To take a much younger lover?

[MadamePalm]

Early 40s. Separated but not yet divorced. Two young DC.

I have absolutely no interest in another serious relationship at the moment. The thought of another man coming in and breaking my heart like ex DH did absolutely horrified me. However I do miss male company (and sex)

I have a young man (basically half my age) showing very strong interest in me. He's gorgeous, sweet, sexy and already ridiculously successful for someone so young. I'm really tempted to throw caution to the wind and have some fun. However all my friends are telling me to find someone closer to my own age. I've dated a few guys in their 40s recently and they've just done nothing for me.

Am I a terrible old perve? Should I just go for it? I feel so conflicted!

Sure they do indeed

Why you asking a bunch of strangers

You know what people are going to say in real life few will be saying go for it most will think is he wanting a mummy figure

You won’t be getting a part of the back (like some men would if reversed)

If he was my son no I would it be happy at all neither would I be happy if I had a daughter and they got involved with a man in his 40’s with young children

To be frank - ime it's more likely you're a fetish (older woman experience etc) or a bet.

Sorry if that's harsh but seriously, there aren't many 23 year olds as eligible as you say who would be genuinely interested in a divorced woman in her 40's with dc. For obvious reasons.

I'm 34 and would consider a 23 year old far too young for me. I'd constantly be thinking about how he was 12 when I was 23 and similar. Boak.

@chickenyhead Yes they do. Why would I lie about it? He's a gorgeous, Well off young guy. Do you think he'd fancy me if I was a middle aged frumpy?

@Od130990

Yes go for it, after I split with my DC's father. I started a fwb with my now DP who's 28 and I'm now 39 he was 24 when we met and perused me, he wouldn't take no for an answer 😂 we have loads more in common then I did with my ex.

He ’perused’ you? Like a shelf of books in a library? I rather like the sound of that

Someone who is young enough to be your son, eww no.

The rule is half your age plus seven. And I think that works well in general.
In early 40s I could just about see 27, 28 year old. But 23? It's a no for me, a bit of a step too far, sorry.

I had a fling with a man 11 years younger than me. He made me laugh like know one else, he was kind, hard working, handsome, no baggage and no issues . It was the best relationship I have ever had, so I married that young man and 23 years later he is still the best thing to me . I'm now 53 he's 42 we have two beautiful children together and I couldn't be happier

Oh go for it and enjoy it!!

You are both consenting adults!

Rod Stewart 76 married to Penny Lancaster 50

Joan Collins 88 married to Percy Gibson 57

Emmanuel Macron 43 married to Brigitte Macron 67

Yes they're all much older but there's a very considerable age gap.
If new bloke was 20 or under it would feel a bit ick but he's 23.
Some 23 yr olds are already married with kids.

Go for it. Have some fun. You're not hurting anybody.

Too right go for it, you have one life!

@WeatheringStorms22 A bet? That's a very sad view to have imo. He admires the way I am bringing up my DC alone with no support from their father. We share similar tastes in music, film, interests and political views. No I would never pursue a serious relationship but don't assume that genuine connections aren't possible just because of an age gap. Life is not that black and white.

@PurpleRainDancer who wouldn't like to be perused?

@bert3400 that's so lovely

He's a gorgeous, Well off young guy

So why isn't this gorgeous successful 23 year old finding a gorgeous, free, 23 year old for his fling?

Seriously, dig a little deeper op.

@WeatheringStorms22

To be frank - ime it's more likely you're a fetish (older woman experience etc) or a bet.

Sorry if that's harsh but seriously, there aren't many 23 year olds as eligible as you say who would be genuinely interested in a divorced woman in her 40's with dc. For obvious reasons.

I'm 34 and would consider a 23 year old far too young for me. I'd constantly be thinking about how he was 12 when I was 23 and similar. Boak.

100% this. ^

So if he's too young then where the fuck do I find a man my own age who isn't either bitter, a commitment phone, tight with money, or just obsessed with talking about themselves? Because I'm seriously struggling when I date men in their 40s.

Maybe it's true that all the good ones are taken by then?

He perused me PMSL! 😂

@WeatheringStorms22

To be frank - ime it's more likely you're a fetish (older woman experience etc) or a bet.

Sorry if that's harsh but seriously, there aren't many 23 year olds as eligible as you say who would be genuinely interested in a divorced woman in her 40's with dc. For obvious reasons.

I'm 34 and would consider a 23 year old far too young for me. I'd constantly be thinking about how he was 12 when I was 23 and similar. Boak.

He was under 3 when she was 23!

Leave the youg uns alone luv

Whyever not? You fancy him. He fancies you. You're not intending to settle down with him. I don't really see why you would bother consulting a load of moralising harpies

He admires the way I am bringing up my DC alone with no support from their father

Mmm. When I was in my early 20's, all my single male friends and colleagues put 'bringing her kids up well' at the top of their wanted list for their next shag

Well it sounds like you've made your mind up already Op. I'm not sure why you keep mentioning his successful business and him being "well off" though. You just want him for a sex buddy right?

Taking a younger lover is such an odd old fashioned term though. Like something out of a Mills and Boon novel

There are plenty of women who like much older men so I'm sure there are also plenty of men who like older women.
And plenty of women who like much older women & plenty of men who like much older men.

Just go for it & see where it goes.