To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

I'd love to be able to summon Dave Gorman to make a Found Poem out of this thread.

@Bluntness100 Sure you are.
There's nothing wrong with dressing up a child and taking a photo of them, it's what millions of parents do.

[quote ReluctantNomad29]@Bluntness100 Sure you are.
There's nothing wrong with dressing up a child and taking a photo of them, it's what millions of parents do. [/quote]
Gotta love it, told if you don’t like this you must be unattractive and if you say you are attractive you’re told you can’t be, 😂😂😂

@DoucheCanoe You've just proven my point though, by your own admission you're average but you've decided that people who place importance on looking good must be insecure and you feel sorry for them. Sounds like jealousy to me, or at least you like to feel morally superior.

[quote ReluctantNomad29]@Bluntness100 Never said jealous of a 3 year old, I meant jealous in general, of women who place importance on their appearance and look good. They go on about setting a "bad example", as if girls growing up wanting to look pretty is a terrible thing. In my experience it's only unattractive women who have an issue with this. [/quote]
Well that's a twattish comment if ever I read one!

I put emphasis on kindness and achievement and curiosity and friendship and love. I'm not unattractive nor particularly attractive and I'm certainly not jealous of women who prioritise things I'm not that fussed about! I'm afraid you're giving some truth to a stereotype here. And that's not good, BTW.

@TwinsAndTrifle

So...just to be perfectly clear.... OP is doing exactly the same as the future Queen taking pictures of the future King as royals in the public eye.

Have my first

Give us a break with your ridiculous

The days of the Gram and the Pin
An aesthetic mum longed to star in
An ancient old pile
A child with a smile
And voila - an ethereal urchin.

The buying of outfits was flaunted
You will find the OP was not daunted
The dress was the test
The mother knew best
And now features it seems on Most Haunted

Yeah I used to in a way. I used to theme their clothing. I used to buy most of it from Boden (they are great for pretty,themed clothing) so the zoo would get wild animal themed, Halloween would have Halloween theme,Christmas she would wear beautiful Robin dresses etc etc.
I loved it...then they got to about age 5 and wanted to choose their own stuff 🙈🤣

@Nohomemadecandles There's not been much love and kindness on this thread though, has there.
Calling people "twattish" isn't exactly kind either.

[quote ReluctantNomad29]@Nohomemadecandles There's not been much love and kindness on this thread though, has there.
Calling people "twattish" isn't exactly kind either. [/quote]
I said your comment calling people unattractive and jealous was twattish. It is twattish.

If you don't want to appear unpleasant stop saying unpleasant things that judge people's perceived attractiveness on how happy they are to put their kids on insta. Honestly, you're doing yourself no favours.

@Nohomemadecandles My comment about jealousy was probably the least unpleasant one out of all the truly nasty ones on the thread. It was a general observation, I didn't aim it at anyone in particular until I got jumped on by people who probably recognised themselves in what I was saying.
Like you, it seems. Otherwise why would you be all be so triggered.
Your tone is very condescending for someone espousing values like friendship, love and kindness.

There's nothing wrong with dressing up a child and taking a photo of them, it's what millions of parents do.

Why are you pretending this is what OP is doing? She's buying a new outfit to coordinate with the background of every play date she attends for the purpose of creating the "right" look on Instagram.

What millions of parents do, is not that. We buy a Christmas dress for Christmas perhaps. We don't go out to source the perfect new outfit to coordinate with Starbucks wallpaper solely so our three year old looks more "aesthetically pleasing" on their parents Instagram when she is made to pose in said Starbucks.

And if we point out how awful this is for many reasons, we are of course jealous, unhinged, and definitely unattractive. Of course.

It's most bemusing to watch one particular poster thinking they're "hitting nerves" and "triggering people.". When it's so clear to everyone else that neither is the case.

And @Bluntness100 glad to hear you're a doll too, I used to model, made the bulk of my money, literally from my appearance. In late 30s now, but still good for my age. Can't take any credit, lucky genes that's all. But I must be lying too eh because only unattractive people don't agree with OPs behaviour.

@TwinsAndTrifle That isn't what's happening though. She goes on play dates twice a month and buys new outfits for those, which she re-uses and gives away. She likes to co-ordinate them to the setting, so what. Maybe a bit weird, but hardly the worst parenting fail that people are making it out to be.
I don't think the OP has even mentioned Starbucks and she's made it clear she doesn't make her daughter pose, but takes natural shots. They then go on Insta, like what hundreds of others parents do.
You've just made up a whole narrative that doesn't exist.

I buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos

For example if we are going to an old building I put her in a long white dress so we can get stunning photos

It was only when the extreme wastage was pointed out, that she came out with her generous charity donations. And as other PP have noted, she's contradicted herself quite a lot.

People aren't deranged because of the strong responses. This is the genuine reaction to something that very much is not what millions of parents do, for many reasons, non of them unhinged.

@TwinsAndTrifle Clearly triggered you though, you're the one who replied with snark to my post, which wasn't actually addressed to you.
If it's true that you were a model then your rants at the OP are extremely hypocritical, and yes, a little unhinged, to be so angry at a stranger's shopping habits.
Anyway I'm off to bed, MN has reached peak weirdness tonight.

This whole thread is absolutely bonkers.

"clearly triggered me" you haven't triggered anyone dear. Many are exasperated as this thread flies spectacularly over your head, but it appears you can't understand despite many of our efforts. Don't mistake that for thinking you've made any kind of clever or notable point that's triggering people. You simply haven't. Annoyed them with your level of understanding, definitely. That's annoyance you're seeing.

And sadly, you can't seemingly bear that Bluntness is an attractive woman, or I am an ex model. There's no ifs or buts. I am. And still have great looks. Again, through zero talent other than luck. I'm not sure where this inability to accept attractive women think you're spouting absolute waffle stems from, but I hope you get through it.

What a strange person you are.

@TwinsAndTrifle. Only a very unattractive women would have to keep telling themselves how gorgeous and perfect they are. If you want to go low there's always someone else who'll go lower.

@DroopyClematis

This whole thread is absolutely bonkers.

It really is.

That's a bizarre thing to say as well.

I'm seen as very attractive. On the basis I did many make up campaigns, so was literally paid for what my face looked like. And I don't "tell myself" I don't need too, why would I? I'm quite aware of what my own reflection looks like.

So no, not only an unattractive woman would say she was attractive. But two attractive women have commented on this thread to point out that they are, purely because one poster was claiming everyone that didn't like what OP was doing must be jealous and unattractive.

I didn't say I was gorgeous and perfect. Don't project that thanks

And I’m the weird one here 🤣 ok 👍

Well... yes

You've literally got a thread of 95% of people giving a variety of reasons as to why they feel it is so wrong.

But 5% aren't. So swings and roundabouts eh.

@TwinsandtriffleDo you think you're the only gorgeous looking women floating around. There's millions out there. Also to flip it the other way people can't help being unattractive either.

Ummmm. How did you possibly understand what I just wrote, as "I think I'm the only attractive person in the world".

If you've misread it that badly, it's sort of pointless responding.