As a wife, would I annoy you?

[CanIBeACurlyGirl]

DH and I work FT. He is a senior manager and I work in demtia care. He works Mon - Fri and I'm shift working.

I'm working all weekend, I love my Friday night TV and I like to engage with the tv. Probably a running commentary in his eyes. His days are filed with zoom calls etc mine aren't so I really enjoy my soaps and talk through them/with them.

He has one eye on the tv and another on his iPad watching sport. I've been told off for engaging and talking.

AIBU?

@CanIBeACurlyGirl PLEASE come and tell us you don't ever do this in the theatre or in the cinema ?

It’s his house too, why shouldn’t he sit in the living room? Why does the person watching TV have priority? I don’t really watch TV at all whereas DH does so I’d be a bit pissed off to have to always sit in another room.

It's once a week. It's OP's house too, she should be able to enjoy her show the way she likes, without someone tutting and complaining. He can sit in peace all the other nights she's working

@SilverRoe

I’d find you extremely annoying. But I also agree it’s a bit depressing that your weekly highlight seems to be chattering at soaps? Is that really what you enjoy and how you relax and express yourself?

Pray tell oh wise one, teach me your ways, how do the landed gentry enjoy themselves these days?

But why would you do that?

I don't get the enjoyment of having a compulsion to say your thoughts out loud......?

Couldn’t you think your thoughts very loudly in your head?

@MareMare

Couldn’t you think your thoughts very loudly in your head?

Now that's a phrase all too many of us have had at uttered at times!

@CanIBeACurlyGirl

I do tend to go on and on... It's my escape from work.

You've hit the nail on the head. We all have different ways of switching off from stress. I need complete silence to watch TV and zone out from everything else, even if I'm not paying a lot of attention to it. I love when I get the opportunity to watch it in another room so I can just be.

Love love love commentating on the TV. So do my kids (because that’s how I’ve raised them ). Drives hubby mad who hates TV.
Have horribly stressful job in finance and it’s how I relax.
I’m with you all the way! Would love to watch TV with you!

Wouldn’t bother me, but as a nerd I have a habit of finishing the sentences of the narrators on documentaries and also loudly declaring the outcomes in advance of murder mysteries and the like. I don’t really chat to soap characters but I do love to offer advice and guidance to people on reality TV. DP isn’t bothered , he either laughs along or zones out and plays his game. He does lots of irritating things I overlook though because he’s adorable and I assume it’s a mutual thing with my TV interaction . You sound great fun though and I’d probably enjoy a very noisy tv evening with you . What do you watch?

That would drive me up the wall. I couldn't be in the same room as that. To be honest, it's kind of inconsiderate if he just wants some peace and quiet after a long week.
Maybe TV in separate rooms?

I think you sound lovely! Watching tv with someone means you’re engaging in the same hobby in the same room, and if he’s detached and not engaging with you, I’m not surprised you’re talking to the tele!! Can you find stuff you like to watch together - crime dramas, box sets, something that’s really absorbing, or comedies that will completely lift him off the iPad. I’d hate to be sat beside someone who’s glued to a work device rather than sharing in the watching experience. Half of the fun watching Bake Off/Sewing Bee is the ‘oh no!’ exclamations; half the fun of quiz shows is shouting out what you know (in my house anyway!)

So you're talking at him instead of with him. I really, really hate it when people do that. Why would you do it when you know he doesn't like it?

Would drive me to the brink of insanity

You'd definitely be under a patio by now. Sorry.

Tellyshouting is different. Unreasonable irritation at someone on TV who is being a twat is a bonding activity.

You’d be under a patio in my new zen Japanese rock garden. Somewhere near my meditation throne. 🤫

I couldn't be in the same room as you. Sorry.

on a side note...

does anybody know a stockist for sound proof paving stones?

I think you sound like fun. My family always talked about and talked back to TV programmes. Why doesn't your husband join in? What a killjoy!

I mean this does sound annoying...

but I can't help wondering whether he just doesn't really engage with you and is quite boring. Maybe at some level you're just trying to get a reaction out of him? Wouldn't you rather be with someone a bit more animated?

My comments bother him a lot, I dread watching celeb gogglebox tomorrow...

If he’s not watching what you’re watching, can’t he bog off to another room? If you’ve offered him earphones and he’s still moaning that’s on him.

Watch your TV separately from him. Absolutely no reason why you shouldn’t enjoy your stuff your way. He can go elsewhere.

If you also talk through a shared TV programme that’s different…

So annoying.

does anybody know a stockist for sound proof paving stones?

I hope not, because given my general tolerance level, the garden would be very, very lumpy.

It’s possible to be a good person, but also hugely annoying. Sounds like that you are one of those. You would have me screaming. It is definitely you not your DH that needs to modify the behaviour. Or go somewhere else to watch TV.

Unless it's a quizzes I'd be extremely annoyed if I was watching something and you talked through it.

I live alone, but wouldn't like anyone chattering too much whilst watching tv... Those so called celebrities on celebrity Goggle box do my head in, they can't stop talking, scoffing food and are really over the top with all their reactions to programmes.