My DH never buys me food….

[Lifeisaminestrone]

My DH and I both work FT but he is keen to do the weekly food shop on a Sat. I won’t do this but I have repeatedly offered to order online (he says he enjoys it).

Anyway, I have asked him to buy me some food both sandwich fillers and snacks while wfh, and he never does. He’ll buy me a few drinks I like (alcohol and non-alcoholic) but that’s it. Anyway it’s getting me rather down.

I should add that we are by no means poor - we have good professional legal incomes and are high earners.

We have been in lockdown for a while now and I really would appreciate him buying me some food I would like. I have told him what I would like added on the list.

Anyway am I being unreasonable in the expectation of food or should I buy my own (I used to always buy out when working in town).

It’s a similar thing with ironing he’ll do his and my child’s but not mine (although I do the washing and putting away for all of us).

Just finding it a bit hurtful. Been married 10 years!

And you're married to this selfish mean petty tyrant because........................

That's just...weird. I suggest that you either go out and buy your own, or order it. Don't worry about him. He's handling that. Also, I suggest that you quit putting his laundry away. Do you and your child.

Nah, Mumsnet. This isn't for real. Too weird for a married couple WITH A CHILD and Toooo quickly and easily "resolved" after much discussion on here. DM baiting us again?

He sounds like me! I always shop for me and the kids and hubby sorts his own food out. This is because he will moan if I pick up the wrong items and he prefers to choose what he wants when he shops. If he needs anything specific then I'll pick it up.
I always do the household laundry (because hubby will shrink and ruin clothes) but I expect everyone to put their own clothes away afterwards.

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

we have good professional legal incomes and are high earners

Go and buy your own food!

I must admit I agree to this.

The OP states they both contribute to the weekly shop but she expects her 'snacks' to come out of this as well. Unless they are both doing this, she should buy her own.
I buy the weekly shop that both me and DH contribute to, but additional extras are up to us to fund.
If the OP would but her own lunch in town out of her own cash, I am guessing her DH thinks she is being cheeky expecting her lunches and snacks to be anything extra than the shop.

Totally out of order - write a list or do online. Simple

I wouldn't worry about the ironing - he is probably afraid of doing it wrong. But you need to ask him why he doesn't buy your food if you've put it on the list.

So he expects you to write down a list of things you want? Sounds perfectly reasonable. Are you saying that you didn’t give him a written list before? Your OP is unclear. You said “told him what you wanted to add to the list”. I know that if I mentioned to my husband verbally “oh when you do the shopping please could you get some of those nice yoghurts for me” he’d definitely forget. He needs a written list. All this drama over nothing.

Thought about this one, and I wonder if he
a) couldn't care less about your snacks and sarnie- fillers, because
b) he's saving- his cash for when he runs off with his bit-on-the-side who works in the supermarket...

@claralara42

Talk about first world problems. You sound spolit, just go to the supermarket together like most people do and throw stuff in the trolley that you like

Are you actually high? It's not spoiled to expect your husband who is doing the food shopping to but food for both of you, ffs.

If this was the other way around, you would have told her to get him to buy his own.

If this was the other way around, you would have told her to get him to buy his own

I most certainly would not! If I went and bought food for myself and not for my husband, that would be just as odd. They're married, not flatmates...what's next, writing his name on his milk and hiding his biscuits in his room?

People saying why doesn’t she get her own stuff, why should she if he’s already out every week? Plus she’s working from home for a reason, we’re in a pandemic. Why double the chances of catching it when one person is already out?

I agree with the online shopping for you and your child. Also leave his ironing. He sounds very strange and selfish.