To buy a new outfit for every play date?

[Summertimelostitsshine]

For my toddler Dd? Nothing fancy, just something lovely from baby Zara, for example.
I also sort of buy her new outfits to match places/the colours where we are going, to look aesthetically pleasing in Instagram photos etc..I’m weird, aren’t I 😬

@TwinsAndTrifle
Someone likes different things to you, shock horror! Some people enjoy fashion and buying new outfits for different occasions, how is that a bad message. So what if it's "only" for a play date.
OP has said she buys new clothes twice a month and then re-uses them, that doesn't sound excessive.
Lots of people enjoy Insta and like to post photos of their child, surely this isn't a shock to anyone even vaguely in step with the modern world.

[quote ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]@kindaclassy

you are more invested than anyone here with your long long replies.

are you sockpuppeting?[/quote]
I am not. As painful as it sounds to you, not everybody agrees with you.

HTH.

@TwinsAndTrifle

You sound extremely bitter.

If finding something incredibly naff, staged, cringey and a bad message to a young child, is bitter, then indeed I am.

She's not harming anyone

Well, if you think a small child learning it's normal to purchase a brand new outfit in order to match the surroundings of something as non eventful as every play date, to provide their parents with the insta shot to upload, is healthy, then we certainly disagree.

It's funny how everybody is in awe when Kate Middleton does it, with tax payer money no less, but when it's a random people got into such an angry state.

It's funny how everybody is in awe when Kate Middleton does it, with tax payer money no less, but when it's a random people got into such an angry state.

Actually I find the way the royal kidlets are trussed up and wheeled out to perform pretty sad. . .

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My mum used to dress me and my sister up long before Instagram. Probably not to the same extent (we were very working class and broke) but I remember having special hand me down outfits that we could only wear on special occasions or when going somewhere out of the neighbourhood where we might be seen/ judged.

At your DD's age it's more for you then her but why not save a bit of the money and treat yourself to something lovely? She won't love you any less and you'll get to enjoy the confidence that comes with wearing something new.

Probably jealousy because they don't look good themselves

You nailed it. Myself and everyone else is jealous of a three year old whose mother dresses them up like a doll and posts pics of them on Instagram ans says she herself is a mess.. Yup you got us. We are literally writhing in envy,

So...just to be perfectly clear.... OP is doing exactly the same as the future Queen taking pictures of the future King as royals in the public eye.

Have my first

I've actually done some of this.
I don't buy an outfit especially but, for example, I've dressed mine in a strawberry outfit for strawberry picking and a tiger outfit for the zoo.
I think it's more common in real life. I know someone who recently got gorgeous (natural) pictures of her daughters wearing yellow dresses in a sunflower farm.

@MargosKaftan that was a kind and wise response and one I'm afraid I couldn't manage for the OP. You're right about the book.

@Bluntness100

Probably jealousy because they don't look good themselves

You nailed it. Myself and everyone else is jealous of a three year old whose mother dresses them up like a doll and posts pics of them on Instagram ans says she herself is a mess.. Yup you got us. We are literally writhing in envy,

I think we need to match what exact colour of envious green we are wearing.

HashTagFiftyShadesOfGreen

Fucking hell!
All this abuse and personal attacks on the OP’s parenting all because she like to dress her little girl in something nice on days out?

What’s funny though is flitting about a stately home in a long white dress is one of my 11 year old daughter’s life goals. She says she wants to pretend she’s Lizzy Bennet. Damn right I’ll be there with a camera when she does!

@Bluntness100 Never said jealous of a 3 year old, I meant jealous in general, of women who place importance on their appearance and look good. They go on about setting a "bad example", as if girls growing up wanting to look pretty is a terrible thing. In my experience it's only unattractive women who have an issue with this.

I feel thoroughly depressed by your OP. Have you not heard about the climate crisis? Watch Stacey Dooley’s programme on the impact of the fashion industry. Then decide if your DD will thank you when she is an adult living in a world where food is scarce and the world is a more frightening and insecure place than we can even imagine in our spoiled western minds. Please consider your actions and the impact they have.

Not to mention the message it sends to your DD about how her worth is judged.

Primark rocks

[quote ReluctantNomad29]@Bluntness100 Never said jealous of a 3 year old, I meant jealous in general, of women who place importance on their appearance and look good. They go on about setting a "bad example", as if girls growing up wanting to look pretty is a terrible thing. In my experience it's only unattractive women who have an issue with this. [/quote]
You haven’t forgotten this is a poster who said she’s given up on her own looks because she was more interested in baby clothes?

Frankly, throwing “you’re just jealous” into any debate is so puerile and desperate that you might as well just wave a white flag and announce “I have no sensible remark. Playground jibes only beyond this point”.

@ReluctantNomad29 who decides what an "unattractive woman" is?

I've never been called ugly nor do I consider myself unattractive (I'm absolutely average by most standards I would think) and certainly don't find that I'm jealous of others who place importance in their looks. In my experience people who obsess about this are often very insecure. If anything I feel sorry for them.

I'm comfortable in myself to wear what I like - if it's appropriate to the environment then who cares?

Stop wasting your money, and stop using your child as an Instagram prop.

Put the money you'll save into a university or travel fund for her instead.

Your child will thank you for not turning her into a clothes horse and also for the dosh.

@RickiTarr

yup, no sensible remark.
or sensible Primark

Never said jealous of a 3 year old, I meant jealous in general, of women who place importance on their appearance and look good. They go on about setting a "bad example", as if girls growing up wanting to look pretty is a terrible thing. In my experience it's only unattractive women who have an issue with this.

Growing up and looking beautiful is fine. And I say this as someone who used to be okay looking before I got my features changed.

Placing importance on the perfect shot, the perfect image, the perfect face is not a good thing. You just have to look at all the Insta shots of women who have dramatically altered their appearance when I’m sure they would have been much more beautiful before.

We are so much more than our looks.

And yes, I say that as an unattractive person who lives very much in the shadows these days.

I don’t say it out of jealousy. I say it out of concern.

A mother buys her child new clothes twice a month. Clothes that are worn again and again. Shock horror, yet is some how deserving of all this hatred?
Abysmal comments by some of you.

This post is insane, OP I do this with my son, albeit he doesn’t go on many play dates at all but they have a few dress down days at his school nursery and I will buy an outfit each time, absolutely do not see the problem with this. Like you said they’re worn loads and then passed down to friends and family or put away for any future children if I’m lucky enough to have them.

I can’t understand in the slightest how any of it makes you a bad mother or using your child it’s hilarious how some of these people think. Keep doing it I bet she looks adorable and I bet the people getting these clothes passed down to them are also extremely grateful!!

[quote ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]@RickiTarr

yup, no sensible remark.
or sensible Primark[/quote]

Weird is just one word for it. There are many others.

[quote ReluctantNomad29]@Bluntness100 Never said jealous of a 3 year old, I meant jealous in general, of women who place importance on their appearance and look good. They go on about setting a "bad example", as if girls growing up wanting to look pretty is a terrible thing. In my experience it's only unattractive women who have an issue with this. [/quote]
Um well without boasting I am friggen attractive. And I’m very fit and slim. So you lucked out this time 😃

The reason you got this so wrong is because this isn’t about the op looking good. Or being attractive, it’s about her dressing her small daughter uo like a doll and taking her pic.

The issue is it’s about the child not the mother.