As a wife, would I annoy you?

[CanIBeACurlyGirl]

DH and I work FT. He is a senior manager and I work in demtia care. He works Mon - Fri and I'm shift working.

I'm working all weekend, I love my Friday night TV and I like to engage with the tv. Probably a running commentary in his eyes. His days are filed with zoom calls etc mine aren't so I really enjoy my soaps and talk through them/with them.

He has one eye on the tv and another on his iPad watching sport. I've been told off for engaging and talking.

AIBU?

That would be highly annoying, sorry Op.

I don’t think I could sit in the same room as you tbh. You’d do my head in.

DH mutes the adverts and that gets on my nerves. You would be a whole new level.

My DH used to do it. Opening scene: woman sitting on chair, man walks in…‘who’s he?? Is she his wife? Is that a hotel they’re in? Now…he doesn’t 🤔

@CanIBeACurlyGirl My husband does this. The only thing that prevents me from whacking him around the head with a frying pan and buying him under the patio is that I love him and I am sure I do things to annoy him.

I either pause the TV until he gets the message or I ask him how to turn off the husband commentary in the settings. Either one gets the message across and he stops.

YABU to call them your soaps. They are not only yours.

Oh that'd drive me mad.Sorry OP. I like to sit quietly if we're watching tv.

DH talks when I'm trying to watch something sometimes. He'll randomly start waffling on in the middle of a program about changing our energy supplier or something. I always pause the tv and he says 'it's ok, carry on' and I say 'no, I'm watching this what is it you want to say?'. Then he usually says 'oh don't worry I'll go through it with you later!'

Argh then why say it at all!

He also randomly talks to me about mundane things when I'm in bed trying to read my book! His favourite topic in bed is money - what savings accounts he's been looking at or what 0% deals he's seen. Fine, we need to discuss these things but not when I'm lying in bed switched off to the world with a good book.

I'm surprised he's not under the patio. Good job he has lots of redeeming features

Sorry yes, that sounds incredibly annoying 😬

Oh god, it'd drive me nuts, someone sitting yattering away at the tv?

You sound extremely irritating

OP didn't say she chatters endlessly. She said she's an active viewer, not slumped passively in front of the show. Why not? It's normal for sports viewers! And some italian opera audiences 😆 Come and marry me, all my fellow active viewers! You are perfectly fine wives!

Yes, very annoying

I was thinking about this (and smiling to myself). I'm a fairly quiet and serious person but just occasionally there would be something on TV - maybe I had watched it before and suggested husband watched it - and I jabbered away, giving commentary.

One memory I have is of doing this and my husband going, "Mmmm mmm"; I went out into the kitchen to make coffee or something for us and could hear him still going "Mmm mmm", when I returned he continued that for a few minutes, looking at the television. It might not sound funny but it was funny at the time.

t so I really enjoy my soaps and talk through them/with them

You watch soap operas the whole of every Friday night and talk at them about them...to no-one?
Could you be any more annoying?

It would irritate me

I’m wondering if people are finding commenting as annoying when it’s about football.

It’s just that I’ve never met a guy watching football in silence and wo a running commentary.

Yes, my DH says it is annoying when I do it. Easy to break the habit and learn to enjoy stony silence.

"I’m wondering if people are finding commenting as annoying when it’s about football"

Yes.

@NotAllTheOnesWhoWanderAreLost

I’m wondering if people are finding commenting as annoying when it’s about football.

It’s just that I’ve never met a guy watching football in silence and wo a running commentary.

There is difference between immersive experience with sports and with, I don't know, Coronation street😁 I am no football fan, but I am vocal with ice hockey. Tbf I am also vocal with mockbusters but that's because it feels right as it's bit of a fun. Only when company is into it though otherwise I keep shush

Only time I talk to the TV is if I'm egging on my favourite sports team/person. Someone constantly chatting whilst watching normal TV would drive me demented.

17YO DSS does this and it drives me and DP insane.

He asks questions and if we reply (which we would, with it being a question) he says oh I wasn't talking to you. Well who the hell were you talking to then?!

I had a visiting relative do the asking questions throughout thing. In response to the tenth question I said "I don't know the answer because you talked over that bit!"

Sorry, thought you were talking to him. Yes, it I were co watching with you I would be really annoyed. Sorry!

17YO DSS does this and it drives me and DP insane.

I was going to say I'm seriously impressed that you have a 17 yo that still talks to you

Then I spotted this...

He asks questions and if we reply (which we would, with it being a question) he says oh I wasn't talking to you. Well who the hell were you talking to then?!

We barely see our slightly older DD as she either out, or holed up in her room. If we occasionally run into her in the kitchen, that's exactly the sort of conversation we have with her too 😂

You have a teen. They are another species at times 🥴😂

Good evening, the very annoying wife here

I've had a very pleasant evening with my teen who equally talks as much as I do, we are watching a jump scare film, incorrectly guessing the plot at the same time without replying to each other.

To clarify, I don't expect DH to reply to me because I'm not talking to him (smile)

He is in the man cave watching footie with his friend and apart from goal cheers they are silent - weirdos

That’s a great update!!! Glad you had a good evening with likeminded teen.