Piercing a 2yr olds ears..

[Thelogicescapesme]

It's not a cultural thing in this case, more so the toddler is being treat like a fashion accessory. Mum had it done because mum thinks it's "pretty and girly"

As an adult whom has had to have two piercings surgically removed and antibiotics for complications post procedure I think it's fucking bonkers that anybody would inflict it on a small child.

AIBU and what are your thoughts?

Regardless of culture, it's vile. Utterly abhorrent to do it to a baby or toddler

Yeah it's not good

Ugh, just no. YANBU.
I think it looks tacky. Babies/toddlers are not a fashion accessory and they can't consent to stuff like this.

Well obviously it's unnecessary and I wouldn't do it to my child but if the parent looks after the piercings properly it's relatively harmless in the grand scheme of things.

Just no.

I think you’ve had really bad luck with your piercings. It’s not typical. I don’t care. I rarely notice earrings. They are removable. They are quite popular. Millions of people have them. Not sure what you mean by “not cultural”. Isn’t it always part of culture?

Nobody should be piercing a child until that child ASKS for it to be done. End of.

Hate jewellery on small children where it’s just for ‘beauty’ reasons

i had my ears done only when i was old enough to say i wanted them done , dd is nearly 13 and not said a word about wanting it , it looks tacky on babies and toddlers and the message is its been inflicted on them by a parents wishes not theres as they cant consent , it hurts having it done so i cant think why you would do that to your kid unless it was a necessary like a vaccine or medical procedure

I don't think it looks nice note do I think it's practical so I wouldn't do it with mine but it's not something I can get worked up about other people doing.

@Shadedog

I think you’ve had really bad luck with your piercings. It’s not typical. I don’t care. I rarely notice earrings. They are removable. They are quite popular. Millions of people have them. Not sure what you mean by “not cultural”. Isn’t it always part of culture?

I have yes, which is why I wouldn't get any more. I had those piercings for years with no problems but a child of 2 isn't able to take due care so the likelihood of something going wrong is alot higher.

In some cultures it's expected you pierce a child/babies ears and widely accepted. Karna vedha sanskar for example, in India, requires piercing a baby's ears.

I was highlighting that the case in my OP isn't like that. No religious or cultural motivation.

But also not any of your business

@ghostyslovesheets

But also not any of your business

You don't even know who the child is to me, besides plenty of things posted on AIBU are none of the posters business.

Well no I don’t know - but I recognise a goady thread when I see one

You aren’t the parent so it’s really bugger all to do with you

@ghostyslovesheets

Well no I don’t know - but I recognise a goady thread when I see one

You aren’t the parent so it’s really bugger all to do with you

Take your own advice then and myob if the thread offends you.

Horrible for the baby and no benefit to them whatsoever.

It doesn’t offend me sorry

It’s just entertaining and daft

I have a Spanish friend who said that in Spain they actually pierce new born babies ears right there in the hospital if you so desire

I think it's an extremely selfish thing to do and is only for the parent's benefit. What that benefit actually is I have no idea

IMO it's child abuse

So is it your DIL doing the piercing? Otherwise I can’t really understand being so annoyed by it, as to be moved to start a thread about it.

My 3 year old asked for it after seeing her cousin.

For us it is cultural but I didn't want to do it to a baby but considering she asked I went ahead and skipped to Claire's. She loves them! :)

I don’t like it. Piercings hurt (I have 5, I know they hurt), need careful after-care (also occasionally painful) and introduce a foreign body into your flesh. Why is it considered ok to do this to a child who can’t consent?

I love every one of my well-considered piercings. I looked into the pain level, the healing time and like complications based on the position of each. I used a piercing parlour where an experienced piercer used a needle. I’m pretty certain she doesn’t pierce the ears of the very young.

I had my ears pierced when I was a baby. Ffs! It wasn’t child abuse, good god! My parents aren’t British and I find the whole ‘ear piercing’ shock extremely weird in this country,
I had a friend who wanted her ears pierced. It was my first experience of this weirdness. The shock that I actually had my ears pierced as a baby. Big deal, I don’t remember it and now, at 45 still have my holes and I’ve not put earring in for about two years.
Love every Brit getting their knickers in a twist about it.

The piercings were done at Claire's accessories too, so same place as PP above. They don't have the best reputation when it comes to this.

I think there's probably good reason reputable piercers wouldn't go sticking needles in toddlers but that logic escapes Claire's obviously.

No the mum isn't my DIL but a close relative. I spend alot of time with the child so know that it's a disaster waiting to happen, pulling on the jewellery etc.

@Killergigglebunnies

I had my ears pierced when I was a baby. Ffs! It wasn’t child abuse, good god! My parents aren’t British and I find the whole ‘ear piercing’ shock extremely weird in this country, I had a friend who wanted her ears pierced. It was my first experience of this weirdness. The shock that I actually had my ears pierced as a baby. Big deal, I don’t remember it and now, at 45 still have my holes and I’ve not put earring in for about two years. Love every Brit getting their knickers in a twist about it.

I find is it extremely weird that people think it's acceptable to poke holes in babies and insert foreign bodies for (usually) no good reason.. but there we are.

Should we pierce babies noses too then, or their cheeks? Is that ok to you?

Why stop at piercings, why not tattoo something meaningful whilst we're at it.

Bonkers.