To ask what age it becomes unusual

[Whyyouso]

To live with parents

@Lalliella

Every situation is different. When I went to uni it was the norm not to go back home after, but now a lot of young people do. It’s so expensive to get on the property ladder. I’ve told my DCs they can live with us as long as they want/need to!

I'm the same. DC1 may return this summer after his studies and that's fine. I'm free and easy really. Not going to be turfing anyone out.

@Sparklingbrook
It doesn't matter how you split it, 13years plus reception = 14 years in school.

7 primary and 6 secondary = 13years, but not all kids will stay for 6th year.

[quote Lockdownbear]@Sparklingbrook
It doesn't matter how you split it, 13years plus reception = 14 years in school.

7 primary and 6 secondary = 13years, but not all kids will stay for 6th year.[/quote]
Ok. Remind me what the connection is between all this and leaving home again?

I'd say early 20s. My 18 year old is pretty much at the stage where she ready to fly the nest but can't afford it just yet. She is working so I expect it won't be much longer.

Obviously at any age there will always be a home here for any of them if/when needed but that independence I think is important.

OMG just put the whole damn thread title in the title FFS

In some cultures they never move out

@AngeloMysterioso

OMG just put the whole damn thread title in the title FFS

Yes, and maybe come back to the thread and explain why they want to know. I am always a bit at 'at what age' threads that the OPs don't return to. What's the point?

Where are you @Whyyouso?

I think it depends on whether the young adult is saving for a house deposit or wasting all their money away, and what their long term goals are.
Also whether there were any circumstances which made it harder for them to live independently earlier. Such as illness, poor mental health, being a student, living anywhere near London, fleeing abusive relationship, caring responsibilities. People aren’t the same and don’t experience the same lives so you can’t put a specific age on it.

From 25 onwards. It’s really time to get on with your own life then.

I don’t think age matters at all really, and the circumstances are what make it reasonable : unreasonable.

However just in terms of gut reaction if I just heard that an aquaintance’s son or daughter lived with them:

20-25 wouldn’t think anything, perfectly usual.
26-30 bit unusual, would assume saving for house and they have a good relationship- lovely.
30-40 more unusual, would wonder if there was backstory eg a divorce or illness.
40+ very unusual, would wonder if perhaps child / parent / other family memeber needed care of some sort.

I think there has been a lot of returning to live with parents. i know of a man who has split with his wife and is living back with his parents for the time being while trying to get sorted.
A neighbour's son is coming back to live with her because he lost his job and can't afford his rent now.

Nothing to do with age and everything to do with circumstances.

I was 27 when I moved out properly, brother is 25 and still lives at home. Several of my friends are still at home and we're now 30. Ideally everyone would get their first job straight after graduating and get a mortgage but it doesn't work like that.

I don't think anyone should judge anyone for living with their parents at any age, anyway. If it suits them and their parents, it's nobody else's business.

Providing there are no other circumstances eg returning to study, separation, saving to get on a very expensive local property ladder etc I’d say I’d find over 25 or 26 unusual.

Anyone being judgemental can fuck off.
It’s not young people’s fault it’s impossible to get on the housing ladder and rent costs £1000+ a month but you only earn slightly more than that.

Ds is 26 graduated and moved back to save. He's had a offer on a flat accepted so should be gone soon. He's only the second of his friendship group to buy tho. Most still live with parents and a few rent.

@Ohhok

Anyone being judgemental can fuck off. It’s not young people’s fault it’s impossible to get on the housing ladder and rent costs £1000+ a month but you only earn slightly more than that.

That's very location dependant tbh. For 1000 a month you have detached 4 bed near mine. Or very nice 2 or simpler 3 bed in a city centre.

@Mrstamborineman

Uni doesn’t start at 17. Just curious why people race to be the best most outstanding poster sometimes.

I started university at 17, depends when your birthday falls. Really sucked being one of the only few in my class that didn't always get in to the nightclub on a night out.

The dating situation is weird and dating a 30 year old man who still lived with his mum and dad would put me off.

@Marianicka
You'd be amazed, I know a 37 year old man who has never lived away from home and has no intention of ever leaving.....he actually moved his last 2 girlfriends in to his mum's house with him! And she did all their cooking and laundry same as she does for him.

With the state of the housing market and economy who fucking knows!

I don't live at home, I own my home (mortgaged so I'm aware it not properly mine) but honestly I think people need to wake up to the huge generational wealth inequalities in this country and in many others.

We can't use the same judgment to young people today as we might for 20 some things in the 70s (my parents were in their 20s then). The world is not the same. We don't live in a meritocracy especially with inherited wealth helping people buy homes.

It's nonsense to view somone living at home in their late 20s as failing in some way. With the cost of housing and job security as it is.

@Ohhok

Anyone being judgemental can fuck off. It’s not young people’s fault it’s impossible to get on the housing ladder and rent costs £1000+ a month but you only earn slightly more than that.

Exactly what I'm talking about.