To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

@TwinsAndTrifle This thread was nothing about anything you’re going on about now, there was no malice in it. It’s become completely about you now

Glad you realise you were being a bit weird
Op 😉 just relax and enjoy your little girl!

Take the last Twinsandtriffle.

Just to be really clear.

Apparently, none of us are aghast at what OP does for any other reason than being jealous and unhinged. We are "triggered" if we point out this is comical.

Then it was because we must all be unattractive, because attractive women would all agree with what OP does.

So one poster stated she was attractive, nice figure, and thought what OP was doing was bad.

She got told "attractive? Suuure you are". The actual audacity of some nasty posters on here.

So I then say that I think what OP is doing is categorically wrong, and I am a woman who has made a career from my appearance, so pretty sure after several cosmetic campaigns, where I was paid for my appearance, I can confidently qualify as an "attractive woman." So now, you have an attractive woman, who does not agree with OP, so that's that theory debunked.

Oh no I can't possibly have spent 20yrs successfully modelling. You see, if I were a model, I wouldn't be so hypocritical. Then, plucked randomly from the ether, I must think I'm the only attractive woman in the world.

Have a look at the internet quote about playing chess with pigeons.

Night night

OP, did you genuinely think everyone bought their three year olds a new outfit for every play date, and matched the outfit to the destination (long, white floaty dress for a playdate at the Taj Mahal, Breton and beret to play with French toddler, leopard skin for a zoo trip etc ) so the resultant Instagram snaps garnered enough admiring likes, but we just weren’t admitting to it?

@MareMare

of course she didn't
she said "I'm weird, aren't I?"
she knows she is BU.
she was told she is BU

As Joey would say this whole thread is like a cow's opinion 🤣

More money than sense.

[quote ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]@MareMare

of course she didn't
she said "I'm weird, aren't I?"
she knows she is BU.
she was told she is BU

As Joey would say this whole thread is like a cow's opinion 🤣[/quote]
Let’s see. The OP also says ‘I’m asking as I want to see who admits to doing similar’… there’s definitely lots out there’, ‘’Lots more do this than they’ll admit’, I think people aren’t being honest here’, and suggesting other people who do it are keeping schtum in case they ‘get pounced on’. So I think it’s pretty obvious she was in fact expecting a chorus of other people chiming in with adorable tales of dressing their toddler as Little Lord Fauntleroy for tea at Fortnum and Mason, yes.

Wow. She's a child, not a photographic prop.

My Dd doesn’t get any messages, she just wears clothes and that’s that

Very naive and potentially dangerous statement right there. I suggest that, if nothing else, you really, really look at your understanding of how YOUR actions affect your child whether you want them to or not.

Sorry op but it is a bit odd. I love kids clothes too, they're adorable. But I actually don't find they wear quickly, they still look pretty good even when grown out of as they grow so quick.

@MareMare

OP, did you genuinely think everyone bought their three year olds a new outfit for every play date, and matched the outfit to the destination (long, white floaty dress for a playdate at the Taj Mahal, Breton and beret to play with French toddler, leopard skin for a zoo trip etc ) so the resultant Instagram snaps garnered enough admiring likes, but we just weren’t admitting to it?

😂.

@MareMare

OP, did you genuinely think everyone bought their three year olds a new outfit for every play date, and matched the outfit to the destination (long, white floaty dress for a playdate at the Taj Mahal, Breton and beret to play with French toddler, leopard skin for a zoo trip etc ) so the resultant Instagram snaps garnered enough admiring likes, but we just weren’t admitting to it?

Dead 🤣🤣

@namechangetheworld

Ugh, lots of vile responses as usual. I don't see the issue if you can afford it, but I love buying clothes for my children too. Lots of people like their children to look nice, it's hardly the crime of the century. And I'm sure many of the people bleating about what a waste it is are happy to buy takeaways and coffee, which is a tremendous waste of money. Different people have different priorities.

It's not about a waste of money, @namechangetheworld. Everyone can spend their cash how they wish.

The two main issues I have with it are:

1. She is teaching her DD that the MOST important thing is how she looks, even if she claims she's not.
2. Consumption - fast fashion, waste in terms of resources used and treating clothing as disposable, just pass it on, never think about how it was made in the first place.

Has everyone forgotten that we’ve all been living through a pandemic for the last 18 months? Maybe the OP has found something fun she likes to do to take her mind off it, or because she’s bored? If I were interested in photography I might do the same thing. You’ve all been so harsh.

@Summertimelostitsshine it's odd but not crazy and why not? You sound like a fun person. I love buying my kids new clothes and dressing them up. My daughter is 5 so hopefully I'll get a few more years.

I have never done this. None of my friends have done this. It’s not normal, no. I would have a long think about why this matters to you so much. Are you fulfilled in other areas, like work/ family/ relationships. If you are interested in aesthetics and photography, great but don’t involve your kids in it. Do an evening class or a degree. As she gets older your daughter WILL start to pick up on how much you care about appearances and I can’t see it ending well at all for her mental health.

I used to love dressing my baby boys, still take an interest in their fashion choices now and they are both in their twenties! Enjoy op as you say it wont be long before she is choosing her own stuff.

Provided she wears the outfits at home and for other things I don’t see the problem in getting special outfits for special days out. I take it she’s comfortable and they’re weather appropriate?

Dressing kids before they start making their own clothing choices can be fun. I used to buy and sell secondhand a lot, keeps it eco friendly.

Make the most of it before she develops a passion for unicorns or polka dots and refuses to wear anything else 😂

@Minionbums

Has everyone forgotten that we’ve all been living through a pandemic for the last 18 months? Maybe the OP has found something fun she likes to do to take her mind off it, or because she’s bored? If I were interested in photography I might do the same thing. You’ve all been so harsh.

Holy shit, I'm really pleased you reminded us all about covid! It had completely slipped my mind...

Just following on from the whole "oh you all must be jealous and ugly" type comments, I used to always take great pride in looking put together. Hair always washed and styled, makeup to cover blemishes/enhance features, clothes which were flattering etc. My mam and grandma have always been very keen on this and drilled it in to me from a young age.
Since covid I've completely relaxed and will happily wear joggers and t-shirts, leave my hair, go makeup free etc and honestly, its been an amazing change for me. I still do make some effort but the freedom that comes with not feeling like you have to make an effort every time you go out for coffee or meet your friend for a walk is amazing.

I wish I had learned this year's ago, could have saved myself a lot of time and money on clothes and makeup.

She is teaching her DD that the MOST important thing is how she looks, even if she claims she's not.

Where on earth did you see that? No need to project.

I am so bored of the pretence that your looks don't matter or are something you should be ashamed of. About time we accept that our looks matter just as much as anything else, and you can be smart, successful AND looking or at least feeling great.

The ridiculous "dumb blond" "pretty face no brain" stereotypes are so outdated and sexists, haven't we moved on yet?

Or are people so unsure of their own looks they will forever be bitter and abusive toward others?

What am I reading?
Matching kids clothes to their surroundings??

When we were kids Mum made me and my sister dresses out of the left over bedspread fabric.
When we went into the bedroom we magically disappeared like camouflaged chameleons.
Clearly 45 years ahead of the curve there.

tbh Rambo's mum did the same

ZingDrama nicely done!