AIBU to think you don't change your baby's nappy on a cafe table?

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This isn't a reverse before I start. Just been for coffee with a friend of mine and a couple of local mums I'd not met before. We were in a cafe with baby change facilities and yet after we'd finished our food, she moved the plates to one side, plonked the baby on a blanket and changed her nappy on the table....while we were still drinking our coffee!

AIBU for thinking that's gross? If there wasn't a baby change facility it might be different although I still think doing it like this would be gross, but there was and it was open as I used it for DS.

I mentioned it to my friend on the way back and she said she'd done it before too because it was easier. She thought it was hilarious that I was so grossed out by it.

So AIBU?

My SIL had a habit of changing nappies on the living room floor, in front of a roomful of visitors, because she was too lazy to haul her ass off the sofa. This persisted even when she had to wrestle a strapping three year old to the floor to change a shitty nappy.
She tried the same tactic when visiting us but was advised that there were changing mats etc in the bathroom or the cloakroom. She laughed and said we were ‘posh’, but we persisted.

@Pottedpalm the suggestion of staff was the table when he asked. We even had a long chat about how odd it was. He'd have rather popped to the small, single stall ladies to use the pull down baby change.

Not pleasant!!

I was on a flight to Turkey once when a woman wanted to change her baby’s nappy on the floor of the galley. The air hostess wouldn’t let her, saying that’s where they prepare food, and the woman and her husband (both British) both had a massive go at the air host, leaving her in tears. The man even had the audacity to say he knows the head of the airline and will report her, which, considering who he was and where he worked, was very possible. Poor woman.

But that does make me ask, where do you change a baby’s nappy on a plane (asked by a FTM to a 3 month old who is yet to travel anywhere!).

There is a pull down table in the toilets. It’s not easy but it doable - just remember to put the strap over the baby!

There's usually a pulldown baby change above the toilet. @MsHedgehog

I visited a friend a couple of weeks ago. She'd just had just had a new and extremely expensive kitchen fitted. Our other friend arrived with her 5 week old DS. She walked in, took out the change mat, plonked it on the gleaming granite worktop and proceeded to change him.

It was never mentioned but I was mortified!!

I mean if you were incontinent you wouldn't change your Tena lady in public in a cafe should the loo be taken... so why change a baby's nappy in a cafe in public??

Not everyone wants to see or smell or eat near the wet shitty nappy & have a baby's bare bum looking at them yuck!

My friend once tried to change her baby’s poo nappy on my kitchen floor when we had a group round for lunch. She was quite put out when I directed her to the bathroom where I’d put out a changing mat.

I’ve seen people do it on the tables at soft play and it’s grim. Do it on the floor on a changing mat by all means but not where people put their food.

That is gross - I have seen it done once and it was so unnecessary. When DS was in nappies I once changed his nappy on a toilet floor (he laid on my jacket) as there nowhere else.

Doing on a table where people eat is disgusting

@Sirzy and @WeeWelshWoman Thank you! Good to know!!

Grim. I'd have done it on a floor of the loos. If there wasn't any loos I'd have discreetly done it on the floor behind my chair if desperate. I'd never, ever, do it on a table

Oh and I only mean wee. I would NEVER change a poo inside anywhere other than a loo. I'd sooner do it on the floor outside

Meh, a wet nappy or a poo nappy? I can't get worked up about a wee. Personally some toilets are grim themselves and the baby change looks like you could catch a terrible illness from touching it, let alone putting your baby on it. I actually took my DC out of a shop and changed her nappy outside in street the rain yesterday as she'd down a stinky poo. So you'd all hate me!

It's really disgusting. Parents may think their precious child poops chocolate frosting, but to everyone else it's human shit and no-one wants it near where they are eating.

YANBU - If there's no baby changing room you go in the bogs and make do - not ideal but that's the place for wee and poo - not a place where people are eating.

Just as you shouldn’t be expected to breastfeed a child in the toilets (as nobody should have to eat where people excrete), then you shouldn’t be changing/toileting a child in the restaurant.

Can’t believe anyone would think this was OK.

How old is the baby ?

@WeeWelshWoman

If there's a baby change, then you use that. Surely? That said, my husband has had to change at a cafe table once or twice when he was out on his own with our (at the time) baby and the only baby change facility was in the women's loos.

There are very few baby changes in the mens where I live, I have never used that as an excuse to change my son on a table.

Pure laziness and not caring about others

Jeezo, what kind of animals do you hang out with??

@helpmewiththisnew

Meh, a wet nappy or a poo nappy? I can't get worked up about a wee. Personally some toilets are grim themselves and the baby change looks like you could catch a terrible illness from touching it, let alone putting your baby on it. I actually took my DC out of a shop and changed her nappy outside in street the rain yesterday as she'd down a stinky poo. So you'd all hate me!

Well no, no one would hate you as I doubt there were people sitting drinking and eating in the rain... which is kind of the point of the discussion, you know, changing soiled nappies where people are eating and drinking.

It's disgusting but part of the problem is that some toilets are absolutely vile and there isn't often a separate baby change. You really don't want your little one touching anything at all. It's fine for small babies (I used to bring my own mat to put on top and kept a spray bottle of antibacterial cleaner and a cloth in the nappy bag). I found it quite difficult when my baby got to the crawling and toddling phase as l'd have to spend about 5 minutes scrubbing everything they could touch before sitting them down! Still wouldn't ever have changed them at a table though, but so pleased to be past that stage.

If there are no baby change facilities, you change the baby on the floor in the loo or on a chair or on your lap. NOT ON THE TABLE.