To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

I'll be making the municipal wash house look a little less drab by lounging against the wall in my red velvet party dress

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I hope your mower is aesthetically pleasing.

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@grapewine It's not just disagreement though is it, a lot of the responses are really personal, OTT and yes, hateful. Anything that's to do with looks, even something harmless like people taking pics of their DD or putting a headband on their baby or whatever, people on here have really extreme reactions to that, like the accusations about using the child as a prop or treating her like a doll. I imagine the posters saying this think that they're taking some clever feminist stance but it just makes them sound deranged.

Yes, you are weird but relatively harmlessly so, if you discount the environmental impact of buying lots of cheap clothes.

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Oh well that's ok then, glad I haven't hit a nerve. It does make you sound a bit unhinged though, that you have such a strong reaction to something as innocuous as someone wanting their child to look nice.

A long as you don't buy more than you can afford and you're not binning clothes for no reason, it seems daft but harmless

Unless you pass this insta life barometer on to her - that's not healthy for a child

Wow. I do like dressing DS up, but ALL of his clothes are second hand, so it doesn't feel like a waste.

I think what you're doing is a little odd, to be honest.

No.

No no no.

No one here has had an extreme reaction to a hairband on a baby. So let's not make that up, or imply that's what anyone's suggesting.

People are reacting in quite a normal way to "purchasing a new outfit for a child for every play date in order that they coordinate with their surroundings, so I can post it on Instagram"

That, is very much not putting a hairband on a baby. Or anything like it.

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

zing

I hope your mower is aesthetically pleasing.

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it's green of course.

one must be fully colour coordinated for all occasions

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@ReluctantNomad29 are you genuinely incapable of seeing the difference?

People are appalled. At the message it sends to her daughter. And the fast fashion ethic for the planet. And you classify those things as unhinged. More than one lot of weird going on here...

@TwinsAndTrifle And? It makes the OP happy, she can afford it, no one's been harmed in the process. You sound extremely bitter.

@TwinsAndTrifle

No dear. You haven't hit a nerve.

The idea that anyone is jealous is merely preposterous and PP was highlighting exactly that.

Aghast. Bemused. Appalled. All contenders. Jealous. Definitely not. And it's certainly (personally) not because I'm in anyway unattractive, that I find this whole concept so unsavoury.

well if you wanted a reaction, you got one. People get REALLY invested in what strangers choose to dress their kids.

I am not sure why people care that much, but it's refreshing to see someone happy to buy clothes for their kids instead of forever moaning because it is expected to spend a couple of £ on a school jumper and a pair of shoes.

Is your toddler not aesthetically pleasing in her own right?

Ugh, lots of vile responses as usual.
I don't see the issue if you can afford it, but I love buying clothes for my children too. Lots of people like their children to look nice, it's hardly the crime of the century. And I'm sure many of the people bleating about what a waste it is are happy to buy takeaways and coffee, which is a tremendous waste of money. Different people have different priorities.

@kindaclassy

you are more invested than anyone here with your long long replies.

are you sockpuppeting?

@Chikapu

Is your toddler not aesthetically pleasing in her own right?

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You will look grand. I’m assuming you have appropriate footwear for your cocktail dress. 👗

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Well, if you've got the money, but I do wonder about your sense.

What a horrible pile on!
Some of these comments are vicious and way over the top - posters with some serious issues.
It’s not something I would do, but I can see it brings you some enjoyment and there are far worse things you could be doing, so crack on.

Enjoy your little one, @Summertimelostitsshine. They grow so quickly!

You sound extremely bitter.

If finding something incredibly naff, staged, cringey and a bad message to a young child, is bitter, then indeed I am.

She's not harming anyone

Well, if you think a small child learning it's normal to purchase a brand new outfit in order to match the surroundings of something as non eventful as every play date, to provide their parents with the insta shot to upload, is healthy, then we certainly disagree.

God. No wonder it feels like the world is going to pot.

@Soubriquet

Your child isn’t a prop for Instagram. Buy the clothing if you wish to waste your money but your child does not need to be in environment matching clothing just because you think it looks cute

This You're not weird OP, you're very similar to lots of other people right now who are really into getting Instagram traffic.

Please think of the environment and landfill. This is a terrible waste of resources.

Do you have thousands of followers who might get enjoyment from it?
Do you pass everything on sustainably?

I think you’ve had a hard time but it was the white dress and old buildings bit that made you sound a bit of a loon.

I remember when both of mine were newborns having preferred baby grows. I’ve definitely got outfits that are more photo-friendly than others for my daughters. I suspect that is quite common but what you said went a bit further than most. I think a more typical level of effort might be -umm we’re going to the zoo so might choose x outfit because it’s cute and might be photos rather than all the paint stained outfits from nursery.