bring the parcel to where he will be he would be happy to bring it

Not sure why you think her husband being away is relevant unless you have other concerns about your husband?

Wanting him to go 4 hours out of his way? That’s not a favour, that’s a big ask.