To take a much younger lover?

[MadamePalm]

Early 40s. Separated but not yet divorced. Two young DC.

I have absolutely no interest in another serious relationship at the moment. The thought of another man coming in and breaking my heart like ex DH did absolutely horrified me. However I do miss male company (and sex)

I have a young man (basically half my age) showing very strong interest in me. He's gorgeous, sweet, sexy and already ridiculously successful for someone so young. I'm really tempted to throw caution to the wind and have some fun. However all my friends are telling me to find someone closer to my own age. I've dated a few guys in their 40s recently and they've just done nothing for me.

Am I a terrible old perve? Should I just go for it? I feel so conflicted!

Op, where have you gone?

@Chunkymenrock

She's busy !

@MintyCedric

I hope she hasn't worn herself out yet

I'm still bit hmm about a middle aged person pursuing somebody barely out of their teens but it's not breaking any laws.

How's it going OP?

Yes, dying to know, OP!

I dont think you should assume he id looking for a fling. Of he has his shit together he may be looking for a more mature relationship than you think.

Why this man? Why not just no strings sex.

My personal experience after break ups is that it is normal to look for validation...and doesnt this man seem one up on your ex...

My advoce would be dont go from frying pan to fire and just spend that time on yourself, not another man. Enjoy not thinking about men for a while. See friends. That gap will still be there after sex so start filling it independently (no pun intended!)

It is no worse than Bill Wyman and Mandy Smith, and no one was too bothered about that.

I was @PippaHugo- he was in a position of power because of his fame and wealth. Her parents encouraged it; it was very wrong.

Mandy Smith was known as his "child bride" he was quite widely criticised in the press.

I agree with RealBecca and think that's really sound advice. I think it's best to help a poster consider their motivations rather than just telling her You Go Girl.

He’s in his 20’s!! How is that anything like having a sexual relationship with a 13 year old girl?

Personally at 23 absolutely not.

Many Smith was a child people did questionat the time more sadly turned a blind eye

Turn this around a group of men saying to a man in his early 40’s in same situation go on It’s only a bit of fun (which many probably would) wouldn’t most of us feel uneasy with this. I would

Really really weird to compare this with Mandy Smith wtf, he's a full grown adult nearing his mid 20s.

I haven’t read all the replies but I didn’t know so many people had a problem with age gaps? Do what makes you happy OP—it’s your life and you’re both adults. When I met my husband I was 21 and he was 42. We’ve been together for 10 years, married for 2. Everyone is an individual, do what works for you.