AIBU to think you don't change your baby's nappy on a cafe table?

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This isn't a reverse before I start. Just been for coffee with a friend of mine and a couple of local mums I'd not met before. We were in a cafe with baby change facilities and yet after we'd finished our food, she moved the plates to one side, plonked the baby on a blanket and changed her nappy on the table....while we were still drinking our coffee!

AIBU for thinking that's gross? If there wasn't a baby change facility it might be different although I still think doing it like this would be gross, but there was and it was open as I used it for DS.

I mentioned it to my friend on the way back and she said she'd done it before too because it was easier. She thought it was hilarious that I was so grossed out by it.

So AIBU?

I was at a wedding in Singapore and at the table next to us they changed the baby's nappy.I was gobsmacked!

uegh its really really bad!!!
I am not a complain to the manager type person but if I was in a cafe and the mum beside me did this I would definitely ask to speak to the manager!!!

Some toilets with baby change facilities are vile. But I still wouldn’t change on the table. If changing on a table in a public place is the only option she allows herself, then she shouldn’t go out.

I've changed a nappy on a table in a softplay centre (when I had a toddler and baby) but personally wouldn't do it in a proper café.

children are far more likely to put their food on the actual table than adults in a "proper cafe"!

I can't believe someone has come on this thread to defend this behaviour and admit they do it themselves. Utterly grim and disgusting behaviour with no thought for anyone else, just their own convenience.

I’ve luckily never seen this happen before. It’s Ming!

When DS was little I was told off by a fellow member for changing him on a mat on the floor behind the coffee area of our gym. TBH it was just laziness on my part because the changing area was down two flights of stairs and I CBA. I took the hint and used the facilities provided after that. Perhaps if you'd said something to the mum you might have had the same result.

I can’t believe the cafe allowed this. Was it a chain by any chance? They are usually too scared to say anything because of potential bad publicity.

You can change your child in a car trunk or in a stroller or even on the grass. Again, changing a wet diaper on a blanket on the table may seem less offensive but we've all seen as parents, kids peeing in midst of a change or have explosive poop-then what? A blanket is not waterproof

Faecal-oral route people. Totally unacceptable.

It’s disgusting and lazy to change a baby or toddler on any table when out in public. Just grim. Use the baby change or change on the floor, and ensure you carry a large enough change mat. And preferably change away from other people.

Not sure why a table in a soft play is more acceptable than a cafe - both are used for eating and drinking.

I've seen someone do it in a softplay, and it did indeed gross me out. Also seen it in cafés and a McDonalds. It's horrible and I wish people wouldn't do it.

Oooh dirty bitch!

@2021DNA

I can’t believe the cafe allowed this. Was it a chain by any chance? They are usually too scared to say anything because of potential bad publicity.

Not just chains. Parents and their facebook are fucking dangerous when someone suggests they are doing something they shouldn't.

If there's a baby change, then you use that. Surely? That said, my husband has had to change at a cafe table once or twice when he was out on his own with our (at the time) baby and the only baby change facility was in the women's loos.

I work in a pub and I've found a dirty nappy left on a table when I've gone to clear it.
Not even in a nappy bag and the table was right next to the baby changing toilet!
I've also found one left in the beer garden.

It's absolutely disgusting! 🤢
What kind of person thinks that is OK to do? Absolute mingers.

I think it's not just about doing it on a table where people eat and drink but subjecting people nearby to the stink while you are changing the nappy! Totally selfish and gross.

I would have walked out and left.

@WeeWelshWoman

If there's a baby change, then you use that. Surely? That said, my husband has had to change at a cafe table once or twice when he was out on his own with our (at the time) baby and the only baby change facility was in the women's loos.

You never HAVE to change baby on a cafe table! Ever

If a newborn I really wouldn’t mind .. they’re on a blanket. Post Weaning then yes gross

What the fuck is wrong with people?

@WeeWelshWoman

If there's a baby change, then you use that. Surely? That said, my husband has had to change at a cafe table once or twice when he was out on his own with our (at the time) baby and the only baby change facility was in the women's loos.

I would think a quick word with management would give him access for the few moments required, while someone stood at the door. Or go somewhere else?

I think this is atrocious and I'm stunned at the number of people who think it's okay in certain situations or depending how old the baby is. It's not, it's foul.
How on earth could it ever be okay to deal with toileting issues near food?
I'd be appalled if it happened near me when I'd paid for food or drink and wouldn't mind who knew how disgusting I think it is - would have loved to see previous posters brother running after his customers with a dirty nappy in a bowl!

I once changed my baby in the pram because there were no available facilities. It makes me wonder why people feel the need to change on a table - if the baby is small enough to fit on a table then they presumably have a pram with them?

@FeatheredHope

What the fuck is wrong with people?

Everyone working in hospitality asks that question numerous times a week😂

@SchrodingersImmigrant there really wasn't any other option and it's what the staff suggested to my husband when he asked about changing facilities. There wasn't room on the floor of the mens (old building).