Treated like a maid in this house, so I've booked a cleaner!

[butterflies218]

I have endometriosis, which is currently crippling me (been bleeding non stop for 19 days now)

So DH has gone camping for the weekend with friends (he's not the issue, he works 7 day weeks running his own business) on the occasion he takes a day off (rare) he will absolutely do his own laundry, my laundry, gardening etc when I haven't managed to do it because of pain.

The problem is his sister who lives with us! They moved in 3 years ago, his Mum basically kicked her and her boyfriend out as she wanted extra space (don't get me started on MIL).

I work 12 hour days, as does DH then he does his admin and paperwork when he gets home.

He works 9-5 from home, she is furloughed, NOTHING gets done, we've had numerous talks, they don't even empty a clean dishwasher, they leave their shit stacked up on my kitchen sides, their laundry by the washing machine, play Xbox in their room, never ever have picked up the hoover since they've lived here.

We agreed they move in for a year (3 years ago!) they saved to go travelling and went travelling for a year, the first year they were great, then came back to save again to go back travelling and covid hit. No travelling. So they've been in the house 24/7. They are moving out next month (thank the lord).

I got home tonight, DH away, they'd left to go visit his parents for a week 4 hours away, my house was a tip! I've been a mess all week with pain, bleeding, new medication etc. They left their pans with burnt super noodles in the bottom on the kitchen side, plates stacked up (I emptied the dishwasher last night ), no water in the dog bowl, shit stains in my toilet, piled the recycling so high it's ripped over.

I lost my shit, called my husband, told him I was booking a cleaner for tomorrow as I'm in too much pain to lug the hoover about and clean and I sent a message to our group chat telling them they will be picking up the £70 bill. This is fair to me seeing as neither myself or DH leave dirty plates on side/don't clean our shit stains off toilet/don't leave our room an absolute dive/spilled orange pasta sauce from lunch on the cream sofa cushions.

They've read and not responded. They pay us £200 each a month rent. Food, sky, laundry products included and I feel like they've just taken the piss out of us since covid hit.

I've had an arsey text from MIL "I think booking a cleaner is unreasonable and to then charge them for it, it's very petty" sorry? I work my arse off, as does DH and I clean every weekend and do our laundry, this weekend I cannot as I am in awful pain.

Please tell me AIBU? I'm so sick of this all, the sooner they go the better!!!!!

I'd get DH to message back saying the £70 needs to be paid or they can come and collect their belongings, that your health comes first and that unfortunately they can no longer be accommodated at your house.

@NotMeekNotObedient

I'd get DH to message back saying the £70 needs to be paid or they can come and collect their belongings, that your health comes first and that unfortunately they can no longer be accommodated at your house.

They've paid. Check OP's posts.

And it isn't 400 a month, it is 200 a month!

Where does that come from? OP said £200 a month each.

Yet another thread from the parallel universe.

Cleaner came and did a wonderful job

Same day cleaning services? I really need to live where you do!

@Terhou

The £400 is made up of £200 for each of them, so the maths.... 2 people x £200 = £400

The OP said in her first post

They pay us £200 each a month rent. Food, sky, laundry products included and I feel like they've just taken the piss out of us since covid hit.

OP,

I cannot imagine how you have put up with this or how your husband has allowed you and your home to be so disrespected.

Your mental health has been suffering?

Hardly surprising having these disgusting people in your home.

Your husband has badly let you down allowing this to continue when you have been going through so much.

He should be ashamed of himself.

Tell MIL if she thinks it's petty will she come and clean up after them? Then tell you if she thinks it was petty.

@butterflies218

Thank you everyone, sorry I needed somewhere to rant and didn't expect so many replies.

They had nowhere to go as were both on a low income, his family is up north and she was at uni when they were kicked out by MIL so she could use their bedroom as a snug.

As mentioned in my first post, the first year was fine, I did have to teach them how to use a washing machine etc but we all got on pretty well. They didn't hoover or anything like that but did clean up after themselves etc.

Then they went travelling and the agreement was they could come back for a year to save for either travelling or a house.

His family have moved abroad and their house up north is free from next month, they are moving there.

The last 12 months have been hell with them, it's like they just decided to take the piss and that's that. My DH has had words with them multiple times.

I don't want to fall out with anyone but I just reached the end of my tether when I got in to that state last night after working all week and being in pain.

To answer a few questions, our landlord knows they live with us and amended our rental agreement (we've been here 8 years and we are lucky to have a nice landlord).

I have had multiple surgeries for endometriosis and I am seeing my consultant and surgeon again next month.

I've taken photos and wish I could put them on here but it would be outing. I'm well aware for the past 12-18 months I've been a doormat but I've had 2 miscarriages, poor mental health, surgery, worked full time throughout and have daily pain from endo but I was just trying to do a nice thing for SIL and her partner. Lesson learned.

In regards to the cleaner, I have cleaned the toilet, emptied dish washer and put stuff away so it needs dusting hoovering and mopping (things that escalate my pain). I wouldn't leave it the state it was in last night for the cleaner to do.

It's your husband that's been the doormat

I have to agree with comments regarding your husband's lack of care for you. If you've been suffering with so much, surely he noticed that you couldn't cope? You're his priority, not his SIL. I hope you show him this thread.

Pack up their belongings and ask them to arrange alternative accommodation until they move into their own home. Deduct the cleaning bill from the rent they have already paid and refund the balance of the rent to them. I wouldn’t worry about where they’ll stay before taking possession of their new house, it’s up to them to find somewhere else. Then chillax.

Take photos, send them to MIL and ask her when she’ll be round to do the cleaning on their behalf. That of they pay up for the cleaner. AND your DH should be supporting you, it’s his family taking the piss out of you, not on, and even more so when you’ve got health problems going on. They need to step up and he needs to man up!

Just a thought but obviously not the toliet but put everything they leave lying about in a pile in there room or take it to your mil and put it in her house and tell her to deal with it

Your MIL may have backtracked but the damage is done.
She’s shown that she doesn’t give a toss about you.

Glad you got the place cleaned at their expense.

You have let them get away with this for three years, so must shoulder some of the blame.