Dp night out, I don't want him to go

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NC for this as I am a regular poster.

Dp has a night out planned for Saturday.

A few things are bugging me,

We have so much extra to pay for this month and just simply cannot afford it.

His friends are all talking about "getting the pussy" "going to lap dancing clubs".

He will be out until god knows what time and expect me to pick him up, I have a child.

Now I am in no way going to tell him "he's not going"

But what can I do? He will still go anyway no matter what I say!

I wish he would have to isolate for 10 days .

I simply cannot be bothered with all the arguing about it.

He will just say we will get by with money "we always do". He honestly has an answer for everything.

Sorry to hear you're struggling. It is still all new and raw so it's ok to not be ok. If he is coming to see DD it's ok to tell him he has to take her somewhere and not be in the house with you. Hand her over at the door ready to go out.

Even if he has someone else you know how shit he is, how much he actually doesn't care about someone once they call out his bullshit. He is not a nice person.

It sounds trite but use the time DD is with her dad to focus on yourself. Meditate/relaxing bath/read a book or watch a film. Or work on your self-esteem, find resources for yourself to see how much you deserve to be treated well.

It gets easier, we've all gone through heartbreak and it's horrible but you just have to keep pushing through it and reminding yourself that you are better off without the hassle and lack of respect he brought to the table.