AIBU to think you don't change your baby's nappy on a cafe table?

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This isn't a reverse before I start. Just been for coffee with a friend of mine and a couple of local mums I'd not met before. We were in a cafe with baby change facilities and yet after we'd finished our food, she moved the plates to one side, plonked the baby on a blanket and changed her nappy on the table....while we were still drinking our coffee!

AIBU for thinking that's gross? If there wasn't a baby change facility it might be different although I still think doing it like this would be gross, but there was and it was open as I used it for DS.

I mentioned it to my friend on the way back and she said she'd done it before too because it was easier. She thought it was hilarious that I was so grossed out by it.

So AIBU?

Probably not.

@Tehmina23

I mean if you were incontinent you wouldn't change your Tena lady in public in a cafe should the loo be taken... so why change a baby's nappy in a cafe in public??

Not everyone wants to see or smell or eat near the wet shitty nappy & have a baby's bare bum looking at them yuck!

Don't give the idiots ideas. They will actually start doing that, they are so lazy and just haven't thought of it.

@Somethingsnappy - yes it's not very nice changing a baby on a toilet floor but if you have a changing mat, the baby will be fine.

Nothing excuses changing a baby in a table where people eat. Nothing.

@MsHedgehog

I was on a flight to Turkey once when a woman wanted to change her baby’s nappy on the floor of the galley. The air hostess wouldn’t let her, saying that’s where they prepare food, and the woman and her husband (both British) both had a massive go at the air host, leaving her in tears. The man even had the audacity to say he knows the head of the airline and will report her, which, considering who he was and where he worked, was very possible. Poor woman.

But that does make me ask, where do you change a baby’s nappy on a plane (asked by a FTM to a 3 month old who is yet to travel anywhere!).

Be very careful of the baby change in the toilets ! DS was taken ill with amoebic dysentery not long after a flight to Africa. He was four months and breast fed. The only conclusion we could draw was that he had touched something in the toilet and then sucked his fingers ☹️

@ButtercupBlue

I've changed a nappy on a table in a softplay centre (when I had a toddler and baby) but personally wouldn't do it in a proper café.

Just by interest why didn’t you use the baby change?

Changing a nappy where people eat I disgusting whether it's on a table or not.

What's wrong with mums, why can't they change across their knee like everyone did when it was all terry squares?

I have a very large and active toddler who hates nappy changes but he still goes over my knee for every change regardless of where we are.

If there a changing facility or toilet nearby I'll use that but otherwise I'll just find somewhere I can sit well away from others and put him over my knee.

He doesn't like it but it's the easiest way and he knows every change gets done the same way So I'll continue as long as he needs nappies!

So grim!!

Curious here: A few people have referred to changing their baby in the boot of their car as something they feel bad about too. Is it bad? Seems very sensible to me. If you look at what someone's doing while rummaging in the boot of their own car, and you don't like it, surely that's tough (literally) sh*t and you shouldn'thave looked?

Honestly, on a mat with a pee, rather than a poo, I wouldn’t bat an eyelid. I’m not from the UK so maybe there is a different culture where I’m from.

I have never seen, or even heard of that being done. It's disgusting and I can't believe there are people who think it's okay. What is wrong with modern parents? If it had been my cafe she would have been banned.

A mother afew rows in front of us changed her baby in the seat mid air (9 hour flight) rather that go to the bathroom. 🤢 one of the cabin crew did ask her rather sternly not to do that again

It’s really disgusting to change a baby on a cafe table. What’s with all these people throwing nappies out the window as well?!

But if it’s just wee surely it can wait? No, no nappies regardless of contents should be changed on a surface where people eat. It’s basic hygiene! I wouldn’t breastfeed or eat in a toilet so don’t change nappies at a table.

Outside of the mn echo chamber I assure you that IRL I know plenty of others who have or would do this.

Mumsnet has hundreds of thousands of users - and 95% of them are saying changing your baby on a table people eat off is grim. Because it is.

People in your - by comparison - absolutely tiny, real life bubble may well do this, but that does not make it OK.

Just know, with cast iron certainty, that the next time you or one of your friends changes your baby on a table, people are judging you as a clueless feral.

If you don’t want people doing this, there’s a very simple solution that involves having a bit of consideration, not only for others around you, but also your own baby.

I'm surprised a restaurant owner or other customers would voice their objections.

Surely a mum can change a 4mth in a toilet I necessary, I have a very large toddler who hates nappy changes but i can still manage him anywhere I can sit down. I just find somewhere in private and get on with it.

@Thewiseoneincognito

Hideous. Some people were clearly dragged up.

THIS