To wonder why many people don't want to know their baby's gender during pregnancy

[pearlsandpetals]

Hi all, this is definitely not a hateful post just a curious one that's all!
I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant and going to find out the gender soon. For me, knowing the gender means we can not only prepare better for the baby's arrival but also I think will make me have a closer bond with my baby before they are here, by being able to refer to them as my son or daughter and trying to picture what they will be like. I just wanted to know what reasons people have for not finding out the gender as I'm really interested!

Because finding out at the moment they are born is far better than being told by a doctor after a scan

That’s your experience. I waited and wish I’d found out at the scan as I would have had a moment of appreciating that and getting excited about having a son.

Whereas I was so exhausted and focused on the health of the baby at the delivery to have any moment or reaction to being told the sex.

I always imagined that I’d be like you and find out the sex. When my sister was pregnant with DS she found out his sex ASAP and so quickly he was named and we talked about him and he was a part of our life before we ever met him. And then we almost lost him during the birth and he spent a few weeks in ICU. I’m not saying it would have been worse if we hadn’t felt like we knew him already …. But it was enough to put me off. Just my personal experience.

@NewPapaGuinea

Because finding out at the moment they are born is far better than being told by a doctor after a scan. I remember it to this day and it still brings me joy reimagining that moment.

Not for everyone. The moment my baby was born was pure devastation and sadness at the loss of him. I have PTSD from it.

@NewPapaGuinea

Because finding out at the moment they are born is far better than being told by a doctor after a scan. I remember it to this day and it still brings me joy reimagining that moment.

Says who? you? my sister has had both and told me to find out the sex beforehand. she said it was so much more exciting finding out and having the time to get excited about just that than in the delivery room when everything was really chaotic and crazy. different people have different views and everyone's is valid. there's no right or wrong here. it's a personal thing

We decided to wait as we wanted it to be a surprise and a friend of ours got told the whole way through that she was having a boy so brought and got given all boy clothes and then had a girl and then struggled getting her head round finding a different name etc, everyone is different though there's no right or wrong way of doing things, just different!x

**NewPapaGuinea

Because finding out at the moment they are born is far better than being told by a doctor after a scan. I remember it to this day and it still brings me joy reimagining that moment.

Not for everyone. The moment my baby was born was pure devastation and sadness at the loss of him. I have PTSD from it.**

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little boy x